Today, I decided to quit dating. I'm a plus-sized girl and I can’t get a guy to save my life. On dating apps they run for the hills when they see my full body. I even tried dating plus-size guys and even they have standards. I fucking hate society’s “ideal” beauty norms. FML
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Today, I quit dating forever. I’m an overweight girl with glasses. I attempted to put flattering selfies on dating profiles, but the guys run from me or ghost me when I meet them in person. I took a friend’s advice and put honest, full body pics of myself. I got zero messages. None. I give up. FML
Today, I went to a Speed Dating event because the apps just ain’t doing it for me. After a while of talking, the first guy I sat with told me, “You are way too out of shape to have high standards and expectations.” I got up and left the place in tears. This is the world of dating while plus-sized. FML
Today, I came to realize that dating as an overweight girl sucks. I can’t get a guy to commit/stay to save my life. I go on dating apps, and when we exchange photos or meet in person they abandon me. I know that this will change if I lose weight, but is it wrong for me to want to be loved for who I am? FML
Today, I came to terms with the fact that in order to get a boyfriend, I need to slim down. When I put full-body shots on dating apps, I get swiped left on. But when I put headshots, I get matches. And lots of them. But I can’t catfish these dudes. Time to go on a diet and hit the gym. It’s not fair. FML
Today, I realized that I’m undateable because of my weight. I’m 33. My entire life, I’ve always been dated in secret, guys went out with me to make fun of me behind my back, always got cheated on, always get friendzoned, etc. It’s not fair that I have to change my body type to get my chance at happily ever after. FML
Today, I realized how fucked up the dating world is when I noticed girls wanting to be all over me once I lost 65 pounds. This girl who put me in the friendzone three years ago is now wanting to latch onto me. It makes me want to not try because apparently, love is conditional. I quit. FML
Today, I lost all hope of finding a man. I’m gonna be 34 and I can’t get a date to save my life. I was cursed with a facial deformity and 285lbs of weight, making all men run for the hills. All of my younger sisters have got married and started families. FML
Today, I was called fatphobic for rejecting an overweight man who asked me on a date. I don’t know how to force myself to be attracted to fat people. There’s just nothing there. FML
Today, a guy I was into and who denied me because he “saw me as a friend only” began to date another girl. I asked him, “Why her and not me?” and he wouldn’t tell me. After pestering him, he finally caved in, saying, “Fine, plus sized girls are not my thing. Happy now?” So in other words, I have to lose weight to find love. FML
Today, the only girl who likes me is a girl who is overweight and uses body acceptance as a reason to get mad at me for turning her down. Call me shallow but as someone who works out frequently, I don't want someone who douses herself with tattoos, thinking guys will fetishize her, instead of self-care. FML
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UnbrokenRose 13
"Even they have standards". Do you realize how gross that made you sound? Not only did you insinuate that overweight men shouldn't be picky; but also that you'd be "settling" if you ever dated one, despite being overweight yourself. F*ck off with that hypocritical bullsh*t.
Rake 18
She is the one talking even trying plus-size guys, and EVEN they have standards. Seriously.
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UnbrokenRose 13
"Even they have standards". Do you realize how gross that made you sound? Not only did you insinuate that overweight men shouldn't be picky; but also that you'd be "settling" if you ever dated one, despite being overweight yourself. F*ck off with that hypocritical bullsh*t.
copalolita 16
There are about 7 billion people in the world. There’s a handful that will find you attractive no matter what your size is. You don’t wanna be with shallow misogynist men who judge on appearance anyway. I pity whoever ends up with those guys who “ran for the hills” You deserve love no matter your size. Keep your head up.
Rake 18
She is the one talking even trying plus-size guys, and EVEN they have standards. Seriously.
UnbrokenRose 13
I love watching your comments get downvoted, copa. 🥰
Yudith 28
Have you tried The Together Club? It's a kind of social club aimed more at making friends than meeting The One. They host all kinds of events for all kind of people who can't get a guy (or a gal) to save their life.
zeesther 6
Maybe, just maybe you shouldn't look for someone to save you...
009bouris 5
Have you tried working out and eating healthy