Today, my mother-in-law moved in with my husband and I, where she shits the bed and herself. There's a waiting list for the nursing home, so in the meantime I’m cleaning up her shit and she isn’t even my mother. FML
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Today, my mother-in-maw informed us that she sold her house and is moving in with us so we'll "take care" of her in old age. She's in perfect health. We've only been married for 4 months. My wife can't stand her for more than 2 weeks at a time, let alone living with us. FML
Today, I came home from a week-long vacation, only to find my mother-in-law didn't just dog-sit while I was gone; she moved in, along with all her possessions, and seems to think it's a permanent deal. FML
Today, my mother-in-law asked if she could move in with us. FML
Today, and since we've had our baby, my mother-in-law started coming round more often, then bringing her stuff to stay overnight, then started claiming she lived here, and got hysterical when we told her she doesn’t. I had to pick her up and place her outside while she punched me in the head repeatedly. FML
Today, my mother-in-law yelled from across the house for me to come quickly. She sounded frantic, so I rushed and asked what was wrong. She said, "Nothing." and that she just wanted to remind me that she hates my guts. She'll be living here with me and my wife for the next two months. FML
Today, my mother-in-law moved into my wife's two-bedroom apartment. She's quite possibly the reincarnation of Hitler himself, and she'll be staying until this time next year. FML
Today, my flatmate moved in with me. Unfortunately, unbeknownst to me, so did her mother. FML
Today, I found shit smeared into the carpet and I wasn’t sure who to blame, the dog, the newborn baby or the 60-year-old alcoholic mother-in-law whose husband had finally thrown her out. I did eventually find her passed out drunk in my flower bed with shit all down her legs though. FML
Today, I found out that my unemployed and very needy mother-in-law will be moving in with us soon. And during my conversation on the phone with her, she expects us to buy a house and my wife and I can "live with her." My wife agrees with all of this. FML
Today, my husband told me that he's letting his mother move in with us. He told her it was alright without even consulting me first. I hate my mother-in-law so much that I'm contemplating divorce rather than living with her. FML
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Inkoseh 33
You have absolutely no idea what their relationship is. You have absolutely no idea what OP can and cannot handle. You have absolutely no idea if the husband dumped it on her and she has NO SAY. Think of the complete other side of the coin. She is allowed to have feeling and have limits. This is an extremely huge burden, even if it is loving, on anyone. Especially if unprepared. OP, look to hire an in-home nurse and see if your MIL's insurance covers it. Get help if you can't handle it. It's a lot to deal with and a HUGE change especially if it's out of nowhere. I've been in OPs position for a month, and me doing it I was COMPLETELY willing and able to. It was hard as hell, and tolling on our marriage. Imagine someone who has no choice, doesn't know them well, got treated like shit from them, and has to do it. Maybe OP worked and had to quit? You all say OP has no sympathy, but in home bed care is EXTREMELY taxing and I won't listen to a cent of anyone who hasn't done it personally or delt with it professionally. Good luck OP. I hope you can keep a level head and clear mind. Reach out for help always!! Especially from other family if possible!
Yummi_913 18
She's not HER elder. She's not even her blood. This woman's son should be cleaning her up if anyone. And the whole "respect your elders" rhetoric utterly fails to consider that elders can be horrid people who deserve to be treated according to how they themselves treat others. If by the time you're that old and you're STILL unbearable to the point of your family wanting nothing to do with you, you reap what you sow.
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marcy_89 8
So ******* what. I can’t believe how people just wanna get rid of their elders. Just take care of her and love her. Don’t dump her into a home.
Inkoseh 33
You have absolutely no idea what their relationship is. You have absolutely no idea what OP can and cannot handle. You have absolutely no idea if the husband dumped it on her and she has NO SAY. Think of the complete other side of the coin. She is allowed to have feeling and have limits. This is an extremely huge burden, even if it is loving, on anyone. Especially if unprepared. OP, look to hire an in-home nurse and see if your MIL's insurance covers it. Get help if you can't handle it. It's a lot to deal with and a HUGE change especially if it's out of nowhere. I've been in OPs position for a month, and me doing it I was COMPLETELY willing and able to. It was hard as hell, and tolling on our marriage. Imagine someone who has no choice, doesn't know them well, got treated like shit from them, and has to do it. Maybe OP worked and had to quit? You all say OP has no sympathy, but in home bed care is EXTREMELY taxing and I won't listen to a cent of anyone who hasn't done it personally or delt with it professionally. Good luck OP. I hope you can keep a level head and clear mind. Reach out for help always!! Especially from other family if possible!
Yummi_913 18
She's not HER elder. She's not even her blood. This woman's son should be cleaning her up if anyone. And the whole "respect your elders" rhetoric utterly fails to consider that elders can be horrid people who deserve to be treated according to how they themselves treat others. If by the time you're that old and you're STILL unbearable to the point of your family wanting nothing to do with you, you reap what you sow.
queenkaitlin 12
Wow you have no sympathy.
queenkaitlin 12
Wow you have no sympathy. Poor lady.
RichardPencil 32
I hope she was nice to you when she was with it. If she was the stereotypical monster-in-law, you could let your husband clean it up.
Brightside86 31
It really sucks that the "best" solution for people on their last leg seems to be just pay someone to take care of them until they expire. I'm really hoping advancements in medical technology add to quality of life as we get older so most can be self sufficient right up until the end.
Darlene King 3
Two words: adult diapers.
Sady_Ct 38
As a professional carer, sometimes the attitude of the patient is based in fear and lack of knowledge and understanding of surroundings and circumstances, as well as medical conditions such as UTI, Dehydration, and Dementia that could be disease related or purely as an acquired brain injury, sometimes it’s just straight up attitude. The incontinence could be again attitude or related to a medical condition. Without further information it’s really unfair to say either FYL or YDI. The way you have worded your FML, I tend to to feel FHL not yours, as you are still capable of caring for your self and have the independence and brain function required to find another resolution to this problem where the patient’s dignity and needs are respected and taken care of.
Inkoseh 33
Honestly, I still say F ops Life and the care-ee. Two completely different positions here.
DarkAngelsBlade 25
Plastic sheets, get her diapers, maybe ask your husband to help out more, and give this old woman a break I know it's difficult but you sound rather heartless.
crashtestdumplin 16
Well I’m sure she doesn’t have control over it. Adult diapers are actually pretty affordable, and if she’s on Medicare/ or if your in another country with universal health insurance, look into her benefits, most of the time insurance companies will pay for home care products like incontinence wear, rinse free shower cloths, adjustable beds, so forth. In some cases they will even pay for an aid to come daily to help with the activities of daily living. Sometimes families are part of the package and if you are really struggling to care for her, express to your husband that you need help and think it would be best for a trained professional to come help and even teach you how to properly care for her. Who knows? It may give her a sense of independence as well, depending on her situation. If anything it will prevent you from developing resentment towards her or your husband.