Today, I'm in an open marriage and had to admit to myself that I caught feels for my "friend with benefits" who was only interested in the "benefits" part and I had to break it off. I already miss the sex. FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, I realized that having an open relationship isn't all that great, when my boyfriend hooked up with his ex and dumped me for her. FML
Today, I realized I have feelings for a really good friend of mine. Now I have to keep my distance because he’s married, and I refuse to be a homewrecker. FML
Today, I realised something awful. I'm in two wonderful loving ethical non-monogamous relationships and I can and do occasionally enjoy a one-nighter or more outside of these. It hit me - I miss cheating. FML
Today, I told my boyfriend about a friend-with-benefits that I had before him, and he dumped me because I’m still friends with that person, and I didn’t tell him about him right away. FML
Today, I'm in love with my friend, and he's in love with me. The problem? We're both married to other people. We're not acting on it and we're going to do the right thing, which is letting it go, but my heart is broken in a million pieces right now. FML
Today, I broke it off with all of my friends with benefits. Why? Because I have grown attached to a fictional character, and I like him a lot more than any IRL person. FML.
Today, I got a message from a former very close friend (with benefits) after telling him this morning that I couldn't talk to him anymore because I felt pressured to conform to his expectations in a way that hurt me. He wanted to tell me he broke up with the girl he abandoned things with me for. I'm not responding. FML
Today, it's been a year since my wife agreed to an open marriage. A friend said at the time that she would get a lot more sex than me, and would end up leaving me. I ignored him because he's a basement dwelling Trump supporter who's never had a girlfriend. Turns out he was completely right. FML
Today, I laid out my feelings to my friend with benefits, and asked if we could get together and talk. Now I'm being ignored, and my heart is shattered. I always fall for Mr Wrong. FML
Today, after years of no sex, a friend of mine told me she would like some benefits. I got too excited and came before even putting it in. FML
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Fergus52 16
Tobias: You know, Lindsay, as a therapist, I have advised... a number of couples to explore an open relationship where the couple remains emotionally committed but free to explore extramarital encounters. Lindsay: Well, did it work for those people? Tobias: No, it never does. I mean, these people somehow delude themselves into thinking it might, but... but it might work for us. (Arrested Development)
Hempseed 27
Where are you pulling these stats from? Any sources to back this up?
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RichardPencil 32
Sounds like you crossed the line with the "friends with benefits" deal. Not many people can pull it off.
Marcella1016 32
Sounds like he had his cake and ate it too. And then got sick of the flavor. FYL op. And tbh, maybe you should have broken things off when you realized you were developing feelings. You need to be responsible if you want these types of arrangements to work. Edit - typos
RichardPencil 32
I don't think he got sick of the flavor, but he didn't want to tell the cake she'd be the only cake he'd ever eat forever. Disconnecting sex from feelings is not easy for most people to pull off.
Fergus52 16
Tobias: You know, Lindsay, as a therapist, I have advised... a number of couples to explore an open relationship where the couple remains emotionally committed but free to explore extramarital encounters. Lindsay: Well, did it work for those people? Tobias: No, it never does. I mean, these people somehow delude themselves into thinking it might, but... but it might work for us. (Arrested Development)
Charlie Given 28
🤦♂️Umm ok like I've said on here before statistically speaking open marriages are a horrible idea.95% will fail they will end in divorce(if you're lucky), prison or death but most likely statistically speaking you'll end up dead and your husband or lover will be in prison. Get your head out of your ass and grow up open relationship's rarely ever work in the long term. I can guarantee with about 95% accuracy it will eventually end very badly.
Hempseed 27
Where are you pulling these stats from? Any sources to back this up?
lev 11
even if they were legit, that wouldn't be an argument. open relationships don't end in murder most of the time, and a lot of people are willing to risk divorce. especially since one of the parties still remains in the new relationship.
Maddy Bee 12
okay, I made an account just to say this, but I had to put in my two cents on open marriages. while it is true that polyamory is difficult to pull off, it is absolutely possible for couples to do it and not have problems. my parents are poly (and many of their friends are as well), and two of my best friends are poly. there is nothing wrong with polyamory, don't let anyone tell you different. imo, your mistake was having an fwb, which more often ends badly. I've done that and, in the end, those relationships didn't work out. feelings almost always happen. if your friend only wanted sex and no feelings, let them go. find someone who either wants both or is okay with both happening, or maybe don't be polyamorous (or polygamous). these kinds of things can be very difficult to navigate, but if you want to talk, I'll be here. I hope you can figure things out.