Today, I told my boyfriend about a friend-with-benefits that I had before him, and he dumped me because I’m still friends with that person, and I didn’t tell him about him right away. FML
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Today, my boyfriend dumped me after his wife found out about us. FML
Today, my boyfriend broke up with me because his wife found out about me. And by extension, I found out about his wife. FML
Today, I broke up with my boyfriend. I found out he was seeing someone behind my back: my ex-boyfriend. FML
Today, I told my boyfriend that I'm bisexual. He dumped me because apparently now there is "too much competition". FML
Today, I found out my boyfriend of two years is cheating on me. A friend had brought this to my attention. She was under the impression that we broke up because she’d seen stories of him and another woman. I found out he changed his story settings to hide the specific posts with that other woman from me only. FML
Today, my boyfriend broke up with me because someone asked him if we were dating and he lied and said no. He said he didn't want to be a liar. FML
Today, I was dumped. My boyfriend was too afraid to break up with me, so he sent the girl he cheated on me with. FML
Today, my boyfriend of three months told me that he had cheated on me two months ago with my best friend. I decided to give him a second chance. About twenty minutes later, he then broke up with me for not wanting to watch football. Apparently I don't care about his feelings. FML
Today, I went out with my friend and her boyfriend. Not knowing him very well, I accidentally called him by her ex’s name. He took that as a sign she was still seeing the ex and dumped her on the spot. She’s now not speaking to me for ruining her life. I’m just bad with names. FML
Today, I realized that having an open relationship isn't all that great, when my boyfriend hooked up with his ex and dumped me for her. FML
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BurnInDemonFire 39
I'm not sure about this one. A part of me says staying friends with an ex/**** buddy is mature, but the insecure part of me wonders why you'd hide something like that, what else you're hiding, and how honest you both are about it just being a casual friends-with-benefits deal, especially if it's something that happens when you're both single. If you and your friend can maintain that relationship, and then start *******, why aren't you able to become an actual couple? Again, I know it's insecurity talking, but I guarantee the first thought your now ex-boyfriend had when you told him was "Is she staying friends with him in case she wants to be his **** buddy again, or could she even cheat on me with him because they've been so close before?", and, sadly for you, he's decided not to stick around to find out. There's a big difference between staying on good terms with an ex you see every few months or so, and a friend who is a regular part of your life, while sometimes being your **** buddy. Your boyfriend wasn't comfortable with the latter still being the case.
blueknight1st 26
I’d dump you too. How could I trust you after telling me something like that?
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kirby1964 20
He was looking for a reason. Your lucky.
spillmybeans1 5
no he wasn't. the reason was just thrown in his face.
alycion 39
People can accept their partners having friends. People can even accept friends with benefits relationships in the past. But when you are still friends with the person, it can be too much. Especially since it was initially held back and we don’t know how it was brought up. It’s the sake reason why people aren’t always accepting of someone still being tight with an ex.
blueknight1st 26
I’d dump you too. How could I trust you after telling me something like that?
Major_Haywire 7
OMG, a girl with a past sex life, call the elders!
LostSoul 20
The past sex life is not the issue. The still chilling with the past sex life and keeping it a secret is an issue.
stormy0307 16
Because mature, confident people can handle that sort of information, jealous insecure people cannot.
Callyn 47
Telling you what, that she's slept with someone else? That not all of her relationships end badly and she's still friends with past lovers? I can't see the breach of trust.
TCRII 30
At least you still have your friend. Maybe the benefits too.
RichardPencil 32
If you didn't bring it up right away, you should have kept the "with benefits" part secret forever. Honesty is overrated.
Susan Yee 9
I’d do the same.
BurnInDemonFire 39
I'm not sure about this one. A part of me says staying friends with an ex/**** buddy is mature, but the insecure part of me wonders why you'd hide something like that, what else you're hiding, and how honest you both are about it just being a casual friends-with-benefits deal, especially if it's something that happens when you're both single. If you and your friend can maintain that relationship, and then start *******, why aren't you able to become an actual couple? Again, I know it's insecurity talking, but I guarantee the first thought your now ex-boyfriend had when you told him was "Is she staying friends with him in case she wants to be his **** buddy again, or could she even cheat on me with him because they've been so close before?", and, sadly for you, he's decided not to stick around to find out. There's a big difference between staying on good terms with an ex you see every few months or so, and a friend who is a regular part of your life, while sometimes being your **** buddy. Your boyfriend wasn't comfortable with the latter still being the case.
wookieewhosshe 29
I think you have trouble separating friendship, sex and relationships. they are 3 separate things, and you can have sex with someone and not want to be in a relationship
BurnInDemonFire 39
This is different. OP turned a friend into a **** buddy, and kept him around despite getting into a real relationship. How would you feel if your partner introduced you to a friend, and told you that they get together and **** when they're both single? It's almost as though OP told her boyfriend "It doesn't matter what happens with us, because I've got him, and I didn't tell you we're occasionally **** buddies in case you scare him off." I didn't say this guy was right for leaving, but his reaction is understandable. If he'd stayed, he would have always had that little voice in his head questioning if they might be hiding their true feelings from one another, and he's just a cover while they continue denying those feelings, so he bailed before his insecurities got the better of him. Sex, friendships, and relationships may be three individual things, but combine any two, or even all three, and life can become pretty complicated pretty quickly. It would seem that OP's boyfriend didn't want to deal with those complications, while OP herself could be in denial that she wants more from her friend. If she wanted sex as a cure for the itch, as it were, why not find a one-night stand, instead of using someone she was close with and agreeing they weren't going to "label it, and make it awkward"? Just as well cross all the lines if you're going to cross one. That, or hook up with a total stranger to deal with the urge, which is the simplest option.
Major_Haywire 7
I wouldn’t sweat it, you’re better off. Some ‘men’ can’t handle the thought of their partner have previous sexual relationships. You had no obligation to tell him and your openness gives you credit. Save it for someone who’s a bit more mature
E2dav 5
You deserve better than him. He was completely unreasonable. Your sexual history is irrelevant and it's actually a good thing you remained friends with the other guy.
LostSoul 20
Either be upfront about stuff or keep your mouth shut. It clearly was an issue. Why bring it up later in the relationship? That to me seems like you were tossing it in your boyfriend's face. How would you feel if your boyfriend hid that he was still spending time with a chick he used to bang. Guessing you also had private conversations and alone time with this fab. Bad Form!
Callyn 47
So are you supposed to bring a sexual resume with you to every first date? She probably brought it up because it was relevant to the conversation.
Ksweety_fml 27
Sorry Op, YDI. Why are still friends with a guy you slept with? I see if y'all never slept with each other or dated. C'mon..