Today, and for the 6th time, I sent a potential suitor a full body picture. I usually get ghosted or called a plethora of fatshaming names. This time around the guy told me, “Wow. I’d kill myself if I had that body.” I’ve been single for 4 years and no matter how hard I try to find love, this happens. FML
Collection
Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, the man of my dreams who I met online and have been exchanging messages with day and night for weeks asked the dreaded question: “Can you send me a full body pic?” It’s been 5 years since I had a guy hit me up. I weigh 300 lbs and look like a potato with legs. I don’t wanna lose him. FML
Today, I quit dating forever. I’m an overweight girl with glasses. I attempted to put flattering selfies on dating profiles, but the guys run from me or ghost me when I meet them in person. I took a friend’s advice and put honest, full body pics of myself. I got zero messages. None. I give up. FML
Today, the "hot" guy I've been talking to for a few weeks sent me a picture. He was very overweight and not good looking at all. He then followed up with, "Now send me one of you so I can prove to all of my friends that you're real." FML
Today, I came to terms with the fact that in order to get a boyfriend, I need to slim down. When I put full-body shots on dating apps, I get swiped left on. But when I put headshots, I get matches. And lots of them. But I can’t catfish these dudes. Time to go on a diet and hit the gym. It’s not fair. FML
Today, I asked a girl from Bumble for a full body pic. She was obese, so I told her it wasn’t gonna work. She then sent a video of her in real time looking slim and told me that picture was from when she was obese, and she'd sent that picture as a “test of my character” and she’s “better off without someone so judgy.” FML
Today, after 4 years of being single, I decided to go back to the dating scene. I downloaded Tinder. My matches run for the hills as soon as I show them a full body pic of myself. One guy even told me to delete the app from my phone, because if “guys wanted to go whaling, they’d go out to sea.” FML
Today, a Tinder guy asked me if I had a full-body picture since I only have headshots. Being ashamed of my body, I told him my rear camera was broken, so only the front-facing camera worked. He asked me if I could see my toes when I looked down. Without thinking, I looked down and said, "No." He unmatched me. FML
Today, the guy I’ve been seeing ghosted me. I called, and he answered on the fourth call. He said, “Listen, you’re too fat for me and you eat like a slob everytime we go out to eat. Try getting a salad instead of chicken wings and onion rings, and maybe you’ll keep a man. Do it for your health too.” and hung up. FML
Today, I heard the guy I love talk to a friend of his. He was telling his friend how he appreciates all my attention, affection, and random gestures such as buying him lunch sometimes, but he’ll never see me in a romantic way because I’m “too fat for his taste.” I was basically used the entire time. FML
Today, I decided to quit dating. I'm a plus-sized girl and I can’t get a guy to save my life. On dating apps they run for the hills when they see my full body. I even tried dating plus-size guys and even they have standards. I fucking hate society’s “ideal” beauty norms. FML
Feel like sharing it with the other FML users?
Thanks, your FML was submitted, and will appear in the moderation queue soon!
Top comments
RichardPencil 32
You're marketing yourself wrong. I'm guessing you have a headshot that makes you look average weight to attract a wider audience of men. You need to advertise yourself as a BBW and troll among men who are into that sort of thing.
Bogrbon 27
You'd probably be better off having a full body pic on your profile (maybe not the 1st picture, but somewhere there). You're going to find more of the people willing to accept your body type, rather than a bunch of people seeing it coming as a surprise. You'll likely get fewer matches, but better ones. And internet/app based data are very superficial. It sucks, it's imperfect, but it's a limitation of that media.
Add a comment · Reply to
You must be logged in to be able to post comments!
Comments (6)
RichardPencil 32
You're marketing yourself wrong. I'm guessing you have a headshot that makes you look average weight to attract a wider audience of men. You need to advertise yourself as a BBW and troll among men who are into that sort of thing.
Charlie Given 28
Don't let it get you down OP, there are plenty of men out there like me who love a nice thick gal, don't give up hope you'll find someone 🙂
Bogrbon 27
You'd probably be better off having a full body pic on your profile (maybe not the 1st picture, but somewhere there). You're going to find more of the people willing to accept your body type, rather than a bunch of people seeing it coming as a surprise. You'll likely get fewer matches, but better ones. And internet/app based data are very superficial. It sucks, it's imperfect, but it's a limitation of that media.
cireofmi 9
I am sorry people are assholes. I wish I had the courage to be as outgoing as you.
Brightside86 31
Your insurance very well might cover bariatric surgery as long as certain criteria are met. Might be worth looking into if you feel you've tried everything else and nothing works. I've known women and it really helped them get closer to a healthy weight.