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Today, my dad gave me a promise ring on my one year anniversary with my boyfriend and made me swear I would wait til marriage. Four hours later he walked in on us having sex in my bedroom. FML

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I agree, your life sucks (23092) - you totally deserved it (138205)

On 03/16/2009 at 10:19pm - intimacy - by thiswouldhappen. - United States (Florida)

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why do parents think a ring will convince their dear daughter to keep her leg closed? it never works.

#1 - On 03/17/2009 at 4:12am by ashology101

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can I just say one thing? what the heck is wrong with waitinguntil after marriage? sex is a holy thing meant to be shared between one married couple that is open to life. I know many people that are married-- them and their spouses all waited until they were married. may I ask people to please just respect our faith and stop insulting our beliefs? it's possible people -- including myself -- want to and plan on and/or have abstain(Ed) from sex. so stop trashing the Church

#197 - On 03/14/2010 at 10:29pm by haleylynn24

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wtf they wanna have sex cus its awesome, not to diss the church

#198 - On 03/24/2010 at 3:24pm by rikard

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You're asking people not to have sex? Are you fucking retarded? If you're deeply in love, and aren't married, you're just gunna wait? This is the stupidest thing I've heard in my life.

#203 - On 04/24/2010 at 4:00pm by thecoolestever1

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WTF? When my parents did that I didn't either. Don't let them fool you.

#204 - On 05/01/2010 at 8:33am by Rawr0_oRawr0_o

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198, sex is good, but it's sole purpose is not for enjoyment. it is to procreate and unite as one flesh with your spouse and that person only

#206 - On 05/13/2010 at 10:56pm by haleylynn24

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and FYI nobody has to respect the church if it's not in their beliefs. I'm sick of you people pushing opinions and beliefs on other people

#211 - On 07/20/2010 at 12:40pm by zackk5

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wow... promise ring... just be happy you did the right thing by ignoring that bull. Hope you didn't wait a whole year to open your legs for your man

#2 - On 03/17/2009 at 4:16am by at0m1qu3

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And that is why you don't do it in your parents' house.

#3 - On 03/17/2009 at 4:23am by B52

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You deserved to get caught for having sex in your bedroom where he could easily walk in on you, but good on you for not buying into that stupid "promise ring" bullshit.

#4 - On 03/17/2009 at 4:25am by liquidskyfire

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I agree. and besides, parents shouldn't try and stop their kids by forcing them to promise to something and wearing a piece of jewelry, they should raise their kids with the morals they believe in, then support them in however their kids decide to live their lives. People have to learn from their own mistakes and decisions.

#181 - On 07/09/2009 at 7:24am by alice_hmph

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Now your Dad finally understand that ring would never work.
Ask him -- did he wait till marriage too?

#5 - On 03/17/2009 at 4:28am by Mortishia

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This is why you don't make a promise in the first place. You either do it or you don't. And that way your parents don't have any kind of ridiculous expectations of you.

#6 - On 03/17/2009 at 4:28am by GameRater01

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agreed! if you didn't agree, you shouldn't have promised. sucks to be you!!

#201 - On 04/10/2010 at 6:41am by Kgirl2cute

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to clarify: I agree with #6, and I think that if the OP didn't agree with what the dad was asking she shouldn't have promised and accepted the ring.

#202 - On 04/10/2010 at 6:43am by Kgirl2cute

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dude, that sucksss. That's why you always do it at the guy's house, haha.

#7 - On 03/17/2009 at 4:31am by blahblah1234

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doesn't he know promises are meant to be broken? =D rather, he should have taught you " if you have sex before marriage, you'll get chlamydia! "

#8 - On 03/17/2009 at 4:32am by roflmaonade

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Dork...

#9 - On 03/17/2009 at 4:36am by csigabajnok

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Ditto #3

#10 - On 03/17/2009 at 4:53am by amirn86

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Haha! Obviously you deserve whatever normal flack you get for this. But the promise ring bullshit you probably had to hear on top of it is totally your Dad's problem. Grown men shouldn't be so naive!

#11 - On 03/17/2009 at 4:53am by Raptormeat

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You shouldn't have lied.

#12 - On 03/17/2009 at 5:00am by crypix

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yeah the dad is stupid for thinking the promise ring would do anything but if she still lives with her dad chances are she's an equally moronic 16 year old.

#13 - On 03/17/2009 at 5:02am by kismaa

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Don't make promises you can't keep. If you can't avoid having sex, don't tell your dad you can't. He's going to be more disappointed if you promise him and break the promise than if you just tell him you can't make the promise to begin with. Therefore, it's your own stupid fault for picking the path of lying.

#14 - On 03/17/2009 at 5:22am by Seegtease

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Your own fault. You need to have a heart to heart with your Dad. Sounds like he just wants to protect his little girl but promise rings are a load of hookum and don't really mean anything. Especially when given by your father.

#15 - On 03/17/2009 at 5:26am by Jimboom

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Actually isn't a promise ring what a guy gives to a girl before they get engaged?

A ring a Dad gives to his daughter for those waiting till marriage kinda purpose is a purity ring...

Anyway...that sucks...lol...but you should have been honest with him and just rejected the ring...or did you honestly think he would never notice if you guys were doing it IN HIS HOUSE???

#16 - On 03/17/2009 at 5:26am by Puolukka

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#17 - On 03/17/2009 at 5:28am by Scippap

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I just laughed out loud. I had to emphasize and not even use lol...just too funny.

#18 - On 03/17/2009 at 5:44am by git_er_done

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That's what you get for lying and breaking a promise. Karma. You deserve it.

#19 - On 03/17/2009 at 6:32am by soxgrl33

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Seriously? You had sex in your parents house four hours after lying through your teeth to your dad and accepting a gift in bad faith? What sort of stupid cunt are you?

#20 - On 03/17/2009 at 6:53am by texmas

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Seriously, why would you even agree to wear a promise ring if you knew you weren't going to wait till marriage? Grow a spine.

#21 - On 03/17/2009 at 7:50am by definecrazy

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Maybe having sex when your parents are home is a dumb idea. Think of that?

#22 - On 03/17/2009 at 7:55am by arms_akimbo

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why do people focus on congratulating you for "not buying into the promise ring bullshit"? what happened to you sucks (although maybe you should have chosen a dif location to have sex) but can we please be respectful of people who do wait? choosing to abstain until marriage can be beautiful, as long as it is the man or woman who choose that path, not the parent. just sayin.

#23 - On 03/17/2009 at 8:37am by rollingmyeyes

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I agree, fighting hormones with a ring just doensn't work. Its nature. Its meant to be that way. Why does the church have to pay so many milions of dollars to people because of the sexual abuse? Thats right, because human's aren't made to be celibate. So why do parents still want their children to wait till marriage... :-/

#24 - On 03/17/2009 at 8:38am by Mnemic

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#20 and #21 already said everything that needs to be said

#25 - On 03/17/2009 at 8:44am by thisismyname

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I feel like this one needs a special button that says "your dad deserved that." I'd have clicked it.

#26 - On 03/17/2009 at 9:00am by wafflemonger

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#20 and 21 clearly arent teenage girls. Sitting your dad down and explaining that your not going to wait and im assuming, are already having sex is not a good thing.

#27 - On 03/17/2009 at 9:11am by mememememe

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Ugh. The comments saying that it's the dad's fault for give her a promise ring in the first place are fucking stupid. OP said herself that she SWORE to her father, she PROMISED that she was going to remain abstinent until marriage and thus there is no respect to be had for her situation.

#28 - On 03/17/2009 at 9:38am by PTERONOPHOBIA

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On the bright side, i'm sure he can still refund the ring.

#29 - On 03/17/2009 at 9:38am by jesusjr

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From your use of the word "made," it sounds like your dad badgered you into it. Like, you knew the consequences of saying "No, it's not your decision to make" were too dire to risk...

If this isn't the case, and you just went "yeah, whatever dad" then you have absolutely no right to be bitching.

Some people should just be happy they're getting laid.

Also, #8, you're a genius.

#30 - On 03/17/2009 at 9:39am by ComradeP

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BUT THE JONAS BROTHERS SAID IT'S THE COOL THING TO DO!! ;-)

#31 - On 03/17/2009 at 9:39am by olivejuice

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bravo for not listening to that bullshit! it's too bad we live in a society that labels sex as a bad thing.

#32 - On 03/17/2009 at 9:46am by Misanthropist

Well, if you can't keep that word, chances are you won't be able to keep a marriage vow anyway.

#33 - On 03/17/2009 at 9:46am by Nemephosis

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Props to #31

Obviously, OP has a controlling dad. I'm going to say possible consequences if she didn't accept the ring could range from being grounded to not being allowed to see her boyfriend. Parents like this have leverage that makes any "promises" like this one meaningless, since the kid really has no choice. However, she did screw up by doing it in her house, later that day, when it's easy to get caught.

Honestly OP, your dad asked you to wait until marriage... couldn't you have at least waited until he was out of the house?

#34 - On 03/17/2009 at 10:01am by guinness

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Do you people honestly expect her to say to her father that she can't promise to wait until marraige, I would have accepted the ring also because fathers are crazy when it comes to their daughters and sex. No girl is dumb enough to tell her father she's already screwin around. The timing and location could have been chosen better but the promise ring situation seems unavoidable.

#35 - On 03/17/2009 at 10:23am by countrygal926

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Are you guys fucking stupid? This girl probably had no other choice but to fake that promise. What was she supposed to do? Imagine what could happen if she told her dad that she wasn't going to wait. For all we know he's fucking insane and would beat up her boyfriend or never let her out of the house again, for something as normal as having sex before marriage. You'd lie like that for your own well being too, and you know it.

#36 - On 03/17/2009 at 10:41am by jnic

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hahahaha that sucks.
karmaaaaa!

#37 - On 03/17/2009 at 11:08am by bellaxobrianna

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Yeah, i'd like you guys to tell your fathers that you're fucking someone. It's not as easy as it seems. I would have lied to my dad too.

#38 - On 03/17/2009 at 11:10am by shauna

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Yeah, and I'm SO sure he waited until marriage himself. Chances are he's a hypocrite.

#39 - On 03/17/2009 at 11:12am by Bubs

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Well done : )

#40 - On 03/17/2009 at 11:35am by w00h00

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F saving yourself for marriage. Everyone knows the first time SUCKS; why make your precious wedding night something uncomfortable, quick, and awkward?!

#41 - On 03/17/2009 at 11:37am by kmth79

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Oh those crazy religious folk..that sucks OP. Did your dad come out with a shotgun? /kidding

#36 has it right, if her dad is crazy enough to give her a purity ring for her birthday and make her promise to wait until marriage he probably would never take the whole "I'm having sex" thing okay, even if she was well into her 20s. People like that are total prudes and pretty crazy to boot.

#42 - On 03/17/2009 at 11:42am by frozen_heart

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Seems like you shouldn't be "swearing" things that aren't true.

#43 - On 03/17/2009 at 11:49am by hsmiles

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That blows. Your dad deserves that for thinking such an idiotic thing would work. It's good that you didn't inherit the abstinence is good bullshit.

#44 - On 03/17/2009 at 12:11pm by Callyn

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Why wouldn't you be straight up honest with your dad and tell him that you're not staying chaste until marriage? And then on top of lying to him and acting like you would do as he said, you went ahead and had sex while he was in the house? Cunt much?

#45 - On 03/17/2009 at 12:31pm by alexithymia

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Hahahahahahahahaha. Cool. But yes, come on, in this day and age. You should be responsible about your sex life in terms of safety and not playing around with other people's emotions, but for God's sake, you should also learn about yourself and about life's pleasures. It all adds to your maturity in the end so what the hell...your Dad should take it easy!!

#46 - On 03/17/2009 at 12:42pm by kayronjm

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Her dad totally forced that on her, I mean what would you say to your dad if he pulled something like that? "Sorry, No."? This also sounds somewhat fake considering the South Park last week...

#47 - On 03/17/2009 at 12:45pm by MCart

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Yeh, you kind of deserved that one. I think that if you're having sex already then you should at least be mature enough to tell your parents, "sorry, that ship has sailed" when they try to pull something like that. Instead you just made yourself look like a major heel.

#48 - On 03/17/2009 at 12:46pm by TheNameless

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Promise rings are stupid. What was your dad thinking?

Every married man should know, the only jewelry that keeps a woman's legs closed is a wedding ring. Ha!

#49 - On 03/17/2009 at 1:02pm by L4m3r

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why would you take the ring?
dummy.

#50 - On 03/17/2009 at 1:27pm by ohthehorror

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He should totally take the ring back and pawn it.

#51 - On 03/17/2009 at 1:41pm by Miss_Cherish

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who were u having sex with? one of the Jonas brothers? lol

#52 - On 03/17/2009 at 1:50pm by NyCSal

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4 hours later? I love the timing of that. I hope you learned your lesson and that you don't have sex at your dad's house. If you're going to lie, you have to protect the lie. Duh.

#53 - On 03/17/2009 at 1:53pm by AMelodyofJuly

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thats a completely unreasonable request but it was also completely unreasonable for you to have sex in the same house as him so shortly after you have that talk. you really couldnt have gone ANYWHERE else?

#54 - On 03/17/2009 at 1:54pm by m0nicam0nster

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lolz dumbass move
you lied to your father = karma

#55 - On 03/17/2009 at 2:02pm by SimpleIdiot

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Promise rings are dumb bullshit and it sucks that your dad was pressuring you into accepting one, but four hours? I'm not saying abstain completely, but maybe a little more caution would have been in order.

#57 - On 03/17/2009 at 2:23pm by Meta

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Uh, you should've just not accepted it from your father.
It's your choice not his. You shouldn't have let him pressure you into committing to that if you didn't want to and weren't going to.

Your fault he walked in on you, though. Fuck somewhere private.

#58 - On 03/17/2009 at 2:39pm by Bunbu

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Why does everyone think that dad is horribly controlling? She didn't add and she put my boyfriend in the hospital or grounded me for life...

Seems like the bitch shouldn't have lied to her father. But then again, it's clear she isn't the brightest...

#59 - On 03/17/2009 at 2:48pm by Reallyreally86

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it's so easy to lie, isn't it? did you get what you want from it?

#60 - On 03/17/2009 at 2:50pm by zandar

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People need to stop being so judgmental... some people, like myself, are waiting for marriage, and I don't judge those who choose not to. It's a personal decision.

The OP made a stupid choice to 1) lie to her dad and 2) to have sex in her parent's house with her parents there.

However, her dad also should NOT have forced her to promise him and NOT have assumed she was going to wait.

Gah, lots of dumb decisions made here...but lets remember that some people DO choose to wait...it's a personal decision.

#61 - On 03/17/2009 at 2:53pm by roseglass6370

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I agree wirh #28. What the hell is wrong if people choose to wait? Hell, I respect them even more, since it must be hard to do that.

#62 - On 03/17/2009 at 2:57pm by Malik

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I think the thing that bothered me about this was that the father was being really invasive in his daughter's life. Hell, it's her choice and she can face the consequences if something happens, such as an STD or pregnancy. Her father has nothing to do with her relationships.

#63 - On 03/17/2009 at 3:10pm by kukkakaalia

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your dad just sounds like an ass. do you want and dont ever worry about showing poeple like him you 'spine' or whatever. life isn't about that

#64 - On 03/17/2009 at 3:18pm by AlexJakubsen1

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Good work. Your Dad is a tool and the promise ring BS is just there to make them feel better, not because it's better for you. Hooray for your life, you're having good sex.

#65 - On 03/17/2009 at 3:35pm by actualbeast

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come on! That's why you don't have sex in your parents house. EVER. Even after you're married.

#66 - On 03/17/2009 at 3:42pm by crampy

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thats your own fault...why would u have sex when ur dad was home

#67 - On 03/17/2009 at 3:53pm by justinsbaby291

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#5:

"Did you wait for marriage dad?"

"No, that's why you're here."

LOL

#68 - On 03/17/2009 at 3:54pm by davidtheday

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32: Our society labels sex as a BAD thing? What society do you live in?

#69 - On 03/17/2009 at 3:59pm by gingerspice

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Why did you even promise in the first place if you knew you were having sex? Should have just been blunt about premarital sex being apart of your agenda hah.

#70 - On 03/17/2009 at 4:04pm by effit

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ah the ring game. That is always their last option after they try to give you the talk.

#71 - On 03/17/2009 at 4:49pm by Ashtay1992

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Why so many "you deserved that one"? Her dad is way too old fashioned.

#72 - On 03/17/2009 at 4:52pm by papertigers

LMFFFFAO OUCH !!

#73 - On 03/17/2009 at 4:58pm by xij3ss

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All the people saying promise rings are pointless/stupid are bugging me. Promise rings mean something to people who are honestly going to keep their promise. To them, it's a constant reminder of what God wants for them. The people who really care about it will keep true to them, as I have.

#74 - On 03/17/2009 at 5:05pm by likewhoachea

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Rings don't force you to keep promises. You shouldn't have swore though.

#75 - On 03/17/2009 at 5:24pm by Prisoner_24601

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You're dad's a dick for making you swear to save yourself.
Seriously, it's none of his business. What if some strange man you didn't know did that? you'd slap him and run away screaming.

Besides, he's pretty much saying "Happy birthday! But promise me you won't have fun!"

I would've lied too. He has no business in that part of your life.

#76 - On 03/17/2009 at 5:26pm by Komatose

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LMAO.

#77 - On 03/17/2009 at 5:28pm by jenn03

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Well done! You demonstrated a fundamental truth to your father: promises made under duress are non-binding.

#78 - On 03/17/2009 at 5:48pm by Uniquitous

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#79 - On 03/17/2009 at 5:57pm by pommeblossom

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Um, why would you promise something to anyone that you didn't plan on keeping? That's real integrity, bravo.

#80 - On 03/17/2009 at 6:11pm by kellster

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don't you have any self control at all?

#81 - On 03/17/2009 at 6:15pm by Moomoomoo

hahahahaha
#81 is an idiot.
so is #80
i totally get why you wouldn't want to stay abstinent over a stupid ring.

but seriously, after getting a promise ring from your dad you decided to have sex WHILE he was at home!?
you should've at least been a bit tactful about it. like go to his house.

actually, i wouldn't have taken the ring at all.

#82 - On 03/17/2009 at 6:19pm by iamgirl

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Way to ruin your dad's trust and faith in you!

#83 - On 03/17/2009 at 6:28pm by Amkii

i didn't notice it before, but #79:
she's not a hoe if she has sex with her BOYFRIEND!

#84 - On 03/17/2009 at 6:31pm by iamgirl

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geez why are people on this site so judgmental? just because it's the internet doesn't give you the right to act like an asshole and say things you would never say otherwise. i'm sick of seeing the same types of bs comments on every post, "you're a dumb cunt", "LYING TO YOUR DAD HOLY CRAP"... like you guys wouldn't do the same thing. what are you supposed to do when confronted with a situation like that? i'm sure she felt really uncomfortable with rejecting the ring and maybe her relationship with her dad isn't as open as she would like it to be, some parents are just like that.

#85 - On 03/17/2009 at 6:46pm by dg72592

wow #85
i love you for that.

#86 - On 03/17/2009 at 6:49pm by iamgirl

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That was just dumb.

1st, for making a fake promise

2nd, for using your parents' house for sex while they're there.

#87 - On 03/17/2009 at 6:49pm by _pk_

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You both fail.

Also #82, 81 and 80 didn't say not to keep the promise. They just said not to lie about it.

#88 - On 03/17/2009 at 6:55pm by nO__namE

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You should have at least respected your dad and not have done under his roof.

#89 - On 03/17/2009 at 6:59pm by zombiepeanut

#88, its her choice if she wants to have sex or not. they shouldn't judge her for not wanting to tell her dad outright that she wasn't going to take anything he said into account.

#90 - On 03/17/2009 at 7:00pm by iamgirl

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I think he'd understand more if she didn't lie and say "LOLK I'M NOT HAVIN SEX" than if he expected his daughter to be a good little virgin then busted into her room to find her naked doing it in the butt.

#91 - On 03/17/2009 at 7:16pm by nO__namE

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Some parents can be ridiculously controlling...you don't know if this person's father is one of the really controlling ones who it's hard to explicitly oppose.

#92 - On 03/17/2009 at 7:29pm by hydronium

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What's with all the hatin' on the dad? If she still lives with him and if he's still supporting her, he has every right to expect her to live by his rules and expectations. If she can't do that, she can find somewhere else to live. Come on now, guys, grow up. This is all entirely OP's fault, and so not a FML.

#93 - On 03/17/2009 at 7:55pm by Beth79

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it's bad enough you break the promise... but 4 hours after you make it? you deserved that. i feel bad for your dad.

#94 - On 03/17/2009 at 8:54pm by shabaloo

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you shouldn't have taken the ring.. thats disrespectfull. esp since you knew you weren't going to keep it

#95 - On 03/17/2009 at 9:09pm by bevmo

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Well, your father deserved it! Parents should support premarital Sex instead of telling all sort of tales and forbidding it to their children. When they allow it they have control and can prevent stuff from happening/ : O Jonas Brothers? OmfG! Southpark for the Win ^^

#97 - On 03/17/2009 at 9:18pm by Kamicase

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#90, she said that she "swore" to him that she wouldn't. That makes it a lie/broken promise/whatever you want to call it. If you're going to do what you're going to do, then at least be honest about it! Or else acknowledge that you're a dishonest twat and don't post on fmylife.com to complain about it!

#98 - On 03/17/2009 at 10:27pm by kellster

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MADE you SWEAR you wouldn't? What kind of idiot is he? You are a human being. Not a slave or a robot he can control. What the hell is wrong with some people's thinking processes? If anything he should be embarrassed for acting so possessive, immature, and above all naive. Not to mention just plain stupid. Buying a promise ring for your daughter who WANTS to wait is one thing, but spending money on something you well know someone may not want is throwing your money away. Your life dear is not fucked, your fathers ideology is.

#99 - On 03/17/2009 at 10:35pm by starshine3987

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It was bound to happen. The timing just made it ironic.

Parents are oblivious. My mother gave me the sex talk when I was 19, after I had already been sexually active for four years. During that time I'd had a relationship that lasted 2 1/2 years. I couldn't believe my parent's would think I was still a virgin after that.

You can't make anyone else want to be chaste.

#100 - On 03/17/2009 at 10:53pm by squeaky

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The people saying she should have been honest.... yes, under ideal situations she should have been, but if I'd been honest about sex when I was a teen, I would have gotten grounded for a long time. That situation doesn't exactly promote honestly. Since she said her dad "made" her, I suspect it was that sort of situation.

#101 - On 03/17/2009 at 10:58pm by squeaky

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I feel sorry for your poor dad. He was doing something sweet by showing that he trusted you and he bought you a present and you threw it in his face.

#103 - On 03/18/2009 at 1:29am by wench

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did you give the ring back?

#104 - On 03/18/2009 at 4:05am by nodbor

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i agree with number 14

#105 - On 03/18/2009 at 4:14am by littlesnickeroo

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Fact of the matter is, whether it's too hard to admit to your father to having sex or not, if you make a promise not to do it you don't then go do it a few hours later in his house while he's home. Everyone can argue the validity of promise rings and waiting, or just trying to force your own morals onto other people, but you take all that stuff away and that's still the bottom line. If it was too uncomfortable for her to tell her dad she's sexually active it means either she's scared of his reaction to the truth or she doesn't want to disappoint him. Having sex in his house in that same day contradicts either of those reasons, and that's why this is a YDI and not a FML.

#106 - On 03/18/2009 at 5:00am by thisismyname

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i dont think its that big of a deal, you didnt feel comforable telling your dad or parents its not that big of a deal, but with him walking in on you guys is pretty embarrassing.

#107 - On 03/18/2009 at 9:39am by fml147

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wtf is YDI

#108 - On 03/18/2009 at 12:26pm by Shadowflames420

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Isn't it called a "purity ring," not "promise ring"? IDK.

#109 - On 03/18/2009 at 12:40pm by foozebox

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Way to break a promise. You seem really untrustworthy, maybe you shouldn't be having sex when you can't even be honest with your parents. I see the next conversation...

Dad: Well, if you are going to be sexually active can you at least promise me to use some form of birth control?
OP: Of course dad, I promise.

...3 months later...

OP: So, dad...about that birth control thing. Yeah, I'm pregnant.

#110 - On 03/18/2009 at 3:03pm by paradiselost

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What did your dad say?
My father would never trust me again.

#111 - On 03/18/2009 at 6:02pm by iLIAMMM

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Wow. If you're going to break a promise, at least don't be so sloppy about it. Do you really hate your dad that much to spite him like that?

#112 - On 03/18/2009 at 9:25pm by Thrashmeister

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Yeah do it in another house...but what a dumbass dad.

#113 - On 03/18/2009 at 9:48pm by annacs

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You didn't lock your door? 0.o

#114 - On 03/19/2009 at 12:11am by snow_cloak

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You could of at least waited till you were out of the house. Especially after your dad gave you something, that's just wrong.

#115 - On 03/19/2009 at 12:14am by buttons

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no sympathy for you, at least have some respect not to fuck in the man's house after you promised not to. ya skank

#116 - On 03/19/2009 at 2:47am by chuteboxe39

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If ya told him you wouldn't have sex, and led him on, you should at least have the courtesy not do it in his house, and especially not when he may be home. Jackass.

#117 - On 03/19/2009 at 3:49am by Minstrels

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Welp, #74 gets the religious wack job prize. Honestly, apart from you doing it while your dad was still home, this is a completely legit FML. Your dad shouldn't be imposing archaic rules on you based on expensive guilt trips and Bible verses pulled out of his ass.

#118 - On 03/19/2009 at 5:00am by djtelekinesis

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I hate promise rings. They suck, just on principle.

#119 - On 03/19/2009 at 6:34pm by Words_rule

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nice way to break your dads trust in you

#120 - On 03/20/2009 at 3:31am by permission2laugh

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I'm certain he wasn't surprised. All girls are hobags now, it's "cool". Quite frankly it makes me sick, and I don't know how to pick a wife out of this nasty bunch.

#121 - On 03/20/2009 at 9:58am by thekreeperkeeper

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Today, I gave my daughter a chastity ring for her one year anniversary with her boyfriend. She had promised me under my wishes that she would wait until marriage to be having sex. Four hours later I saw her porno labeled "Chastity inside my ass!" FML

#122 - On 03/20/2009 at 10:45am by jrkwaddd

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dont make promises you know your going break!!.....idiots

#123 - On 03/20/2009 at 3:37pm by blarg9

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what would mickey mouse think about this one... haha, i completely support you violating the promise ring.

#124 - On 03/20/2009 at 3:58pm by zanzibar

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You promise your dad to not have sex until your married and you can't even lock the door when you're breaking that promise four hours later? PROPS.

#125 - On 03/23/2009 at 12:17am by anaisgabrielle

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you are some kind of idiot.

#126 - On 03/23/2009 at 8:42pm by lifecanbecruel

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Agree with #61.

I'd personally rather wait for marriage. Though, I'm agnostic, so it's a personal decision rather than a religious one. And I wouldn't go through with that "purity ring" ceremony shit, either. If someone *chooses* to partake in something like that, then that's his or her decision, but my mind may change in the future and I'm not going to make a promise that I may or may not be able to keep. Either way, I don't give a shit about anyone else's sex life, so I don't see why anyone would care about my lack thereof.

Regarding OP's situation, both of them deserved it. True, I can understand a Christian father's desire to protect his daughter from pregnancy, STDs, and "sins of the flesh" but making her take an oath like that is ridiculous. It's her decision, not his. And unless "purity ring" is a new code name for some weird-ass, hard-to-get-out-of chastity belt, it's (obviously) not going to stop her from having sex if she wants to. Parents like that need to understand this, and focus more on protecting their kids by teaching them about safe sex rather than abstinence only.

As for the OP...I'm not even going to go into detail over how stupid that was. Better luck next time.

#127 - On 03/24/2009 at 3:26am by MaCherie

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That's funny, I hope it ends well.

#128 - On 03/24/2009 at 11:42pm by SceneEssence

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Screw abstinence, its overrated and stupid. Go ahead and fuck whoever you want, well done!

#129 - On 03/25/2009 at 11:04am by MaxG1991

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Shit happens in the heat of the moment. Good for you. Your boyfriend would've been posting a FML on this site if you said "no" to him while showing him the purity ring.

#132 - On 03/28/2009 at 11:24am by imajackass

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ok wtf is with all the people about not understanding being a teenager we all have been and i still am yet i am waiting to be married its not bad and she shouldnt have done that is it really so hard to just say ill try or something along those lines when not accepting?
screw the people who support her accepting the ring then turning around and having sex

#133 - On 03/28/2009 at 3:09pm by cupcake2

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That sucks, you're dad shouldn't be making you promise that in the first place. For one thing a promise someone forces you to make isn't a real promise, and if someone does choose to wait untill marriage it should be a promise to themselves, not their parents.

#134 - On 03/28/2009 at 6:46pm by louisianagrrrrl

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I'm late on this one but I don't really care. I feel like ranting.

I find it funny how many people misinterpreted the Jonas Brothers South Park episode. They were not condemning purity rings, they were condemning Disney for using them as a money making scheme. They never once said that the meaning behind them was wrong. I think people are getting out of it what they want to see, not what's truly there.

I think purity rings are great, but I don't think that a parent should force it on their kid. It's a personal, private decision that you would have made yourself if that was your intention. So I'm with you there. But taking the ring, knowing you're not going to stick with what it stands for is really pathetic. Having sex later that day in your father's house while he was home isn't something that I can agree with you on, either. That was pure stupidity.

#135 - On 03/29/2009 at 12:42am by r_u_serious

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U R A TERRIBLE PERSON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

#136 - On 03/29/2009 at 10:14pm by MixedNuts

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#135 is right.

You shouldn't have made a promise you couldn't keep. It's better your Father know the truth than find you in action.

#137 - On 03/29/2009 at 11:45pm by lolatflyingducks

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urgh i hate that! and thoses purity parties where they make their 11-12-13 year old daughters make toasts about staying virgins, to everyone! thats terrible! like they can predict the futur! things, time and ideas change , dont try and guilt ur kids into doing what u want

#138 - On 03/30/2009 at 1:18am by QQwwEErrTT

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your poor dad

#139 - On 03/30/2009 at 5:46pm by lulu12step

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thank youuu #41

#140 - On 04/01/2009 at 5:52pm by socaldudette

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good on you. promise rings are for people who can't get laid. or for dumbasses.

#141 - On 04/02/2009 at 11:14am by mlif_iilwafyog

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Not saying I waited for marriage, but if I was your dad you'd probably have been sent off to a convent and they'd never find his body.

I know its a weird double standard, but from a parent's point of view its a little different.

#142 - On 04/03/2009 at 9:26am by Ribky

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aha good shit.

#143 - On 04/04/2009 at 2:39am by h8crewdeathr0ll

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I agree that all this parental manipulation is childish and selfish. Parents should be guiding their children, not being manipulative dictators coercing their children to do whatever makes the parents happiest.
OP, It would have been better if you could have said "no" to your father, but it sounds like he didn't give you that option.

#121: Firstly, "Ho" is short for "whore" which means someone who gets paid money to have sex. OP was having sex with her boyfriend - therefore is not a "ho".
Secondly, are you really saying you want to pick a wife that doesn't want to have sex? That's not nice. Please stay unmarried and don't inflict your perverted and misogynistic attitudes on some poor unsuspecting woman. Go back to your cave.

#144 - On 04/04/2009 at 3:26am by tipple

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There's always "doing it" behind the dumpster lol

#145 - On 04/04/2009 at 5:19pm by SuperBabyJesuz

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Aww, I would be so heart broken if I was in your father's shoes.

#146 - On 04/05/2009 at 4:03am by Tennz

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if ur a dude; haha awesome
if ur a chick: Ewww whore!

#147 - On 04/05/2009 at 8:02pm by latereflex

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Your dad is ... weird ... :|

#148 - On 04/10/2009 at 5:23am by Scoochie

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Whore. If I were your father, I would disown and disinherit you.

#149 - On 04/11/2009 at 4:42pm by mattz

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I feel so bad for your dad!

#150 - On 04/12/2009 at 12:45pm by FeelYaFallinAway

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haha making her promise not to was as sure a way to get that cherry popped as tryin to balance a balloon on a needle. I bet her boyfriend had a strong urge to thank her dad for the gift.

#151 - On 04/13/2009 at 9:29pm by sumdizzyfoo

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fail.

#152 - On 04/19/2009 at 1:31am by yeahyeahyeah28

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a promise ring to keep your virginity...hmm... bet that was an awkward conversation...

#153 - On 04/22/2009 at 4:03pm by Vtlacey

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woww YDI lolz

#154 - On 04/23/2009 at 3:20pm by ejvlols

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Wow. Oh my goodness that is a true tribute to FML.

#155 - On 04/23/2009 at 5:49pm by xeniadw

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The only time parents should be involved in their kids sex life is if they have to deal with consequences. So, if you live with your parents and they pay for you they have the right to insure safe sex but not deny their kids something that is neccessary for human life. Abstinence means no babies which means no more people which means bye bye human kind. Before marriage safe sex is smart, but unless someone else has to pay for any children or STDs, it's entirely your choice. Still not smart doing it in

#156 - On 04/27/2009 at 7:40pm by Yyz13

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Hahahahah. What is a freaking ring going to do? If I were a parent, I would give my kid some condoms and say "There's no way I can stop you, so, please just be safe." That's what parents should do.

#157 - On 04/29/2009 at 8:28pm by lmaofml7

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Never have sex at your house..

#158 - On 04/30/2009 at 11:17am by Katlynnnn

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which is why you have it at the guy's house.

#159 - On 05/03/2009 at 11:41am by beebz

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You deserved that one....totally.

#160 - On 05/05/2009 at 8:01pm by calax33

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whooa...
never and i mean NEVER
have sex in your own home
it just wont be good
you should go to his place..
or a park :)

#161 - On 05/13/2009 at 1:53pm by candii

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And whose fault is that? Slut

#162 - On 05/14/2009 at 8:51pm by juandojondo

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lock the door next time?

LOOOOL

#163 - On 05/17/2009 at 1:56am by llama280

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wow ur a slut

#164 - On 05/20/2009 at 4:17pm by itsgen

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YDI. You could have at least told your father straight up NO... But to accept it and then go back on it? Ah well... It's your life.. I just hope you know what you are doing! =)

#165 - On 05/20/2009 at 11:53pm by at0micmin3r

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You shouldn't have taken the ring in the first place. If he doesn't understand than he's a religious nut who shouldn't even be your dad..

#166 - On 05/22/2009 at 5:26am by dyld921

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I totally understand the FML part, but YDI for accepting it if you knew you weren't going to keep that promise and YDI for doing it where he could so easily walk in

#167 - On 05/22/2009 at 7:14pm by itssuchanfmlday

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haha if i were u i would been like to late!!! pshh parents.

#168 - On 05/23/2009 at 8:55pm by slearnaro92

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YDI for making that promise. should have told him you didn't believe in that stuff. but FYL because i think i can safely say there were some consequences after he found you guys together.

#169 - On 06/02/2009 at 6:00pm by zredalert95

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Whyd you leave the door unlocked stupid

#170 - On 06/02/2009 at 10:26pm by Ear

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I am very impressed with all the comments!

I expected a bunch of comments from catholics condemming her for having sex, but the majority of them are pretty open minded about sex!

#171 - On 06/03/2009 at 9:36pm by jake1246

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You're a dumbass.
Go somewhere else and get laid or at least when your parents arent home

#173 - On 06/05/2009 at 7:41pm by CDL21

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Why does our society still embrace the ridiculous idea that all sex is somehow "sinful?" It's normal and healthy if done safely. If I ever have children I will talk openly and honestly with them about sex and relationships and let them have sex when they feel they are ready. Everyone makes mistakes when they're young; the best thing you can do for your child is to impart them with the knowledge that might help them have healthy relationships.

#174 - On 06/11/2009 at 3:36pm by dramakat11

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i'm only saying ydi bcuz u did it AT YOUR HOUSE. seriously u might wanna think b4 having sex...

#175 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:06pm by ziqi92

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Ouch. got to love bad timing!


And #175, your grammar totally sucks.

#176 - On 06/14/2009 at 6:06pm by xFenix81x

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ha, i love the irony. the dad should know that promise rings are bull!

#177 - On 06/18/2009 at 7:00pm by jessicaislameee

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Haha! I think when someone suprises you with a promise ring that is bull-shit. Maybe if you had said "hey dad, I wanna wait.." then he had bought it for you as an attagirl, then fine. Otherwise he is a dumb-ass.
Getting caught though, ouch..

#178 - On 06/23/2009 at 1:12am by killabee

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hottness! promise ring... lol

#179 - On 06/23/2009 at 9:59am by Vultre727

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That's why the make fucking locks!!!!!

#180 - On 06/29/2009 at 11:12pm by djh1996

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Are you related to the JonasBrothers? It's obvious Kevin is only getting married so he can have sex.

#182 - On 07/09/2009 at 10:44pm by kira822

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FYL... Your dad deserves it though.

#183 - On 08/22/2009 at 9:12am by tehgeorgeh

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SLUT!!!

#184 - On 09/08/2009 at 10:57pm by tone_lokia

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did you swallow

#185 - On 09/09/2009 at 12:36am by NRA_advocate

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Haha that's what i wanna know. spitters are quiters

#189 - On 10/14/2009 at 2:10pm by xclegend613

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clearly the guys dad thought you was shallow.

clearly not xD

ftw

#186 - On 09/17/2009 at 3:22am by v1knownaz_chris

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bitch lol

#187 - On 10/09/2009 at 5:42pm by joshray

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Why give you the promise ring after you've been with the guy a year already? Isn't that a little late?

#188 - On 10/13/2009 at 4:39pm by time4coffee

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Ok.... I am soo confused, I thought a promise ring, was givin by the boyfriend or girlfriend to stay true to eachother, and a PURITY ring was waiting till married 4 sex. Whatever I guess I am wrong.

#190 - On 11/02/2009 at 8:16pm by movies12

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121, 162, 164, and 184 are correct. 144, stfu

#191 - On 12/25/2009 at 6:21am by DynamicDave

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144 your a dumb shit

#192 - On 12/29/2009 at 5:12am by Andyangels27

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parents shouldn't be forcing their kids to make promises that probably didn't keep themselves when they were young.

it's OP's decision to have sex with her BF, with a damn ring or without.

Now, OP is dumb for having sex in her dad's house while he's in it ;-p

#193 - On 01/05/2010 at 1:32am by flotar

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why do ppl not know how to lock doors? I rather get caught with the door locked n it be kinda awkward to open than actually being SEEN

#194 - On 01/28/2010 at 1:45am by LmaoLolRofl

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Umm YDI. Goddamn slut

#195 - On 01/31/2010 at 5:37pm by what_the_fail

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Her dad totaly deserved that, I mean cmon' thinking thatby forcing her to make that promise would like make her feel too guilty to break it?
If it were me Id feel perfectly justified in it, thinking "He forced me into it! What choice did I have?" Forced promises mean nothing

#196 - On 02/08/2010 at 4:59pm by Joshua95

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I'm athiest but she desirved it

#199 - On 03/26/2010 at 6:58pm by campbellshayla73

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lmao. as long as you weren't doing it doggy ;) haha

#200 - On 03/26/2010 at 10:12pm by ladiesman2340

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I hate this wait till marraige bullshit & I hate the church. last time I went the pastor told me it was a sin to be single. I mean have you ever heard such bullshitin all of your life.

#205 - On 05/07/2010 at 8:29pm by redtigerlily

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why wait, only to find out you're married to someone who's horrible?

#207 - On 06/02/2010 at 12:35am by Rutgerman95

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dammnn lmao

#208 - On 06/04/2010 at 7:13pm by miszlivii

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If you were having sex that same day, I would assume you've had sex before. If you weren't a virgin when you're dad gave you the ring, you shouldn't have taken the ring. AT ALL.
Personally, I believe in waiting but no one's ever forced me. And I'm an atheist, so it has nothing to do with the Church. But it should be YOUR choice, not your father's. So FYL so having overbearing parents. YDI for accepting it when you weren't even a virgin.

#209 - On 06/13/2010 at 3:41pm by KatiiKhatastrofi

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okay 197 F*CK church and ur stupid belief. if people wana F*ck, then so be it. who waits untill marraige?! oh what's that... NO1!!!

#210 - On 07/07/2010 at 9:30am by julesmarie88

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