Today, I was coming home from a date, I saw my ex standing in my drive-way. He had dumped me 2 months ago saying he couldn't talk me. To make him jealous, I made out with my new guy before greeting him. Turns out he couldn't talk to me because he had had cancer and had been afraid to tell me. FML
I agree, your life sucks (9381) - you totally deserved it (41655)
On 07/04/2009 at 12:38am - misc - by Foster_Em - United States (Ohio)
wow. whether he had cancer or not ; YDI for being cold hearted and shallow . what a bitchy thing to do. i hope karma gets you GOOD .
#111 - On 07/04/2009 at 11:45pm by ElliexMarie
This is a little vindictive. If both of them take an understanding path, it should work out. The boyfriend was under stress, yes, but it is what it is, and he didn't tell her. She thought she was being destroyed, so like a human, she acted back toward it.
What she did wasn't wrong in her situation, but when she learned of this, it became an odd event under certain circumstances. This is truly an FML for her.
#124 - On 07/05/2009 at 5:47pm by SunlightVeins
I clicked YDI before I even read the bit about cancer, grow up
#4 - On 07/04/2009 at 6:10am by ChurchofFagenism
She was hurt. Sure, maybe it was a bad response, but heck, she's human. Just think about how painful it would be if someone you cared for stopped talking to you with no explanation. Take a few minutes to imagine that situation and maybe you'll be able to give the OP the sympathy she deserves. :)
@OP, I really hope you ignore a majority of these replies. You're not a slut, you didn't commit some hellish sin, you were just reacting.
#127 - On 07/06/2009 at 1:07am by nemonaki
Oh no =( That's terrible. But he should have been honest with you. I get that he may have broken up with you so as not to drag you along a painful process with him, but by not telling you he probably made you agonise over why he broke up with you so abruptly and made you wonder what you did to deserve it. I hope you're working things out..
#8 - On 07/04/2009 at 6:16am by deviantartgirl
You shouldn't have been trying to make him jealous, but at the same time, he shouldve told you. Being so afraid to say it that you have to DUMP them to avoid it? That doesn't solve anything.
He left you, and not the other way around, so even though he was probably hurt by seeing you with someone else, he couldve avoided it by being honest.
I dont think this is really either a fyl or you deserve it. It kinda evens itself out.
True, and he's got worse things to worry about now than seeing his EX girlfriend whom he dumped making out with her new guy. Let's hope things work out okay for the both of them.
agreed.
it takes two to ruin a relationship, make it painful, and drag it out too long. both are at fault.
not being able to be honest with you and tell u about his cancer means two things:
1) he had his best intentions for you. he wanted you to move on and find someone to take care of you.
2) he had some trust and communication problems.
at the same time, i hate how you tried to make him jealous by making out with the new guy.
it's rather...misleading to both your ex and your new bf. making you look somewhat sleazy.
however, it's understandable that you experienced a lot of pain from being dumped and want to get back at him.
hope you guys work things out!
#54 - On 07/04/2009 at 11:28am by CryingHowls
Oh please, most of the people here would do the same thing (or something VERY similar) if they were in that situation. You get hurt, you want to lash back. It's natural. Be glad she didn't verbally destroy his ass like I would have had he dared to come anywhere near me after doing that shit.
Anyway... I would have to say FYL. You obviously cared about him and he dumped you. Furthermore, he has cancer; that sucks for the both of you. Seriously. Add that to the guilt you likely felt for being so angry at him as to want to lash back, and we have on our hands an 'ouch' situation.
Thank you, that is all.
It's possible he cared for her so much that he didn't want her to love him more and more, then die from cancer.
Judging by how childish the OP acted, he made the right choice.
Then again with a monumental fuck up like this, he could totally talk the OP into make-up buttsex.
I agree with #9.
He shouldn't lied, but you shouldn't tried making him jealous- it will never have a happy ending.
Hope you guys can talk it out (:
#10 - On 07/04/2009 at 6:53am by StallionDuck
He didn't lie, he was afraid and if she is trying to make him jealous means 1 of 2 things. She is a bitch and he obviously didn't fell comfortable talking about it with someone like this, or she still likes him to some degree.
Really, he didnt lie. I mean, id be terrified to tell someone I care about that I have something that will kill me.
What a slut, jezus, why go through the trouble of making him jealous, OP you deserve somthing really awful to happen to you, because your not a decent human at all
Oh and the fact that you moved on so quickly after the boyfriend to get another boyfriend. slut
Dickhead, it was 2 months. All she knew was he dumped her; would you rather she just moped around the place, pining for him for months after the break-up? STFU.
#29 - On 07/04/2009 at 8:40am by judgeymcjudge
Says he couldn't "talk you"? I think you mean "talk to me", lol. Not trying to be a grammar Nazi, it was just bugging me :P anyways. I mean; it's not exactly your fault, you had no way of knowing right away. but you shouldn't have tried to make him jealous like that. YDI && FYL.
#14 - On 07/04/2009 at 7:34am by SusanaSaysRawrxD
He dumped her, apparently without any explanation, so of course she is entitled to make him jealous in return, not her fault that he had cancer, or that she didn't know about it...
Such petty, vindictive behaviour is far too immature for anyone to be 'entitled to'. Besides, if HE dumped HER, why would she think it'd make him jealous seeing her with another guy?
#18 - On 07/04/2009 at 7:54am by SpaghettiCat
Er, because she got home and found him waiting for her in the driveway?? You don't hang about in your ex's driveway for no reason, waiting for them to come home because you need to tell them something/talk to them - and being that she knew nothing about the cancer, I can totally see the logic behind her train of thought. Not that that makes it any less petty, I totally agree with you there...
#28 - On 07/04/2009 at 8:34am by judgeymcjudge
More like F his L, and YDI for being such a bitch. Sounds to me like he's better off without you.
#17 - On 07/04/2009 at 7:51am by SpaghettiCat
To all the people who voted that she deserved it:
how on earth could she have known that? It was probably just as horribly awkward as for him. It's just a really screwed up situation.
Okay, she acted immaturely, but there was just no way she could have know this.
#19 - On 07/04/2009 at 8:07am by crazy_cat_lady24
#19 exactly. She was feeling hurt because the guy she was with rejected her. Then this dude shows up, unannounced on her doorstep, when she's about to say goodbye to the new guy anyways. OF COURSE she's going to play up the fact that things are going well between them and make out a bit. Her ex is the one who showed up at her door. The only uncreepy thing about it is the fact that he was there to tell her he had cancer. And how the hell was she supposed to know that until he said it???
FYL darling, but how were you supposed to know? Just be as supportive as you can now :)
I don't know why she deserves it. She THOUGHT he dumped her because of her, she didn't know about the cancer. She was just trying to show that she was over him. FYL and FHL.
No, she wasn't trying to say that she was over him, she was trying to say that she doesn't like him.
To those saying "Oh, I don't get why she still deserves it"...
"I was coming home from a date, I saw my ex standing in my drive-way. He had dumped me 2 months ago saying he couldn't talk me. To make him jealous, I made out with my new guy before greeting him."
That alone is still pretty fucking immature and is a YDI.
#26 - On 07/04/2009 at 8:30am by 666HailSatan666
Look, people are right when they say that trying to make him jealous was a petty thing to do, and even though the kind of 'throw it in his face' mentality behind it may have been (kinda) understandable, it was still a crap thing to do on a basic level, even without the new information. You couldn't have known what the truth was when it happened, though, so you're not actually an evil wench of doom.
Fuck your life, his life, and the life of the guy you were using to get back at your ex.
Hope he beats the cancer!
#30 - On 07/04/2009 at 8:49am by judgeymcjudge
It's never a good idea to make someone jealous by doing that, and what the OP did was really dumb and petty, but I mean COME ON PEOPLE...she didn't know that her ex had cancer. He dumped her with no good reason, and of course she was going to be upset and angry. Even if he does have cancer, her ex still sounds like he has absolutely no emotional maturity. When you're in that situation you either tell someone, or you don't, but if you don't then you have NO right to expect support from them if you haven't told them in the first place.
#35 - On 07/04/2009 at 9:12am by endless_text
im not going to say ydi because i completly agree with endless_text
#36 - On 07/04/2009 at 9:16am by colourmealy
OP, that was stupid of you to do. I kinda expected the FML to end like, "I made out before greeting him so my ex keyed my car." I probably would have. Even if he wasn't your ex, why would you stop to make out before greeting anyone who is waiting in your driveway? That's just dumb and indecent. Regardless of the circumstances of your breakup, be freaking mature about it. My ex proposed to me and then broke up with me two days later without any good cause, and STILL I wouldn't stoop to your level of maturity and make out with my boyfriend in front of him. That's just dumb.
And yet, you'd probably have keyed her car yourself... :P
#50 - On 07/04/2009 at 11:09am by judgeymcjudge
FYL because he wasn't honest with U; YDI b/c yr immature 4 making out a new boyfriend in front of him
You should be more concerned with his life rather than yours!
#41 - On 07/04/2009 at 10:52am by Bob6920
I'm gonna go here with what happened was ok. If he was too cowardly to talk to you about something that is important and he'd want your support with (the cancer), and he decided instead to dump you, then whatever followed was his fault (i.e. that you'd be mad at him.) However, always a bad idea to use one guy to make another guy feel bad. Both end up mad at you.
I really don't see what she did wrong. Yeah, she was making out with her new boyfriend, but he dumped her without any explanation and probably hurt her a lot. I think a lot more people than would admit would do the same thing or want to.
You're kind of in a rock and a hard place. I know that cancer is terrible, scary and hard to deal with, but that does not excuse the way he treated you. It's one thing to break up with you and say he's dealing with something he doesn't want to bother you with or such. It's another to dump you and say he can't speak to you anymore. I honestly wouldn't go back out with him.
#43 - On 07/04/2009 at 10:57am by xirrashunal
Where in the FML does it say he treated her badly? For all you know, he told her that he had something that he needed to think about but he wasn't ready to talk to her about it yet. People need to stop saying it's the ex's fault for not telling her the truth in the first place, but you know what? Some things are freaking hard to deal with, and a life threatening disease is one of them. Maybe he got scared because he was getting to close to her and didn't want to get even closer and then die. She's the one who was going so low to try and make him jealous, it's not like he'd gotten another girlfriend in those two months and she was just trying to do the same to him.
Sorry for the double post, my first post vanished for like a half an hour so I reposted and then my first post reappeared... stupid internet.
if you wanted to make him jealous, then you still care and just don't know how to cope well with breakups. why was he afraid to tell you? maybe you are an immature drama queen and he didn't need the stress at a difficult time in his life. you sound self centered. it's time to grow up and give him support- as a friend - not romantically.
I don't see how she deserved it. Her ex is the one who wouldn't tell her what was going on.
#51 - On 07/04/2009 at 11:12am by misslicorice
wow. he couldn't talk to you even when he did attempt to, you were too busy sucking face
YDI slut
#52 - On 07/04/2009 at 11:14am by pineapples
Yeah, she's definitely a slut for making out with her boyfriend. Slut denotes promiscuity. I think "bitch" is the word you're looking for.
#79 - On 07/04/2009 at 1:26pm by wafflemonger
It's not her fault. He should have given her SOME explanation 2 months ago, even if he wasn't ready to talk about the cancer. FYL, you didn't know.
#53 - On 07/04/2009 at 11:27am by ashb925
Maybe your personality is that fucked, he couldn't trust you about CANCER. Your life is fucked.
#55 - On 07/04/2009 at 11:28am by geesquared
Your boyfriend was stupid to break up with you because he was sick.
That shows immaturity and lack of hope. He should have told you, and if you were the real thing, you'd support him and help him try to beat it.
You do not deserve it.
#57 - On 07/04/2009 at 11:31am by InfectedWithDrew
kinda cold. The guy has cancer, you can't expect anyone in that situation to conform to your, or anyone's idea of acting rationally.
#67 - On 07/04/2009 at 12:20pm by cheesefest
I don't think you necessarily deserved this at all. Kissing someone doesn't make a person a slut, and unless you know how this guy broke up with her you can't say she was just an immature bitch. Sounds to me like he must've given a pretty lame excuse. Trying to make someone jealous isn't really a "mature" thing to do but give me a break, like anyone here is genuinely above trying it. Yeah, sucks for him, but not the OP's fault that he didn't tell her. For the most part having trust issues is a personal problem.
#63 - On 07/04/2009 at 11:56am by alrightyeah
Yea you don't deserve this. He sounded like a jackass. FYL
#66 - On 07/04/2009 at 12:20pm by FuzzyWalnuts
Today, I was going to ask my ex that I dumped to take me back, coz i know she is still single, but when I got there she was making out with some other dude just to make me jealous. I was so pissed I made up this BS story about cancer. Now I have to shave my head so she will believe me when I tell her I got "cured". FML.
#68 - On 07/04/2009 at 12:24pm by I_am_stupid_also
And to all of you people saying the OP is disgusting or a bitch, grow the fuck up. I highly doubt any of you have never done anything like this, so that just means you all are hypocrites. YOU make me sick.
P.S. I saw a comment saying that they'd do the same but the OP is a bitch. That means you're a bitch too dumb fuck.
#69 - On 07/04/2009 at 12:26pm by FuzzyWalnuts
should have talked it over after breaking up and found out the whole cancer snazz. Too bad; now you're officially a bitch.
YDI. Why try and make someone jealous, it's pathetic really. Hope you learnt your lesson from this.
#71 - On 07/04/2009 at 12:29pm by Alexgoesfml
man.. fhl. fyl. ydi in a way..
sucks he's got cancer.. :|
so does my aunt.
but, like.. BITCH PLEASE ?
then again.. i cant say i haven't tried to make ex's jelous.
it works, but thats just harsh :O ..
#72 - On 07/04/2009 at 12:37pm by thisislove
does this person honestly think that her life is f-ed??? YOUR A MORON!!!!!! And, it may just be me, but I'm sensing some unresolved issues.
#73 - On 07/04/2009 at 12:41pm by YDIprobably
well if the guy dumped her out of the blue with minimal explanation, she has every right to be pissed. It's difficult situation. If it was me i might have done the same thing. Immature, perhaps, but not a terrible mean or slutty thing to do. FYL hunny, it really does suck.
how is it her fault that HE randomly dumped her?? how would she know he had cancer, and why shouldn't she do something dick back to him when he shows up out of nowhere? f his life, not yours, not your fault he's too stupid to discuss something important with you instead of just dumping you.
The whole "throw it in your ex's face" behavior is so childish. Only teenagers do that crap. Grow up.
You deserve cancer.
Just because someone does something immature (and who is to say that OP is NOT in fact a teenager, therefore making it a normal thing), does not mean they deserve cancer, you fucking prick. There are people posting on here who have lost loved ones to cancer and it's not something you wish on anyone.
#86 - On 07/04/2009 at 2:30pm by caticaticati
Why is everybody being so snarky and YDI? Shame on the ex for dumping you and thinking you couldn't handle it! Granted trying to make him jealous wasn't cool, but if he was expecting you to be all hung up about him two months later...FHisLife, not yours!
#82 - On 07/04/2009 at 2:14pm by ToonAddict
YDI. Unless he cheated on you then broke up with you for something stupid, you had no right or reason to try to make him look bad. What you did was childish and bitchy. Get over yourself.
#83 - On 07/04/2009 at 2:14pm by BLNovelist
I feel really sorry for him, but he should've told you, and he dumped you which is on him. You can't be expected never to date again after he broke up with you.
#84 - On 07/04/2009 at 2:18pm by mustlovemarvin
You deserve it for being a bitch, he deserves it for not just coming out and telling you about the cancer...but then again people do weird things after breakups or horrible diagnoses, so it's a draw. I hope you can work things out.
ydi that you're such a bitch your boyfriend is afraid to talk to you.
#87 - On 07/04/2009 at 2:32pm by squigglyshark
Awww...poor guy. Messed up that you would do that. You should have at least tried to talk to him before acting out of spite. Well, if you guys do choose to get back together, best of luck.
#88 - On 07/04/2009 at 2:35pm by missjazzy_love
Poor guy. Cancer... that is terribly. It was mean of you...
#89 - On 07/04/2009 at 2:42pm by Sparkled
how would it be her fault? he broke up with her, seemingly to her for no reason, and she deserves it for trying to make him jealous with her new guy? any girl would do that, because it's obvious she was hurt by it. and she didn't know he had cancer. this is clearly not a ydi.
Yeah, any stupid, immature girl would've done that. It's not her fault she never grew up!
#94 - On 07/04/2009 at 3:42pm by goodevilgenius
Wow, you really deserved that one. Instead of acting like a petty teenager when you saw him, maybe you should've tried acting like a human being.
#91 - On 07/04/2009 at 3:36pm by goodevilgenius
why are yall so focused on her emotions.
its the other guy that could fucking die...im pretty sure its a fhislife on this one...fuck her emotions she can get over it. you cant get over cancer.
uhh he wasn't able to talk to you b4, but why do you think he was standing in ur driveway? srsly think about it he was there to talk and you basically blew him off wtg
#100 - On 07/04/2009 at 4:22pm by slamdnkindrummer
you are dumb and heartlesss .... you just made ur self look like a slut by doin that ....
#102 - On 07/04/2009 at 4:41pm by bb1_00
I'm sorry but thats his fault... if you were in a relationship and he couldn't share something that serious with you than too bad. All in all, I'm sorry about him getting cancer but he did dump you so you're free to do what you want love.
you're a mega bitch and deserve to feel bad about that for the rest of your life
#104 - On 07/04/2009 at 8:04pm by aaaaa12345
that sucks for you i feel bad for you cause you didnt know and you probably hurt him a little bit you dont deserve it your life is just fucked
#106 - On 07/04/2009 at 8:50pm by underdog16
I struggle to find the words to say how much i loath all you fucking smart mouth, know it all, hindsight wiseguys who comment on posts like this saying shit like "you're a mega bitch and deserve to feel bad about that for the rest of your life". I'm going to have a damn good stab though.
Have you the slightest comprehension about how little contribution you make to the human race when you deign to comment on someone else's fuck up, when I'd lay money on the fact that pretty much all of you have done something stupid (i'd almost go so far as to say i'd guarantee it) in the emotional wars of the sexes, jealousy games and such nonsense, yet you swagger on to my monitor and post shit like "How could you be so heartless?" i mean did you even read the fucking post before you mashed your fingers on the keyboard and contributed another line of offal to the internet shit pile?
Hell if I'd been dumped and saw my ex standing outside my house while i had a date i'd ignore the shit out of her ass for a while and show off too. OP, while your ex has definately outbid you at the FML tables, i sympathise with you, you must have felt like shit.
And don't get me started on "Ur a hoe", Grammar, spelling, textspeak. The literal sentence suggesting that an ancient middle eastern city is in fact a gardening implement makes me want to break the man's fingers or keyboard, whichever is likely to last longer. This just to save myself the pain of having my low expectations of the human race further dropped by such illiteracy.
I couldn't have said it better myself at all.
Really though people, it's not like she KNEW he had cancer in the first place. Honestly I would have done the same thing. Most of you people would have done it too! It's not like she had sex in front of him! Plus he dumped her which must have left her with a lof of mixed feelings.
#112 - On 07/05/2009 at 12:04am by RyleaLuvsDinos
It's still immature to do such an action regardless of how they feel emotionally. Then again, she is probably a teenager of this pathetic, fucked up generation.
Oh, and you should go and take a look in the fucking mirror since I can see a lot of spelling and grammatical errors you stupid nutter.
And who are you to question the human race! "I'd been dumped and saw my ex standing outside my house while i had a date i'd ignore the shit out of her ass for a while and show off too.". ROFL, you stupid little nigger.
#117 - On 07/05/2009 at 1:54am by 666HailSatan666
It wouldn't matter if he had cancer or not, YDI for being a passive-aggressive cunt.
Be an adult. Even if you aren't yet (you sound 14-16ish) just try.
#108 - On 07/04/2009 at 10:12pm by FoundManyLemons
Wow you people need to calm the fuck down and stop ragging on her. It's not her fault if her ex didn't tell her he had cancer. She knew nothing.
What you did is understandable because you didn't know. You don't deserve it, but it's not FYL. FHL! He's the one with cancer, and he's the one who saw you make out with the new guy and probably felt really uncomfortable and upset. I would bet that he still likes/loves you, too. This is really sad...
At least he came to explain his actions, now it is time for you to explain the reasoning behind yours. I hope that all works out between the two of you and that his treatments are successful in getting rid of the cancer. Best of luck! :)
#116 - On 07/05/2009 at 1:17am by whensdinner
I said YDI for trying to make one guy jealous of another by using one, but FYL about the whole Cancer part. You're not a Mind-reader! Oh, and I love how the comments show the exact opposite of what the votes say (FYL vs. YDI)
P.S. If people keep replying to the first comment in anything other than an Actual reply to that individual comment (because they want their comment to be on top) I'm going to start thumbing them down.
#120 - On 07/05/2009 at 5:38am by nightDREAMERms
eh its not your fault. it mustve sucked for him to see that buut who would've known? shit happens.
a good amount of people might have done what you did.
#121 - On 07/05/2009 at 6:17am by winemysavior
YDI for trying to make him jealous
&&
FHL cause cancer's just a bitch.
#123 - On 07/05/2009 at 2:14pm by kelsey_LYNN
YDI most defiantly. Trying to make he jealous? Grow up and don't be a bitch!
#125 - On 07/05/2009 at 6:01pm by TadaSQUIRRELZ
FYL. It's not your fault that he wasn't man enough to face his illness and tell you, and don't listen to any of the other fools saying otherwise. All you knew, all you had to go on, was that he wouldn't talk to you and that you hadn't seen him in two months.
So go ahead and feel sorry for what happened to him, but don't feel bad about how you reacted to him showing up at your place after two months. You did nothing wrong.
#126 - On 07/06/2009 at 12:11am by Kristoffer
What kind of immature, slutty, narcissistic bitch are you? Was HE mean or rude to you when he dumped you? instead of being a bitch, you probably should have TALKED to him. That is how most adults take care of personal issues these days. At least the ones who don't have their head filled with methane (methane because I am hoping you get a static shock and makes your head explode).
#128 - On 07/06/2009 at 1:30am by Uconnrunner
You deserved it and not because he has cancer. You were trying to make him jealous, How childish
#131 - On 07/07/2009 at 1:13am by dreadkid08
wow... i feel really bad for him. i could see if you made out with the other guy if you were passing by your ex or something, but he was standing in your driveway, so wouldnt you assume he had something important to say? poor guy... :[
#132 - On 07/07/2009 at 7:56pm by cLaAaNdEsTiNe
The amount of people calling you a bitch is ridiculous. He was your ex. How the hell were you supposed to know he had cancer? Everyone tries to make people jealous, maybe not all the time but they do do it. The only reason you're getting this reaction is because your ex had cancer. And if hadn't been so afraid to tell you in the first place this would never have happened.
Yeah cancer is scary, but you don't hide something like that from your partner. You didn't deserve it.
I have a feeling it had more to do with you not really listening to him and still being stuck in the mentality of a high school melodramatic 90210 moment than him having cancer. chances are he really couldn't talk to you, if you'd do something that vindictive and heartless.
Seriously, grow the hell up. Trying to make someone jealous is petty and even if he didn't have cancer and had just broken up with you to be a jerk, all you'd be doing is stooping to his level.
I mean seriously, the boy was standing in your driveway, don't you think he had a reason to be there?
If I were you, I'd be kissing some serious ass.
#134 - On 07/08/2009 at 11:44am by Matdredalia
ouch...of course that had to be pretty painful but you didn't know.It's not like you knew and were doing it just to be cruel.At the same time,maybe he didn't tell you because he felt it would burden you.It's more like an FYL/FHLmoment
#135 - On 07/31/2009 at 4:44am by JabezRodriguez
you know..id love to say YDI...but i would prolly do the same thing if my boyfriend left me and didnt tell me any reason why haha. id be pissed. but thats not your fault that he was lame and didnt tell you why and you had no idea. so im going to say FYL.
#137 - On 08/05/2009 at 2:28am by fartmouth123
