Today, I finally decided to tell him I love him. He told me that he loved me too... like a sister! The love of my life has been sleeping with his "sister" for three months. FML
I agree, your life sucks (49193) - you totally deserved it (2734)
On 03/27/2009 at 11:15pm - love - by Samsonites (woman) - United States (Pennsylvania)
Well it could have been a slip of the tongue. He most likely does not think of you as a sister. I say most likely because there is a chance that he is an incest obsessed freak. But he probably just added on "sister" to analogize his love for you.
........................................................................................................................................................................I'm speechless.
like i said in comment #3, maybe the poster is his sister
#10 - On 03/28/2009 at 6:39am by King_of_Kings
you deserve this for sleeping with someone before getting to the point where you told each other you loved each other.
You may not believe it, but psychologists are sure that if a person loves someone, this love has been "transferred" to that someone from one's RELATIVE. Mom, dad, brother, sister... They think it's f*cking normal.
geez! this is NOT awkward! it means he loves you like he loves a family member! thats a damn LOT!
#14 - On 03/28/2009 at 7:30am by edwardcullenisme
at least, he loved you not as brother. or mother. or dog.
#15 - On 03/28/2009 at 7:38am by UlmarBroemel
Oh come on, at least he didn't call you a dog or say he doesn't love you, etc - there could have been tons of worse answers than sister !
#17 - On 03/28/2009 at 8:08am by PlasticShark
Why are people saying if you sleep with someone before telling them you love them you're a slut? That's ridiculous. I mean, your first time, personally I think you should wait until you're in love.... but afterwards? Not unless you want to. If you're happy to beforehand, then what's wrong with that? As long as you're safe and use protection of course.
OP: ouuuuch.
Incest = WINcest. Every guy has a fantasy about boning his sister or stepsister (even if she is imaginary). You should take it as a compliment.
#22 - On 03/28/2009 at 9:05am by UrLifeDoesntSuck
its okay..... i've been in that boat before too.. only it was about a year and a half when he told me he loved me like a sister..
#23 - On 03/28/2009 at 9:20am by strs2filmidreams
It's been said before, but it's what you get for doing someone before you even told them you love them.
#25 - On 03/28/2009 at 9:24am by Paynegwynn
that's why you say "i love you" before you do the dirty ;)
#27 - On 03/28/2009 at 9:45am by jillian_xx
I agree with #21. Love and sex basically have nothing to do with each other anymore, except for the fact that people in love like sex too.
Welcome to high school boys and girls. Pro-tip for all you crazy hormonal kids out there: You do not need to find your soulmate in high school, nor should you expect a relationship to be taken seriously for another 5 years.
I know there will be a backlash of idiots saying "IT DON'T SAY TEH OP IS IN HIGH SKOOL" So I'll just say now, can you read this and seriously not think so?
#31 - On 03/28/2009 at 10:26am by Misanthropist
I was in almost the exact same scenario (being called a sister by a guy I was sleeping with for 2 months), except I never said "I love you" and, in retrospect, never did. Also, FYI, this does happen to people of all ages. I was in post-graduate school when it happened to me.
But yeah, #32 is pretty much right--when a guy says that it's code for his not wanting commitment and just seeing you as a booty call. Stop doing whatever you're doing with him, don't look back, take a break, rethink your whole love life and interactions with men, and start over.
i agree with #21
i don't think you have to love someone to have sex. doesn't mean you're a slut O_o
and to the OP:
i don't think he really meant a sister as in "incest". i think that was his subtle way of telling you he doesn't want a relationship but is happy to f* you. sorry for you :/
Oh man. I know how THAT goes. Sorry hun, but he's a douche.
#38 - On 03/28/2009 at 12:06pm by fillmyheart028
wow thats so weird. i told my boyfriend i loved him.
and he said to me "i love you too. as a bestfriend or a sister"
broke my heart :/
If he doesn't return your feelings then he's not "the love of your life". and having a fuck buddy doesn't necessarily make you a slut, but here's some advice for the little girls out there:
sleeping with a guy is not the guaranteed way to make him date you! 9 times out of 10 if you give it up right away without a commitment he will keep screwing you while he looks for ms. right, who in turn will not want to hook up until after they're actually together.
#41 - On 03/28/2009 at 12:40pm by thisismyname
how can he be the love of your life after three months and youve never said you loved him until now ?
#45 - On 03/28/2009 at 1:28pm by pumpkincakes
At least he cares about you in some way. Pretty fucked up on his part to sleep with a "sister". Then again it's your own fault for sleeping with him when neither of you knew how the other person felt.
#46 - On 03/28/2009 at 1:54pm by wat_the_eff
#13: [citation needed]
And I agree with #21 — love shouldn't be a definitive prerequisite for sex.
As for the OP: Unfortunately, that isn't a good sign. He's probably trying to ease you out of a commitment. At least that's how I see it.
#48 - On 03/28/2009 at 2:11pm by dannydawriter
13 - that's freud. people stopped believing most of what he said 50 years ago
21- saying things like "sex and love have nothing to do with each other anymore" is vile and ignorant. read some facts. when a girl has sex her brain is flooded with oxytocin - the falling-in-love hormone. biologically, she wants to settle down with her lifelong mate who will protect herself and her children. men want to spread their genetic makeup to as many women as possible to ensure the survival of their genes. so while sex and love might be separate for males, they are intimately linked for females. how can you say we are liberating women if everyone's hailing the masculine view of sex??? this postmodern society needs to wake up.
mate, ive been there. get out now....its basically a way of him saying he doesnt want the commitment.
#54 - On 03/28/2009 at 4:04pm by philopastry
that's more of a messed up thing on his part.....not urs!! i mean u actually loved him, he loved u because u remind him of his sister.... and if that's the way he treated his sister, than he's just....CREEPY!!
#56 - On 03/28/2009 at 4:42pm by No_Words24
It's still horrible to sleep with a boyfriend you don't love. If you just want sex and don't want the commitment of soul connection and self discovery (which every non sex buddy relationship should strive for) then make that clear. If you did then changed your mind, then that's okay too. I just hope you were prepared to be burned. My old flame did the same thing to me because he was trying to place some sort of psychological disorder on *me*- not him. Hope this helps for the future.
#57 - On 03/28/2009 at 4:44pm by PepPlacid127
#52 - Owned. You just penis whipped everyone with your words. (Not trying to say your a male)
I bow down.
#58 - On 03/28/2009 at 5:04pm by MukyDaCookie
Um....3 months?!? You probably just freaked him out by saying you loved him after such a short time being together. I know many guys (and girls) who would get a little bit weirded out by that. Saying you love someone implies a certain level of commitment to that person, which he may not be ready for right now.
#52 - Why is it that people who want to "liberate" women try to generalize about the entire gender? Yes, that is what happens on a chemical level in our brains but that doesn't mean we all react the in same way. Why don't you speak for yourself and I'll worry about speaking for me.
sex doesn't equal love hun, once u realize that the better off u will be
3 months is hardly enough time to fall in love either
#63 - On 03/28/2009 at 7:02pm by sunshyne84
Ugh. Is anyone else tired of these posts obviously made by a 15-year-old who can barely type a cohesive sentence? This is a terrible FML. No one cares about the facade of a love life by someone barely older than a fetus.
#64 - On 03/28/2009 at 7:10pm by Freak_Feet
i agree with #61 - maybe that's what happens in our brains, but i've already had sex just for fun and i remember CLEARLY that i did not want to have children with the guy. i just wanted sex, that's all. so don't generalize.
If I have to spend the rest of my life with a guy, I would much rather have that relationship based on friendship than on romantic feelings. Romance passes but friendship lasts. Of course sex would/could be part of the deal.
I would not be offended if a guy told me he loves me like his sister. Unless of course he hates his sister or does mean to say that he doesn't want sex. But I don't think it's bad per se.
#69 - On 03/29/2009 at 5:03am by tannenbaum
This is dumb.
He probably just ment that he loves you a lot, as much as a family member.
you're just really stupid to make the jump to incest, unless there is something else you're not telling us, like you caught him banging his sister or something.
in some cultures, saying something like that would be considered a huge compliment and would mean he was very serious about you.
His "sister" with benefits? Haha. Wow. That just sucks tho. I think you should've explained to him that your feelings run deeper than just simply being friends or sex buddies.
#72 - On 03/29/2009 at 7:41pm by maiden_girl
Honestly, my fiancé said that he loved me like a sister before we started dating. I misinterpreted it at the time and took it as him not being into me. I was pretty crushed for a while, but we were both still crazy about each other. And ended up dating a couple years later into our friendship. And then obviously, got engaged and are about to get married.
Turns out that it was his way of telling me that he cared about me a LOT... as much more than a mere friend. Sometimes guys just don't say things in the clearest way, but it doesn't necessarily mean they don't like you or like you in some perverse way.
that is sick and twisted. Good luck to both of you. break up. that is wrong. he is using you if he only loves you like a sister. why would you sleep with him.
#75 - On 03/30/2009 at 6:59pm by twilightgirl21
I love how people use this website to start arguments so they can spew their personal beliefs onto everyone's shoes in the vacinity, all the while not realizing that this website was not meant to serve that purpose. It's here for laughs, take your bullshit elsewhere.
oh and when i said love, i meant hate :)
i feel your pain, the love of my life said the same thing to me. and also added that having sex with me was like having sex with his 'red- headed step sister' weve been together for 3 years now, now FML
#78 - On 04/01/2009 at 10:14pm by darkwavegirl
I understand. Last week I told the guy I'm head over heels for that I like him, to put it blandly. I was 99% sure that he wouldn't like me back. I was right. We'd been having sex with each other for about 9 months. He's my best friend. Now I get to sit back and watch him hook up with other girls and act like it doesn't bother me, while I hopelessly wait for him to grow up out of his party phase and choose me.
I've never been more comfortable with another guy in my life.
Every action of affection he's shown me, which any other person would expect only a couple to behave like, has all just been in a friendly way. FML.
#79 - On 04/08/2009 at 7:32pm by kathryn_noel
HAH!
Wow.. that guy seems to be terrible with words. This reminds me of that Seinfeld episode where George says "I love you" to a girl and she responds with "I know".
You sleep with him for three months without ever telling him that you love him?? What the truck is this ... ?
#87 - On 06/08/2009 at 2:55pm by Garanaw
Girl I know how exactly how you feel I did the same thing just two days ago! And he said you have my love but in a big brother way. And I have been sleeping with him over a year and last month he said he would love to date me! It's a big bummer to find that out but just remember, you have his love but he's an ass for doing that bs!!
#88 - On 07/06/2009 at 2:38am by starsweetness
wow, Freak_Feet, since when has being fifteen been barely more than a fetus? at what age do you become a normal person, then? idiot. oh, and I think that my sentances are pretty damn coherent, thank you, as I'm 15, gifted, and have the writing level of a university graduate. (I've had this tested). so keep spouting your nonsensical crap, and be laughed at by all the people that are proving you wrong. dumbass.
#90 - On 08/05/2009 at 10:41pm by bubblybrooke
Do all university graduates spell "sentences" wrong, and not capitalize the beginning of their sentences?
[sarcasm] Wow # 90, I totaly believe you! You probably have the best writing skills in the world!
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#93 - On 10/25/2009 at 12:13am by Bloonbloon
actually it happened to me too my ex did that and I still can't trust a man
#98 - On 02/20/2010 at 5:24pm by kaieleigh
