Today, I realised that the man who I wanted to be with, the man who wanted to be with me, and my husband were three different people. FML
I agree, your life sucks (29609) - you totally deserved it (14497)
On 09/13/2009 at 5:27am - love - by sunburychick (woman) - Australia (Victoria)
If you don't want to be with your husband, and your husband doesn't want to be with you, how/why the hell did you two get married?
People change over time. It happens. I don't get #101, people do change so much that they can't handle being together anymore. She doesn't want to be with her husband, and he doesn't want to be with her. Giving up on it isn't the weak way out- it's the responsible handling of emotions. "Hey, my life sucks, but I'm not going to do anything about it because it would be weak of me to do it!" Just like all the people Kevorkian helped were weak because they got out of their suffering, right?
Anyway, this does suck. It's unfortunate but I wonder what's going on in your life to cause this.
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YDI for being slutty and cheating on ur husband
She never said she was cheating. She wants someone else, she and her husband don't want each other anymore, and she wants someone else... that doesn't make her a cheating whore.
I think at one point she wanted to be with him, but feelings change over time, and she thinks that maybe it's time to move on. Not everyone can last in a lifelong marriage.
Alright, all you bitchass people saying Americans speak "American..." well. Shit. It doesn't even matter! English is English, we hanve our slang and special spellings, you have yours. Get over it. Americans didn't "ruin" the English language, it's been modified over time. I bet you say lou, we say toilet, you say mum we say all versions of mother. And if you really want to talk about people butchering things, let's talk about how England tortured the Irish for 800+ years. How bout that? How bout we just do "the Modest Proposal" and eat the babies?! Some Irish nom nomz?? Fuck you and your tea! And you have McDonalds too bitch! Everywhere does! In some countries they're actually sit down and order resturaunts. Anyways my point is that yeah maybe we did fuck up your language, at least we didn't fuck up an entire country for 800+ years!!!
#137 - On 09/13/2009 at 4:48pm by bmoney2011
I love how everyone here, from reading your one sentence, is judging you and giving you advice like they know your life.
#163 - On 09/13/2009 at 11:55pm by spiderman0606
@137 just shutup, youre making yourself look stupid.
#165 - On 09/14/2009 at 12:26am by organisedchaos
#137 thats just becuz amerika has been around for 800 yrs...im sure uve fucked up plenty of countries in less than 800 yrs uve been around! not mention oh those ppl whos land u stole & those ppl u stole from a continent and enslave then mistreat for 100s of yrs! lets face ur all assholes!
#190 - On 09/14/2009 at 2:12pm by FuckMyLyphe
fuckmylyphe, where are you from? Name one country that has been around for over 200 years that has not fucked up at least one other country.
And by been around, I mean been independent.
#192 - On 09/14/2009 at 2:30pm by boatkicker
oops typo... i meant "amerika hasnt been around for 800 yrs" lol anyway that was a reply to #137 so if u fix my typo and read #137 then u shud get it...
#195 - On 09/14/2009 at 3:04pm by FuckMyLyphe
Ya, because Australia is infamous for arranged marriages.
#197 - On 09/14/2009 at 5:00pm by rockstarK9
haha i read yours and scrolled down to 14 to see what it was. LMAO
#58 - On 09/13/2009 at 11:58am by chanman
@14: PWNT.
Well, you don't like the guy who likes you, tell him to buzz off, stop looking for attention. The guy you like is not interested, stop stalking him. Divorce your husband, if you two don't want to be together... then don't.
ydi, i don't know what happened, but you should really be trying to work on that insted of posting yur story on fml.
wtf do u think the fml site is even for? of course she's gonna try to work it out when she can but duh this site is about getting it off your chest in the first place
You probably should have "realized" this before you got married. YDI for marrying someone you don't want to be with.
#10 - On 09/13/2009 at 10:27am by FerrariCake
even if she was in love with her husband, she still deserves it for pretty much being just stupid. just so many reasons why YDI.
#49 - On 09/13/2009 at 11:44am by the_stereotype
she also deserves it for not knowing how to spell realized
#68 - On 09/13/2009 at 12:27pm by funny_story
There are different correct ways to spell it. People speak English outside of the United States, like Canada, Australia, & England. You should all r-r-realise this by now. ;]
+ What #80 said.
That's true, but whenever I write realised, I get the dotted red line. I'm Canadian, and I've got it on Canadian spell check. =P
#96 - On 09/13/2009 at 1:42pm by possumisawesome
I love you. I give you my hand in marriage. It will arrive in 5-7 business days.
#121 - On 09/13/2009 at 3:31pm by Intoxicunt
You missed ungrateful and whoreish, but your heart was in the right place.
#28 - On 09/13/2009 at 11:00am by Microbiologist
wait wait #39 gangster rap has nothing to do with it
now if we bring christian rap into this...thats just full of mind corrupting nonsense thats what that is
#150 - On 09/13/2009 at 7:49pm by greenltrn2003
i think that if it starts with "today, i realized" then it shouldnt be allowed to be on fml.
#19 - On 09/13/2009 at 10:46am by sabrinalovey
agreed... it should be "today, i realiSed."
not your point but i hate american spelling. theyve butchered the english language with their mcdonalds and their angus burgers...
#21 - On 09/13/2009 at 10:48am by penizulaface
Christ, with sweeping generalisations like that, it's no wonder some Americans have turned all arrogant and hateful towards the rest of the world as a result. 'Realized', 'realised', they're both legitimate in both dialects, get over yourself, troll. And don't even think about flaming me, at least not until you make your profile public and add some real detail so you don't have the anonymity assholes crave.
And I hate the use of unnecessary u's. "Colour" sounds just like "color". What's the point of the extra vowel?
I could say that you British people just sit around a drink tea and eat crumpets all day, but I'm not stupid enough to believe stereotypes.
#25 - On 09/13/2009 at 10:55am by suckstobeyou3
Pretty sure REALIZED was around well before McDonald's. Maybe I'll go to your country and spit huge gobs of chewing gum onto your streets while shouting obnoxiously in your ear about how much I just fucking LOVED George Bush just to punish you for thinking that that's what all Americans are like. Then you'll hate us even more but your opinion won't make a damn bit of difference to anyone.
#36 - On 09/13/2009 at 11:17am by RoguePenguin
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lol i hate bush lol
GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO OBAAMAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAaa
#40 - On 09/13/2009 at 11:23am by fmylifegurl
the british people on here bitching about americans are so fucking annoying. do even know how the english language was started? it was people changing up latin like the americans are to queen english, and they changed it so much it became it's own fucking language, so STFU.
#52 - On 09/13/2009 at 11:47am by the_stereotype
"agreed... it should be 'today, i realiSed.'
not your point but i hate american spelling. theyve butchered the english language with their mcdonalds and their angus burgers..."
Yet you fail to use correct capitalization and apostrophes? Sounds like someone is slightly hypocritical....
#53 - On 09/13/2009 at 11:48am by adelaide_evening
Oh FFS Realised and Realized are BOTH accepted in the dictionary and you use them according to whatever nationality you are. NEVERTHELESS they are both CORRECT
Now, fuck off and eat Mcdonalds or drink tea.
Now now, let's be honest here. If anyone is wreaking havoc on the English language, it's the internet.
That's not actually true. While English does use a lot of words derived from Latin, the language actually is made up of almost equal parts of Latin, French and Germanic languages...it did NOT come about from just some people butchering the Latin language -_-
#57 - On 09/13/2009 at 11:56am by Puolukka
yeah, English was actually Germanic, and then took on a lot of French and Latin loan words, prefixes, suffixes, etc etc.
And British spellings are absolutely ridiculous. I'm surprised that the movement to reform orthography doesn't hold more steam there. For god's sakes, MANOEUVRE??
#60 - On 09/13/2009 at 12:00pm by chanman
Erm, Yeah that is all well and good, but can we please refer to the american language as American not english then please. I have no problem at all with how you speak/write in America, but to be honest, saying you speak/write English is just damned insulting.
#63 - On 09/13/2009 at 12:09pm by bickymonster
On behalf of England I apologise for #21 (or apologize if you really must speak it American I guess). Not only did they start a fight about spelling with a post that's far from perfect English, but they also somehow entirely failed to realise (/ize) that Angus burgers come from Scotland.
#64 - On 09/13/2009 at 12:12pm by TomFantastic
Why is it offensive? The English language has nothing to do with you. You did not create it, you do not own it, and you probably have very little idea of how to use it. Get over your delusions of self importance, no language belongs to you or anyone else.
English was technically created from French, Latin, and German, but French itself is mostly a bastardization of Latin. That's why its called a Romance Language: because it's from the language spoken by Romans. French, Spanish, Portuguese, Italian, Romanian. All derived from Latin. I'm sure there are others too, but I only happen to know those 5 off the top of my head.
#69 - On 09/13/2009 at 12:29pm by boatkicker
Good GOD, who the fuck cares how it's spelled? Shut the fuck up and understand that there are things called LANGUAGES and that there are different variations and dialects of it. Do you think the Chinese bitch about which is correct, Mandarin or Cantonese? Get over yourselves and stop being so damn petty. Z or S, it doesn't matter, and you just look pathetic whining about it.
#87 - On 09/13/2009 at 1:13pm by Witchcraft
it's called AMERICAN english for a reason, idiot
we spell it realized
we also spell color COLOR not "colour"
big deal. it's like different spanish speaking countries have different spelling/words for things. calm your ass down and think of better things to worry about in the world besides how another country spells their own dialect.
lololol
sorry, i actually did, in all honesty, try to make that post out of irony - hence, "angus" burger. im half scottish, not retarded. i wanted to see how many people would go ZOMGAMERICAFTW... its quite a few. i dont get how it seems that the entirety of america adores its country yet so many english people hate england.
having said that, i do kinda agree with the engish/american thing though. yes, its retarded to you for us to use s or add extra us, but to us, being brought up with these spellings its... kinda annoying when people say color. to me that just reminds me the word of colon.... it just looks WRONG.
anyways yeaahh... i wasnt serious... but your comments made me lol.
and i dont get how any americans can ever get depressed, you all seem to be so happy and irratatingly optomistic...
#100 - On 09/13/2009 at 1:53pm by penizulaface
"MANOEUVRE" comes from the french word, so technically, the spelling is indeed MANOEUVRE, so you are wrong my friend.
And the French word comes from the Latin "manuoperari," does that make the French version wrong? No. Unless you have a degree in linguistics, shut the fuck up about etymology already.
No we can't you dumbass, because English isn't even the US official language because news flash America has no official language. Research that shit.
penizulaface, we do have angus burgers here, though I've never had one.
Also, many of the Americans I know do not love this country.
There are great things about it, but it mostly is just sad.
So much (seemingly) wasted potential.
But I'm mainly just speaking for myself, seeing as I am incredibly cynical and pessimistic.
color looks like colon! lol! you made my day! and now, i'm going to think of that every time i see it.
anyway, everyone else, no one really cares. if you understood the point, then zhut the fouck up.
#138 - On 09/13/2009 at 5:01pm by the_stereotype
#21, you are incredibly dumb. who the fuck cares how Americans spell things. Seriously, just stfu and go complain to people who care. Because we definitely don't. America's the shit.
No, I think you realized after getting so much feedback how stupid you were in your post. "I was just kidding" stopped working when you were five.
#185 - On 09/14/2009 at 12:12pm by BlueBomber
... you think wrong. oh good god, i did it to get replies about how much you love your country and what a dick i am.
idgaf if you dont think i meant it like that, but c'mon. im half scottish. my great grandad was actually called angus seaforth..
and you are a retard. ^^
#201 - On 09/15/2009 at 4:46am by penizulaface
This has happened to me and it's not really your fault. Sometimes you can't choose who you love, however you can choose your actions. I suggest that you cut off contact with the two people who aren't your husband, even though this may be difficult for you to do, it's probably the only way to save your marriage. Lucky for me, those three people are the same for me :)
#22 - On 09/13/2009 at 10:51am by 5m4r7ch1x0r
Why? If she doesn't want to be with her husband and he doesn't want to be with her they should get a divorce. Marriage has no inherit value and doesn't need to be saved. Sure, if she couldn't choose between her husband and the other guy or it was another deep-rooted problem that doesn't instantaneously destroy the only reason you'd get married in any civilized country I'd agree with cutting off the problem to save the marriage, but if you just don't want to be with them the marriage is pointless.
@ #99. That is the American mentality. All you care about yourself, individualism at it's best. But have you of thought of the family? Do you think kids enjoy growing up with their parents bitter about each other, or separated? Have you heard of the phrase "learn to love?" All these things seem to be over your head. That is the problem with American marriages is that they are so self-centered about one's happiness. If you think about it, if both are willing to make sacrifices along the way, everyone would be happy and really love each other, rather than build bitterness and distance each other. If you're an individualist, great, but for some of us, there is a lot more to life that just me me me me.
#109 - On 09/13/2009 at 2:25pm by myshatteredview
to 109: I disagree about your comment on thinking about the children. I grew up the child of divorced parents who hated each other. I loved being with my parents, but even when they were just dropping me off/picking me up, every interaction between them was hell for me. Constant fighting and bitterness. It hurts more to see two people you love fighting, than it does to only see ones person at a time.
Learning to love is the best option, but sometimes it doesn't work and it's best to end it, before things are worse for any child that might exist.
#111 - On 09/13/2009 at 2:34pm by boatkicker
#109
The family? Who ever said the OP has kids? The only family that we know exists is the husband and he doesn't want to be with her. Besides, I assure you I'm much better off with my parents seperated. Divorce doesn't always hurt the kids.
No, I care about things and people other than myself. But, since we could tell by the OP that the marriage is good for niether the OP nor her husband, it would be cruel to force them to stay in the marriage.
Learn to love? I've never heard that phrase.
Umm, not necessarily. You should be able to make sacrifices for your relationship, but that doesn't mean the other person will love them. Besides, if the OP doesn't want to be with her husband why the fuck would she make sacrifices to make him love her?
I'm not an individualist, I just don't think people should stay with people they don't want to be with for no good reason.
Seriously, people are so self-centered and THAT'S why 50% of marriages end in divorce. You choose who you marry and you enter a freaking contract. Feelings DON'T just disappear, the relationship just deteriorates if you don't put effort into it. What was that saying again? "The grass is always greener where you water it."
People don't "fall out of love" overnight and without control. It is definitely something you can control - people just decide it's easier to give up and then they wonder why they've been divorced 6 times - they're just "unlucky in love" and it's like, no you shithead it's all your fault.
Yes - this. Marriage and love take effort and learning. People don't "just" change, they either change together and continue pursuing eachother or they change and stop considering that their significant other is changing, too. If you get to a place, emotionally, where the OP is now, it is your fault, at least partially. As many point out, we never know the whole story.
#186 - On 09/14/2009 at 12:16pm by BlueBomber
#182
No, 50% of marriages end in divorce because America rightfully knows there's no good reason to keep a marriage going if you're with someone you hate
You don't think feelings could naturally change over time? Even if you do maintain your relationship? Seriously?
Ok, the odds are most people who have been divorced 6 times are at least somewhat at fault and aren't making enough sacrifices. I concede there.
You have my sympathies on that (and my first post) The person I want to be with is engaged to someone else, if she marries him, I lose, if they break up then she'll never trust another man again and I still lose. No-one can help what they feel.
#24 - On 09/13/2009 at 10:52am by Paper_Tiger
Idiot lol. She's probably meaning it in the sense of personality. She thought her husband is someone who he isn't; she thought her husband wanted to be with her but he wasn't who she thought he was.
Did you know the person reading this, the person who gives a damn, and your therapist are 3 different people too?
Mean reply, but funny.
OP, sort your shit out.
I sympathize more with your husband though.
I bet the poor man has no clue.
#44 - On 09/13/2009 at 11:29am by barlessprison
been there, done that except my "husband" was my boyfriend xPP
#29 - On 09/13/2009 at 11:00am by abandonship
This is just sad. If you ever did love your husband, it can always, always be rekindled. And that's not opinion. It's fact.
Oh well, it's 2009, right? Divorce!!
#30 - On 09/13/2009 at 11:01am by graciedacie
It's fact? Prove it.
Or, how about divorce because the marriage was a mistake to begin with and they don't want to be with each other?
Don't you think that would be mentioned in an FML? Ha, nice try though.
#34 - On 09/13/2009 at 11:04am by graciedacie
Sorry about your situation, but HOW THE HELL did this one get submitted?? It's not remotely funny or entertaining.
#38 - On 09/13/2009 at 11:22am by DeadMansCrack
This is hardly even FML. It's just depressing. Maybe you shouldn't have married him then because if you truly loved him you would've known it.
maybe if you closed your legs you wouldnt have this problem.. dumb bitch
#46 - On 09/13/2009 at 11:35am by jewishbaby08
Fucking seconded. It amazes me how many people post here bitching about their 'friends' or even spouses backstabbing them without a moment's hesitation. Do these people just marry whatever random shithead they bump into and not even bother to get to know them first? YDI.
Morons. Pull your heads out of your asses and realize that the world is not as pretty and simple as mommy and daddy promised. Being chaste and careful does not promise you a happy life, any more than being slutty indicates an unhappy life. Keep your ignorant judgments to yourself until you know a little more about the world.
Umm, she never said she had sex with the guy who wants to be with her or the guy she wants to be with.... Infact, sex was never mentioned.
Uh... marriages do fall apart. People change, their wants change, etc.
My parents were married for 20 years, and divorced 2 years ago.
Shit happens man.
The "shit that happens" in these cases, as I said above, is one form or another of selfishness/laziness. It's terrible that your parents got divorced after 20 years, but if they made it that long and then got divorced then one or both of them stopped trying.
#187 - On 09/14/2009 at 12:19pm by BlueBomber
How dare you?
My parents needed to get divorced.
As a ten year old child I would lay in my bed all night listening to them spew venom at each other and PRAYING for their divorce.
You really think young children should be subject to that? Because I certainly fucking don't.
So you can take your self-righteous, judgmental ass and jump straight off a cliff.
I was in the same situation as #202....Except I wasn't praying because I wasn't ever religious :P . Now I'm 14 and I know that as long as my mom's actions didn't change my dad had to be spewing venom at her (She's truly despicable, if you want stories to prove it then I'll give you them.)
and they'll be divorced soon. And, the only reason they were ever in this hate-filled marriage was the kids, although I guess that turned out being a good thing since it's the only reason my dad's gonna probably get custody. But, if he had custody at the begginning we wouldn't have the stressful financial problems we have, the yelling , or my mom passed out on the couch whenever she's not partying with her cousin.
I wasn't religious... it was a figure of speech =]
Any you're only 14? Seriously?
Well, you're one rad 14-year-old Mike.
okay. why are you guys jumping to the conclusion that she CHOSE her husband? maybe it was arranged? Christ. give people the benefit of the doubt, you trolls.
I'm not sure how often arranged marriages occur in Australia, but I can't imagine it's a significant percentage of marriages. It'd be a much more likely scenario that she DID choose her husband. Is it entirely possible it's an arranged marriage? Sure, but when you're faced with two choices, it's probably best to choose the simplest and most obvious answer.
#72 - On 09/13/2009 at 12:42pm by cheesesoda
Haven't you realized yet that no one's perfect? You make do with what you got, or in this case, who you got. You can't have it all. You really have to quit living your life through romance novels. And just in case you don't know, Twilight is NOT based on real life. It's fiction. plain and simple. Jesus H. Christ, you women need to wake up.
life not twilight?!?! oh nooooeeezzzzzz ::slits wrists::
btw did you know that life is not like the skeeve you toss to on porntube? :]
She "should do what she thinks is right"? Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't this how the South rebelled, resulting in the Zombie Assault o' 88?
You're right. Only bad things happen when people from the south try to think....
#124 - On 09/13/2009 at 3:38pm by Intoxicunt
mercyFML, on teh interwebs I believe it's called fap.
As for the moron who posted this shit, stfu.
"Oh I'm so original. I make sweeping, incorrect generalizations of the opposite sex and then attempt to insult them by bringing up some pop culture reference that I assume they all believe is real! I'm sew awwesommme! I pwn bitches so hard I never get laid!"
Yes johnny2x4, all women everywhere live their lives by romance novels.
Lastly, you do not have to "make do with who you've got". There are more than 300 million people in the US. Divorce is incredibly common.
You lose.
People fall in and out of love all the time. There's no reason to assume they didn't love eachother when they got married. Things happen, people change. There's really very little room to judge the OP here, depending on how they proceed to handle the situation.
Yeah this is the story of my life (without the marriage thing)
#70 - On 09/13/2009 at 12:41pm by eelrebma22
To everyone assuming OP married a man she didn't love, it's very possible that she and her husband were very much in love when they got married. My parents were in love with each other when they tied the knot, but over the years they grew apart and began to dislike, if not outright hate, each other as time went by. So just because OP doesn't love her husband now doesn't mean she never did.
#84 - On 09/13/2009 at 1:08pm by SansGluten
Am I the only one who is noting the hypocrisy between what people "want" FMLs to be and how they complain when it's what they asked for? You say that you want an FML that really talks about your life being, well, fucked. But when you actually get one, you complain about how its "too depressing" and "not even funny at all"? Just slightly contradictory, there.
And to those of you arguing about American/English: American is a form of English, hence the term "American English". That's what we Americans speak, but it takes too long to specify. It is a form of English. And just because the British add extra "u"s and we change the "s"s to "z"s doesn't mean that it's an entirely different language. And I hope you all realize how stupid it is to be arguing over this, because it's not going to change anything. Tolerance, my friends. Tolerance.
Oh, and not all Americans eat McDonald's. Just saying. I hate the stuff.
OP: I really am sorry. The best suggestion I can give you would be to divorce your husband and from there determine which man you'd rather be with: One who you're crazy about, or one who's crazy about you. Or neither; I mean, who says all women need a man?
Whatever you choose to do, good luck.
#92 - On 09/13/2009 at 1:24pm by dancexoxtwilight
I'd say your love life is pretty much fucked seeing that the man you want probally dosent want you and the man who wants you you probally don't want and you're husband most likely no longer interested so either start new or suck it up and pick
#92, to add, there's also Canadian English. Just a tidbit, we don't speak American English nor do we speak Briton English.
There's similarities in all three when you compare them side by side, then there are also major differences.
I don't know all the differences off the top of my head, I'm not an English expert.
Many international schools in the world (mostly in Asia from my understanding) have adopted Canadian English as the English being taught in those schools. Apparently Briton English is too hard and American English has a lot of slang (well, all English has a lot of slang to be honest). But that's what I've heard, not actual facts. I received some of this information from Chinese-Canadian friends who had gone to an international school in Singapore and else where.
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This is by the most confusing FML I've read. It looks pretty straight forward when you think simply about it. But it has "committed adultery" written all over it. It could be the husband or the wife, let me first state that 1) She doesn't want to be with her husband 2) Her husband apparently doesn't want to be with her, and 3) There's 2 other guys in her life.
I also don't get why the husband wouldn't be the one that "Wants to be with you." But that's not necessary to write down for a FML I guess. You guys grew apart, but counseling helps, giving up is the weak way out.
My interpretation of this FML is that she appears to lead guys on, this is seen because a third guy is on her list as "wanting to be with her". The "one she wants to be with" is a guy she's trying to seduce and is not working. Interpolating the interpretation one could say she was a "slut" and slept around. But then again, we do not know what the husband does on his spare time either. (Remember it's just my interpretation, not a fact. Flaming responses will be regarded as retarded)
All around, this FML is a "YDI" and a "YSGMA" - You Shouldn't Get Married Again.
I agree with this...and also if they both don't want each other anymore it simply sounds like they never actually loved each other. Most of the time it's one person who falls out of love...but if they both do it was most likely never marriage-material-love in the first place.
Also she doesn't need to have sex to actually be cheating. If there's a guy that she wants so bad that she would leave her husband for him, then they most likely know each other somewhat well, have been hanging out a lot and probably flirting...that's emotional cheatiing to me.
And the guy he still wants her, she probably was whining to him about how her marriage sucks and that's why he won't quit hitting on her, because he knows she's not "emotionally married" to her husband anymore o.O
I totally agree with the "You shouldn't get married again"
#114 - On 09/13/2009 at 2:48pm by Puolukka
It was me, Kay. I'm sorry. :(
plex is right, though. My ex faked having multiple personality disorder. It wasn't so easy to manipulate for me, though.
#122 - On 09/13/2009 at 3:36pm by Intoxicunt
Ohhh it's alright, I forgive you. We're married now, after all! You'll have to drop the 'Plexi-Cunt' surname now, though...
What is my new surname? Kaycunt?
I love getting to be an underage polygamist with babies from homosexual relationships. Just like the old days! :)
#128 - On 09/13/2009 at 3:56pm by Intoxicunt
Kunt works perfectly.
Haha, plexiffaires. Sounds like a pokemon.
#133 - On 09/13/2009 at 4:26pm by Intoxicunt
KAY, I'm sorry we disagreed. Let's kiss and make up! :)
Yeah, plex, you need to get on that. Real estate is cheap right now.
Not particular about clothes? Does that mean no cool white robes for everyone?
Don't worry, we have impeccable grammar and spelling...usually.
Wait, do you mean inventing creative terms, or doing things so few people have heard of that it falls to us to name it and educate people about it?
#172 - On 09/14/2009 at 2:28am by Intoxicunt
So, you don't want to be with your husband...he doesn't want to be with you...there's a guy that wants to be with you that you don't want to be with...but the guy you DO want to be with doesn't want to be with you. FYL, but if you don't want to be with your husband I suggest divorce.
#127 - On 09/13/2009 at 3:43pm by cheetahboo2010
how does that happen? YDI for not recognizing the love of your life
#146 - On 09/13/2009 at 7:07pm by fatehatesme09
Your hubby never told you he was 1/3 of a set of triplets?
#149 - On 09/13/2009 at 7:32pm by HeroicDude
Ha after 3 times reading it, i understand it now,
The man you want to be with is not your husband
The man who wanted to be with you is not your husband
And your husband..
tht sucks though..
#151 - On 09/13/2009 at 7:57pm by mysterystar
YDI for marrying the wrong person, and you're husband doesn't want to be with you??? that sucks...
#152 - On 09/13/2009 at 8:20pm by Cookiemonsterson
This is not a fml. Fmylife.com is supposed to actually be funny in some way. This is something you would read on some white trash 15 year olds' myspace in glitter and blinking. It is in no way funny at all. Also, I made this account just now for the purpose of saying this, so please feel extra special. Special meaning stupid. Very very stupid. Thankyou!
#160 - On 09/13/2009 at 10:48pm by littlegirl12
wow, i cant even begin to explain how stupid this fml is
it is NOT an fml.
and YDI.
if you get married, and then end up falling for another guy, thats one thing, get a goddamn devorce.
fall for a guy who doesnt like you? your an idiot. especially doing it WHILE YOUR MARRIED!
as for the other guy, hunny tell him he needs to find someone new cause you are clearly NO GOOD.
wow.
just.... wow.
#161 - On 09/13/2009 at 11:03pm by busted_love
Shame on you for posting this on the site that your husband will probably be on later down the line and for getting married irresponsibly. The man who wants to be with you doesn't even really matter in the equation, really. That is, unless he is a close friend you don't want to lose. But honestly, you should divorce your husband at the very least, and probably see what happens with the first guy. That is what a person with any sense of their emotions, desires, respect for others, and self-respect would do. Marriage is something people take too lightly nowadays and gets done too impulsively. Wise up, you don't HAVE to get married to live a happy life, so don't do it just to do it!
#162 - On 09/13/2009 at 11:37pm by JohnyJackhammer
Has anyone considered that maybe.. just maybe, her husband has a multi-personality disorder? Maybe she's talking about one guy here.
Just thought I'd throw that out for discussion. :)
Time to think outside the box ppl.
#166 - On 09/14/2009 at 12:31am by lissa_1989
Haha.. I was hoping someone had.
Imagination! I love it.
But it's possible.
#169 - On 09/14/2009 at 1:29am by lissa_1989
alrite hi 5 #166 i was thinkin schizo too! im glad more ppl get it! think outside da box ppls!
#193 - On 09/14/2009 at 2:31pm by FuckMyLyphe
Me too! That's the only reason I clicked to view the rest of these comments; although to be fair, the debates over the 'proper' use of the English language, the discovery and ownership of McDonald's products, the 'funny factor' of this FML, whether Australia has a high percentage of arranged marriages or not and the fact that the majority of people who've commented seem to consider themselves professional psychologists just makes this all the more amusing! Especially given that only one, if any, of those aspects bears any relevance to what "sunburychick" has posted!
#213 - On 09/20/2009 at 9:32am by SmilingPolitely
So you've got no one, basically. That sucks. Get a divorce and leave all three behind you.
#189 - On 09/14/2009 at 2:07pm by FoundManyLemons
The person you love and the person who loves you is never the same person - Chuck Palahniuk (if not in so many words)
Sadly, this sounds like my future. The man I wanted to be with didn't want to be with me... the man who wants to be with me (who I am with now) I don't really care for... so I might just settle with marrying someone who meets me halfway. FL.
Despite the use of the word "husband," obviously indicating this was written by the adult, it still somehow smacks of teenage angst.
I know that feeling :/ I've realised that the guy I wanted to be with, the guy who want to be with me & the one I'm dating are three different persons.. so it's almost the same thing, but I guess you're is even worse, you're married with the guy!
#210 - On 09/18/2009 at 5:39am by MichelleOxid
Actually, I don't think this woman is talking about 3 different people. She says "Today I realized", I don't think that she'd just now be realizing that she had 3 different people in her life. She is speaking of 1 man - her husband. I believe she is saying that her husband is not the man that she was once in love with and wanted to be with, he has changed and she has changed. I also believe that maybe she has tried hard to accept him and work on the problems/changes that they are enduring, but he is just not willing to accept or work on anything. Maybe he is totally defendant of his changes and don't think he is wrong in any way. Her husband is not the man she wants him to be or thought he would be and the man that wanted to be with her is lost under what ever troubles they may be facing or maybe he is just too damn stubborn to grow up and work on their marriage. Who really knows? Only she does.
When I read this it hit home for me. My husband isn't the man he promised to be when we were married, he is totally manipulative and selfish and only wants me when I give in to thinking his way. He's also not the parent he should be either. We've been married 5 years. We dated 4 years before getting married and I should have seen it coming. The saying "Love is blind" doesn't necessarily pertain to a person's attractiveness. So, FML as well. I'm sure some of you will ignorantly and childishly say, YDI. But, WTF ever it just shows your immaturity and ignorance.
People can think FML for whatever reason, this is a place to just get it off your chest and silently vent. There are no rules that it has to be funny.
In my opinion you deserve it for not giving the man who wanted you a chance, though your life still does suck!
#218 - On 09/29/2009 at 4:22pm by H4rdstylefre4k
