Today, I watched my best friend get married to the guy I have been in love with since the 8th grade. I was the maid of honor, and had to give a toast to the couple. FML
I agree, your life sucks (45806) - you totally deserved it (9058)
On 07/03/2009 at 9:45pm - love - by Anonymous (woman) - United States (Illinois)
Well at the end of the movie it could have been called 28 dresses. Don't worry though you'll be the one who he cheats on her with, and don't try to argue that, if the chance came up, you would and the chance will come up in surely the next year or so....Stay Single, Get Wet
#65 - On 07/04/2009 at 8:29am by Mookdaruch
She stood there and watched the man she loved marrying her very best friend. She was there for her friend to be her maid of honor. I just don't see her being willing to bone her best friends husband if she's that loyal to her friend, no matter how much she cares about him.
#204 - On 07/08/2009 at 11:54am by Matdredalia
Wow. I totally could have written this...
I've been in love with this guy since I was 16. I watched him date a couple of my friends... it was horrible and gut-wrenching watching him be so happy with other women, but all I could do was be his best friend for years...
Oh wait! Nevermind. I actually had the guts to speak up, and guess what?
I married "that guy" 3 weeks ago. No lie :)
awwwhh. =/
you should speak to him if this is a serious matter. he might just feel the same? you'll never know. it's better than wondering about all the "what ifs" in your life.
I disagree. He's married to her best friend, if she tells him she's been in love for him that long she'll probably mess her friendship up (or maybe their marriage).
Yeah, try and steal your best friend's future husband. That's what a maid of honor and true friend would do!
#32 - On 07/04/2009 at 4:32am by ImaBmyLonurTees
after rereading this fml post, i think the person should at the very least discuss this with her best friend because it sounds like it has been bothering her for years. if they are truely best friends, her confession will not ruin their friendship or break up the marriage. i hope the best friend is understanding and tell her to move on...you just can't breakup a marriage. it's too late after all these years. this is a very sad fml. i hope all goes well.
If they were really best friends, then the one that's getting married would have known about the fact that OP is in love with the groom.. If OP hadn't ever told the best friend about her feelings, then nothing can be done about it. But she shouldn't talk about it with them after they'd gotten married. If she ever had to talk about it, it would have to have been before they'd started dating or shortly after, not after their wedding. I agree that it's a sad FML, but there's nothing that can be done now. She will move on and find someone who's right for her.
#51 - On 07/04/2009 at 6:04am by deviantartgirl
Good, the institution of marriage doesn't mean anything anymore, "Want to get married?" "Sure, but why?" "Tax deduction" That is about as far as it goes.
#67 - On 07/04/2009 at 8:30am by Mookdaruch
@ 51 : Thank you! Holy cow, the first few posts really surprised me...feeling bad for the OP. But the OP is being selfish, immature, and petty!! Your BEST FRIEND is getting MARRIED and you are sulking because you "love" the groom? Some best friend/MOH you are! You should be HAPPY for HER that she found love. And instead of turnign down the MOH position (which is reserved for a loving, supporting best friend, which obviously doesn't make you qualified), you TAKE the position and give a phony speech? Oh yeah, that's what I would like to remember about my wedding day .Does it suck that you wish it was you instead? Sure. But seriously, what was she supposed to do? Give up HER future and HER love because YOU wanted it instead? Even though, obviously, the groom didn't love you? That's SO middle-school-ish. Seems like you haven't matured since you've started "loving" this guy. How pathetic.
Life =/= Hollywood movies.
#79 - On 07/04/2009 at 9:31am by alliwannado
i second #79. you obviously didn't tell either of them you were in love with him, so you only have yourself to blame for being silent and being a fake good friend. or maybe u did tell them and they said tough shit. get over it, move on, you'll find love one day so stop dwelling on the one who got away!
#99 - On 07/04/2009 at 11:32am by heyyou1203
Yeah I agree with 79, and really the OP deserved it, if she really 'loved' him since 8th grade she should have made a move instead of acting like a coward and waiting for something to happen, which will obviously never happen
I couldn't decide between FML and YDI. I mean the FML is obvious, but YDI for not telling him since eighth grade. If you were that in love with him, you should have told him.
#166 - On 07/05/2009 at 1:23am by curryndricegirll
Well we don't really know how she decided she "loved" this guy either. Maybe she has just "loved" him because he has a hot bod and is nice to her rather than actually getting to know him and stuff.
#208 - On 07/09/2009 at 1:45pm by genius_man16
Some would argue that you'd better do something about it instead of blaming your life. Of course, I don't know how it really happened. Poor you.
If you're in love with him, you better have dated him for awhile before your friend did. Or YDI for being that obsessed over someone you haven't had an intimate relationship with.
#6 - On 07/04/2009 at 3:33am by FuzzyWalnuts
No, you can't be in love with somebody you've never been with. Love isn't about "a tingly feeling in your stomach". It's about cleaning up somebody else's shit because they're too sick to do it themself.
#180 - On 07/05/2009 at 3:01pm by Cittenscollar
you should've spoke up .
since the start you shouldve at least told him you likes him .
#7 - On 07/04/2009 at 3:34am by bubbles09y0
That sounds like how I'll end up -.-
only, i've liked the same guy since the 4th grade [like 5-6 years]
#8 - On 07/04/2009 at 3:34am by hallecolada
I'd say you deserved it, but i don't know the whole situation..
#9 - On 07/04/2009 at 3:35am by mylittlecrow
Thank you.
OP is just some girl who's never had a meaningful relationship, and after her friend began going out with this guy, she became jealous.
Now, she wants sympathy and understanding for her jealous infatuation, and possibly support for a planned attempt at breaking up the marriage or friendship.
tl;dr OP is a whiny bitch who only wants what she can't have.
i hate when people say other people write things on this site to "get sympathy"
honestly, how much sympathy can someone youve never met give to you over the INTERNET?
not much, so i doubt thats the case.
maybe shes selfless and wants her best friend and the groom to be happy?
#185 - On 07/05/2009 at 9:46pm by lalaimbored
If she's selfless and wants them to be happy, she certainly isn't posting this on FML.
And the story certainly isn't funny, so it's not like it's just something she wants to share for us to laugh at.
So, what does that leave? A sympathy play.
Believe me, that's not love. I know this one from experience.
At any rate, you should have done something about it! Consider this one a life lesson.
Yo. You're an idiot. Since gr.8? What's that, at least eight years since you knew the guy and you haven't said anything to him about how you love him? Honestly, step up. That's just pathetic.
Wow, everyone is being so mean about it! If your feelings are true, this is one of the saddest FMLs there is. Way worse than a simple embarrassing moment like most of these are. :(
#15 - On 07/04/2009 at 3:43am by too_much_fun
We're not being mean, just truthful.
I mean, besides the part where she really should have womanned up and done something about her feelings, and the part where she should be happy for her friend, and happy for the man she supposedly loves, she has not been in love with him since the eighth grade and, quite frankly, probably isn't now.
She seriously needs to realize all of this right about now.
Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment.
Fake. I've seen this same exact story on the internet for years. Except it's longer and more in depth.
#17 - On 07/04/2009 at 3:47am by doomking10
This sort of thing happens all the time, to many people...
#31 - On 07/04/2009 at 4:30am by jthm_guitarist
That blows but that's what happens when you don't grow a backbone and speak up. You're screwed for the rest of your life involving him and your best friend.
#19 - On 07/04/2009 at 3:56am by ToonAddict
it does sound like to plot to a romantic comedy. but seriously though, since the 8th grade...he must have been some kid.
#21 - On 07/04/2009 at 3:56am by LadyinPurple
WAIT!!! How would your best friend not know? you guys don't tell each other everything? :| forget it, YDI
#22 - On 07/04/2009 at 4:06am by hallecolada
I hope that doesn't happen to me. I've been in love with a girl since early 9th grade and I'm still waiting...
#23 - On 07/04/2009 at 4:10am by InfectedWithDrew
Should have said something about it if you didn't. If you did, then it obviously wouldn't have worked out.
YOU DESERVE IT. What's the point of being obsessed with someone for so long and NEVER having the spine to say or do anything? I'm not saying you should be a homewrecker, I'm saying you should have told him a long time ago or MOVE ON. Geez...
Stories like this are so creepy.
#27 - On 07/04/2009 at 4:26am by noshitsherlock
agree, except the creepy part, if u don't have enough courage to tell him u love him (which i doubt) then don't complain and don't expect him to wait for you forever. Now is time to move on...or move out of the state/country
seriously....if you're that passionate about him, you'll at least address the situation so you don't go insane, i know i would. fuck being shy, if you really LOVE someone, you're going to find a way to tell them sooner or later, and if you don't, YOU MISSED THE BOAT.
you need to confront feelings that are so deep they could be in a damn movie
#48 - On 07/04/2009 at 5:51am by jasonsexcema
Seriously? You let him get away and it's too bad because at some point he probably thought about it. You must not love enough if you never said anything. Either you have a shitty friend or you did some serious suppression of feelings because I would never become involved with the person my best friend is in love with.
You didn't get the guy so now you move on. Life goes on and so does love. You'll find it and get it.
#30 - On 07/04/2009 at 4:30am by bananapants
Wow. FYL. Did the toast start off something like, "I can't think of two people more perfect for eachother than... actually...".
Think it's time to let go when your best friend marries your love interest. It's cliche but totally true to say there really are plenty more fish in the sea. Move on!
#36 - On 07/04/2009 at 4:46am by Equinox987
agreed. you've probably idealized this guy wayy too much. also, have you not been dating at all since 8th grade? if not, its time to start. if you have been then...keep looking. i'm sure you'll find yourself at least a teeny bit attracted to someone else, go for it.
I hate to say this, because I am a romantic and I love love stories and whatnot, but you deserve it for not speaking up sooner.
I know it's hard for people to confess their feelings to another person because of fears that that other person may not feel the same and/or that it might ruin the friendship, but this FML shows that it's much better to just put it out there and get it off your chest than to keep it inside. If the other person doesn't feel the same, things can still be alright. I have had close friends confess their feelings to me, and when I didn't feel the same, I would just say so in the nicest way possible. Nothing ended up weird because of it. It's only weird if you make it weird or if the other person isn't mature enough to handle it well, in which case, they might not be worth liking anyway.
#37 - On 07/04/2009 at 5:05am by englishmuffin
How d'you know she didn't?
I've liked the same girl since 10th grade. I'm graduated now. She knows I like her, but she doesn't want to date me right now (seriously, that isn't just a light let-down, she'd like to, but doesn't want to right now because it'd be complicated as hell). So I'm still waiting.
Hell, I respect you, OP. FYL.
This shit hurts, and we both know it.
#127 - On 07/04/2009 at 2:55pm by SeefuSefirosu
8th grade? You don't know how to love when you're 14.
#41 - On 07/04/2009 at 5:18am by Sgt_Schadenfreud
omg that is so much like a movie i recently watched did you object cos i know i would have
sorry about this.
good luck in the future
#42 - On 07/04/2009 at 5:20am by depressed95_95
I created an account just to reply here because I felt I HAD to react; you're so unfair with her! You should consider the following:
- You definitely CAN really fall in love in the 8th grade. I know a couple who met when the girl was 16 (the guy is actually several years older). This was five years ago, now they are still together, married and, AFAIK, very happy. Hell, after all, Romeo and Juliet were only 14... of course it is fiction, but I think it still makes the point!
- To all of you who say that she should have "spoke (sic) up", "done something about it", "dated him" and so on: she probably tried. And got rejected. Then what could she do about it? Plead him to go out with her? Explain him that he really shouldn't date her friend but should date her instead? Spread some evil gossip to ruin her friend's reputation? Come on.
@#25: If you were at her place, would you be satisfied with your situation? Of course she is happy for her friend. I think I would be, too. But this happiness is kind of bitter, and she cannot help it.
I'm actually in a similar situation. I've been in love with a girl (let's call her S., I don't want to reveal her name) since I was 15, expressed my feelings to her some months later, got rejected. Now she is one of my best friends, and I get along very well with her boyfriend, too. For all those years, all I've been trying to do was to get S. out of my heart and to find another girlfriend. Six years have passed, and for the moment, I've failed at both; and while I still have hope for the latter, I am quite certain that I'll never be able to look at S. with a level head. Though I might yet meet a girl I would date, maybe marry, make a family with, maybe even be happy with, I am quite sure that S. will remain forever the love of my life. Maybe I sound childish and dramatic, but those are my genuine feelings.
So as for moving on, it is not so simple. Maybe the OP even has a boyfriend, but is still in love with that guy.
@#4: For me, it sounds more like drama. The kind of drama that happens all the time all around us.
Let's ignore for the moment where 16 and 14 are significantly different chemically and mentally. Just because they've been together for five years doesn't mean that she was in love with this guy for the entire time. All it really means is that she fell in love with him over time. You know, the way normal people do it. And if you're using Romeo and Juliet as your example of true love or whatever, you *really* need a reality check. Or to read Romeo and Juliet, because it's possible you just don't know the play.
If she really did make her feelings known, and she really thought it was an FML-worthy thing to give the toast, she wouldn't have been giving it, really. Assuming she made her feelings known and never bothered to get over this guy when he rejected her, no *best* friend would be upset if you said you couldn't do a toast because of your feelings.
As for your personal situation, I've been in a very similar situation as yours. I got out of it. What did I learn? It wasn't love, it was just a pretty bad infatuation. Real love came along later. I probably won't stay with this person for the rest of my life, but I do know that I love em and that ey really taught me what love is. Trust me, I don't care what you think, you don't know true love until it's reciprocated.
We won't really know, because of the lack of details in the FML, but this seems less likely to be a "I told him before and got rejected" situation and more of a "I have liked him since 8th grade but never told him" situation.
If she HAD told him and gotten rejected, then I'm surprised he still went out with her best friend and that the OP was still the maid of honor and that he and the OP didn't have some sort of conversation that at least attempted to sort out these awkward feelings.
Lack of details
#50 - On 07/04/2009 at 5:59am by englishmuffin
While most here say that love while 18 and under is infatuation, it can and does happen. I was 15, a month or so shy of 16, when I first fell in love. Today we are still together, married since I turned 18, and 2 kids. I may love him more now, but just because of shared circumstances. It is the same love as the beginning, just more developed. We didn't exchange " I love you's" until several months in, and not long after I felt it appropriate to lose my virginity to him. We met in 1994 by the way. Never have I regretted not dating more or having devoted such a large percentage of my life to one person. I also know several other married couples who attended prom together. So, while it might be unusual to fall in "true love" as a teen, it is most definitely possible.
OP: Your situation sucks, but if you have not already done so, telling them now would only give you more heartbreak by losing your friendships and possibly causing dischord in their marriage. Mourn for what you could have had and try to move on. You will find the right guy for you, but only if you set yourself free of the crush and see each new guy for who and what they are as opposed to who and what they aren't. Good Luck
#77 - On 07/04/2009 at 9:25am by Phreephorm
well for one thing, Romeo and Juliet were never in love. Just throwing that out there, they were in lust. Romeo was on the rebound (just been rejected) and Juliet wanted out of an arranged marriage. They were both young and hot stuff, so why the hell not? That's not love. That's "oh you're hot and I'm feeling rebellious" and "oh you're pretty and I'm feeling lonely, let's bang" and then they call it love. It's supposed to poke fun at the idea of people so young mistaking physical attraction for love, because when we're 14, THAT'S WHAT WE DO.
for another, if she made a move and got rejected, then yeah, it sucks, but you know what? She's not the only person it's ever happened to. Shocker, I know. It's happened to me, and it's going to happen to me again, but am I sitting around and moping about it? no, I'm not, because all that does is make me incapable of moving on, and all it does is hold me back. I'm not saying that she has to be happy that the guy she's supposedly "in love with" doesn't feel the same, but really? Get over it.
I've been in a sort of similar situation too. No, they're not getting married, seeing as we're all still, you know, in our teenage years. And no, I wasn't "in love" with him, and I recognize that. Two of my best friends though. I liked him and he liked her and I knew he liked her and he knew I liked him. And you know what I did? I HELPED THEM GET TOGETHER. do you know why?
Because I'm a good friend and I want to see my friends happy, even if it means I don't necessarily get what I want. Because seeing my friends happy DOES make me happy. A lot happier than I could be if I got what I wanted and saw that one of my best friends was upset over it. If her BEST FRIEND and the man she supposedly loves are getting married, she should be happy for them.
And, if she really loves him as much as she says she does, she should be putting his happiness before her own. This is the man she loves; if he were to spend his life with someone he doesn't love, when he could have had that person, he would be miserable. So, what, would she rather spend her life with someone that she's INFATUATED WITH, even though they're miserable, while her BEST FRIEND watches from the side? Or would she rather see two people that she apparently cares a lot for (even though she has a really funny way of showing it) happy, while she can go and find someone to make her happy, since apparently she won't be complete unless she finds a man?
I know I'm being ranty and harsh. But this is life. Not a fairytale. It's not Disney. It's not a movie. It's not a story. It's real life now, and things don't always just magically work out for everyone. People end up sad. People end up angry. People end up alone or feeling incomplete. People die. People live and they laugh and they dance and they sing and they cry and they yell and they scream and they fight and then die and they breathe and they experience life if they let themselves.
So yeah, she's the girl on the side. And yeah, it sucks that she doesn't get the man that she wants. But she's only looking on the bad side of it, and that's her problem.
And don't get me wrong. It's not that I don't believe in love. I do. I'm just more of a realistic romantic (or romantic realist?) than a romantic. (;
#138 - On 07/04/2009 at 4:42pm by stealthmuffin
that is soooo sad.. i hope u get over it.. and gosh everybody stop saying its 27 dresses.. sometimes we relate to movies and we feel that they tell our story not the opposite..
...you didn't even bring this issue up before? if i were that attached/uncomfortable with the situation, for my own sanity i wouldn't be at the wedding. are you just hiding this from everyone? if so..i mean..did anyone hold a shotgun to your head and tell you to be in a bad romantic comedy?
#47 - On 07/04/2009 at 5:48am by jasonsexcema
YDI. this is the same old crap story every week. normal people are not mind readers. if you don't approach them and tell them how you feel then they will never know. so YDI for not telling him how you feel about him since 8th grade
#52 - On 07/04/2009 at 6:04am by Nightfallz
YDI, it sucks really bad so I guess it's an FML as well. But you should've told them, at least you wouldn't have had to be the maid of honor... Your friend would (hopefully) understand.
#53 - On 07/04/2009 at 6:10am by TysonFawlay
YDI for never admitting your feelings. Or, if you have, YDI for not moving on when they weren't reciprocated.
#54 - On 07/04/2009 at 7:04am by elfuzzo
she can't really be your best friend if she didn't know you loved him
unless she did know, in that case, she's a bitch
but I doubt it
I feel really sorry for you
this is a very sad FML
you will find someone else though
You little romantic children are so adorable. That feeling you have for someone who has already rejected you, or that one you haven't even tried with because you know you'll be rejected - that's not love. It's just fantasy. Get over it. Yes, you watch movies and read books where the Prom King finally confesses that he is tired of his gorgeous but shallow cheerleeder girlfriend and has always really felt undying love for the flat-chested mouse with the heart of gold, but it doesn't happen in real life. The one that actually ends up confessing his/her love to you is that awkward weirdo with the BO from the back of the class. Now realize that to the Prom King/Queen, you are that awkward weirdo. Now, that doesn't mean you have to settle for the awkward weirdo - there are a thousand gradients between the highest and lowest on the social totem pole - but don't expect the Prom King/Queen to settle for you. (Remember that when you are faced with your own awkward weirdo's confession. Be firm about your rejection, but gentle with his/her feelings.)
One day, you will look back and think, I'm so glad I wasn't good enough for so-and-so, because then I would have never met this wonderful person I'm with now.
#57 - On 07/04/2009 at 7:30am by anonimause
Ya please grow up. Since the 8th grade you haven't moved on?
#193 - On 07/06/2009 at 4:04pm by speak_a_da_truth
you are such a loser. you never had the guts to tell that guy you loved him. so live with it.
or maybe you did and he asked you to fuck off. yeaaa.... now that seems more realistic.
#58 - On 07/04/2009 at 7:32am by timepass
Who said she never told him? She could've, and maybe he didn't have the same feelings. Way to jump to conclusions, guys.
#59 - On 07/04/2009 at 7:50am by SusanaSaysRawrxD
YDI for not making the first move, and for attending.
It's bad, but you seriously YDI. Why goto a wedding which has the love of your life since you were in grade 8, to be the maid of honour? Fuck your best friend, you shouldn't have gone. I know it's only respectful, but hey. It'd make hella awkard for yourself.
Nothing against yourself, just that you didn't make the first move, and for attending something you really didn't want too.
#60 - On 07/04/2009 at 8:04am by freakoffer
You're stupid for not telling him your feelings! You must have had, like, a thousand chances! YDI for not telling!"
#63 - On 07/04/2009 at 8:15am by junomcguff
I can think of some situations that led to this where you don't deserve it, but more where YDI. So YDI.
since 8th grade? YDI for (a)never telling him and (b)not getting over him when he was clearly committed to someone else (i.e. once he got engaged to your friend).
#59 - if she did tell him and he didn't reciprocate, all the more reason she should have moved on and found someone else.
#70 - On 07/04/2009 at 8:52am by diet_otaku
Aw..I can totally sympathize with that. *hugs* This is a truly sad and I think very true FML.
#72 - On 07/04/2009 at 8:55am by dol567
To all the people telling her she should speak up and tell him, or tell her best friend...ARE YOU ALL COMPLETELY MENTAL?!
It's a crush, you'll get over it. If he was meant for you, then he wouldn't be marrying your best friend. I know it's hard, but it's not like she married him out of the blue, she must have been dating him for a long time before hand, so you've had plenty of time to adjust to this. He's not for you, so you have two choices...start talking yourself out of this crush and get over it and move on with your life, or keep pining away in silence and being miserable. But whatever you do, do NOT tell either of them how you feel, because that would be incredibly selfish, and probably lose you a couple of friends.
#75 - On 07/04/2009 at 9:18am by endless_text
If you didn't confess to him before, YDI. If you did, then FYL and why did they send you an invitation in that case?
YDI, what are you? Still 13? Its called moving on, you've been stuck on the same dude for 10+ years! At least your friend had enough sense to try to date him, and look what happened.
Be happy for them and stop waiting for your Jr. High Sweetheart.
Awwww, I'm sorry..although you should've done something earlier so YOU could have him instead of your friend...
#82 - On 07/04/2009 at 9:55am by LollyPop1
im sorry, that must of hurt. but stupid question if shes your best freind wouldent she know u liked him? and if she did y would she have u make that toast? thats just cruil. thats like making an ethiopian serve u food. but hey u never know whay the future holds
#83 - On 07/04/2009 at 9:56am by funnyruste
People who say YDI to OP. Please go screw yourself. This is probably the saddest FML I've ever read. I can totally relate with you. Even I am in love with a girl who has rejected me. I know how it feels to be in one-sided love. It sucks. Some people here just don't understand the feeling. What can I can say to you OP?
There is one particular dialog from The Last Samurai that Tom Cruise says "A man has to do what he can till his destiny is shown to him". I totally believe in this.
They say time is the greatest healer, I'm sure your pain will also heal.
#44- I appreciate the pain you took in posting your thoughts here.
#84 - On 07/04/2009 at 9:58am by metheonlyb
i also know what one sided love is like, but if she didn't tell him then she obviously deserves it. otherwise it is quite sad.
I know the feeling. Been there hun. Trust me, you'll get over it... and be a bitter bitch forever. *sigh*
#88 - On 07/04/2009 at 10:50am by Kandyland
aww im so sorry.
well at least you were a good friend and gave the toast right?
i wouldnt posisbly in anyway be able to do that.
What everyone is missing is that if this girl is really her best friend she should know that she loves him, and if she knew that and still married him what can the OP do? or maybe the OP told him and he rejected her? its still going to be hard for her. no matter what, and thats what makes this a fml.
#93 - On 07/04/2009 at 11:13am by sydsayslol
did you ever tell him? because if you didn't, YDI. because that's absolutely pathetic. you should of told him after a few MONTHS. not wait year after year after year after year WAITING for something tohappen.
but if you did, FYL. but get over it, tbh. shit happens.
YDI. If its been since 8th grade,you screwed up by not telling him.
Your too old for having a "Crush" if you could get married.
#95 - On 07/04/2009 at 11:16am by Mauled2Death
you sound like a wonderful, kind and truly loyal friend. the world needs more people like you. to put your friends feelings and the feelings of your love ahead of your own is so difficult and painful. you must be more mature than most young people. good luck in finding your true love.
that's the hardest position to be in, and it hurts a lot. you have to move on and be happy for them. you'll find someone else you love in time
#100 - On 07/04/2009 at 11:43am by pinkdinosaur64
I'm sorry! I know how it's like to have one of your so called friends steal your love.
Find another guy, hun, one that's perfect for you!
xoxo
#101 - On 07/04/2009 at 11:51am by awdorable
meh loves shit. always fucks you over.
"fuck your emotions, drink beer and fuck women"- adam d from killswitch, just hearing him saying it usually gets me off the pissed off path
#105 - On 07/04/2009 at 12:10pm by leoofbodom
tell your biffle that you and the husband have been having an affair for the past couple of months.
chances are they're going to get divorced anyway.
#106 - On 07/04/2009 at 12:11pm by muffinsareyummy
I'm fairly sure I was at this wedding last night..... I'm pretty sure the guy she's in love with was my Cousin... I was a groomsman... and possibly the one who walked this girl down the aisle. LOL
Of course, it could be random, but I don't see too many people having weddings on fridays in IL
WOOOAAAAAHH IL. IS WHERE ITS AT. friday obvisly not a jewish wedding
#109 - On 07/04/2009 at 12:27pm by funnyruste
oh god that sucks i have a nasty feeling thats going to happen to me in ten years.. try to find someone else so you don't ruin your friendship with the bride and their marriage. good luck
that completely sucks, honey. i can't imagine how horrible that must feel. :(
#111 - On 07/04/2009 at 12:42pm by dustbunnies
I hate to say it but sometime in the last 10-15 years you should have spoken up
#112 - On 07/04/2009 at 12:43pm by PimpDaddyT
#112 has it. You could have said something to him, but you didn't. Maybe if you had talked to him BEFORE he started dating your best friend, something would have happened. That's what happens when you keep your mouth shut. You'll never get what you want if you don't ask for it. Sorry, but you didn't speak up, so you didn't get what you wanted. This is a sad FML, but you should have said something, either to the guy or your best friend.
Honestly, I'm getting tired of these FML's "ZOMG MY BEST FRIEND IS WITH THE BOY/GIRL I'VE BEEN IN LOVE WITH FOREVER!!111!!1!!!1!!!!!!1!!". It's your fault for not confessing it to them in the first place. I mean seriously... I KNOW it's hard to confess your feelings to someone, but if you're THAT in love with him, he should've been worth it. You need to take that plunge sometimes, or you're not truly living. What if he felt the same way? You could've been the one marrying him instead.
If you DID confess your feelings to him, and he didn't feel the same... it's your fault for not moving on and getting over it. Some people are just not worth the pain and suffering. I'm sure there's other great men out there that will love you... and probably would be better for you than him.
And, why would you agree to be a maid of honer if the wedding hurt you so badly? Did you not even confess your feelings for this man to your best friend? I thought best friends told each other everything? If you've had a crush on him since 8th grade, shouldn't she have known? If she DID know, and married him anyway, then you DEFINITELY shouldn't have been the maid of honor, and she's not worth being friends with if she'll marry a man that she knows you're "in love with".
#115 - On 07/04/2009 at 12:53pm by ZuraLasgeon
Honey, look that was kind of messed up of what she did. BUT. maybe she liked him too and you didn't know. You should of told him before he was ever seeing and getting married to your best friend. Get over it.
I am sorta going through something I guess similar. But the guy I am after knows that I like him and he likes me but he has problems right and HAS to get them straightened before we can date. Like paying off his debts with his truck, finding decent job, also getting place to live so he can see me. I have liked him since 9th grade - now. Now I am getting my chance almost because I TOLD HIM!
#119 - On 07/04/2009 at 1:29pm by SweetTea90
i´m sorry but YDI, because you should´ve talk unless your best friends has been dating him since 8, but i doubth it!!!!
sorry, for the errors i got problems with english!!!
why does everyone want someone elses shit? The guy's taken. Lay off slut. People like you ruin marriages. You don't really care about your friend. You just want to suck on the dick that she's been bragging about. YDI and should just die. thanx.
This is so sad, sorry to hear it.
There's gonna be someone out there for you, just open up your mind and heart.
This one really depends..if you never even tried to tell him prior to them getting together, YDI. If you did and it never came to fruition...FYL.
#124 - On 07/04/2009 at 2:21pm by BLNovelist
Stop complaining. There was plenty of time to say something to either one of them. YDI
#125 - On 07/04/2009 at 2:43pm by Love_Darcy
Aw v.v
Well I really respect your for even going. Being me, I'd try to stick it out, but I know I'd have a few bad moments =X
Sorry to hear this >.<
He obviously does not love you back. I've had friends like you who HAVE spoken up. My boyfriend was in no way attracted to them and knowing that a friend was pinning over him made it awkward. If he wanted you, he would've hit on you, not your friend. Do NOT speak up. Let them be happy. If they aren't meant to be and it doesn't work out for them, THEN you can see if he even feels the same. But hitting on your BEST FRIEND'S HUSBAND would kind of make you a bitch.
Your fault. You could have tried to tell him you loved him. It's kind of pathetic you have loved a guy since you were in eighth grade and not only did you never tell him but even when he moved on you didn't. Loser.
#133 - On 07/04/2009 at 4:04pm by pirategirl88
aaaw. I just think this is sad :( and dont listen to people blaming you because maybe you did speak up or maybe you knew him before your friend, etc. they don't know the whole situation.
#135 - On 07/04/2009 at 4:13pm by little_mermaid
Oh hun, *eighth grade*? You need to find someone else to have a crush on. I don't even have the same haircut as I did in eighth grade.
8th grade? You kinda deserve it or waiting like 10 friggin years.
#139 - On 07/04/2009 at 5:22pm by Stephai
Did either of them have any idea? (And goddammit, answer me. I'm sick of asking questions about FMLs and the OP never responding.)
Let's make sure I've got this right... you've been in love with him since the eighth grade. Your age isn't listed, but presumably he and your best friend didn't get hitched in high school. That means, BARE MINIMUM, you've been crushing on him for four years. Four years is a long time to be this obsessed with someone who clearly does not feel the same way. Did you tell him, did you hint to him that you had feelings for him? If so, clearly he rejected you, and it's unhealthy to continue this obsession. If not, still, it's clear he doesn't feel the same way about you as you do about him, or he wouldn't have chosen another woman.
I'm also guessing that the two of them didn't just decide to get married on a whim - they probably dated for a while first. Which means that you've been in love with your best friend's man for a while. Did you talk to her about it? If so, she's one hell of a terrible friend for asking you to be Maid of Honor knowing how you feel, but you could have said "no." If not, can you really say that she's your best friend? After hiding something like this from her, you still claim to be friends with her?
Point being, you deserve it. Stop pining over a man who obviously loves someone else. Think about what kind of friend you are being by staying obsessed with the boyfriend, then fiance, then husband of the woman that you claim is your best friend. Would YOU want to be friends with a woman like that? Get over it, and if you can't, then suck it up and tell your friend the truth. She'll be mad, but if she's really your best friend, she'll help you find a new guy. Maybe next time, you'll be able to approach things in a more mature fashion.
uhmmm i think it's time to move on... like 5 years ago...
#142 - On 07/04/2009 at 5:50pm by danielleFML
i feel your pain... i've been in love with my best friend since 7th grade and he's made it clear that even though he has feelings for me, he doesn't want to lose the friendship so he doesn't want to be in a relationship. we've been friends for over 7 years now and even though we've both dated other people, at the end of the day we always end up preferring to hang out with each other.
to all the people slamming the OP for not saying anything before, confessing your feelings for someone doesn't always mean it will make a difference. and moving on isn't exactly easy either, especially if you really do love someone.
to the OP, you may not ever end up getting together, but if you really love him at least appreciate the fact that you have him in your life as a friend. it's been working pretty well for me so far, though it will never be easy all the time. either way, i'm wishing you good luck girl.
It's totally your fault for never saying anything about it. If you really "loved" him, then you would've spoken up. I'm wasting no pity on you.
#146 - On 07/04/2009 at 6:26pm by annaofwisconsin
Why do the birds go on singing
Why does the sea rush to shore
Don't they know it's the end of the world
'Cause you don't love me anymoreeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
#147 - On 07/04/2009 at 6:53pm by waterynuggets
I'm so sorry that happened to you. If you were in love with him, why didn't your best friend know? or did she just not care? You should've told him you liked him before they even went out. But you need to be a good friend and support your best friend and let him go. I promise you God has an awesome guy planned for you that you will love even more and everything will work out :) I'm sorry if that's not what you wanna hear but it's the truth. Just give all your pain to God. Pray for healing and God won't let you down. I'm not saying you will heal in like 2 seconds...it will still take some time. But everything's gonna be all right.
#149 - On 07/04/2009 at 7:13pm by rockerchickxd
There are so many people insulting the OP about things that haven't even been hinted at in the message.
There are so many people who are making grand assumptions about the situation based off two lines.
There are so many people who seem to think that people undergoing stress need to be talked down at like some peasant.
There are so many people who seem to think that not acting on ones feelings mean that the feelings aren't there, which isn't the case at all.
To the OP, I'm sorry that you're in this mess. You obviously know that you've made some mistakes to have been brought to this situation. You've messed up, but hope is far from lost. No matter what it takes, you can forget about your feelings for him. I really hope that you can find someone who can reciprocate your feelings. If your friend doesn't know, it might be worth mentioning something so that she doesn't unintentionally act insensitive. (i.e. discuss things they've done together etc.) It's never easy, and it never happens quickly, but you need to keep moving on to find that special guy who you can really love without such pain.
I really do wish you all the best. =)
why didnt u do something before they got married?
say......ninth grade??
#152 - On 07/04/2009 at 7:49pm by MeandSunnyD
I can't even imagine how hard it must be for you, but kudos to you for being a good enough friend to let them be happy together rather than trying to split them up.
#153 - On 07/04/2009 at 7:57pm by vaguereference
I think that you never tell them, and that you're a good friend after all, 'cause you didn´t get in the middle of a relationship. I know girls who would probably don't mind about a friends fellings and will start to get mad and do some bad stuff just for jealousy when they start to date. And if you told them and get rejected, I think you are a good friend too just to be in the wedding (something important for your best friend for sure) and handle the situation. Best of luck!
#154 - On 07/04/2009 at 8:06pm by godlyglobe
I'm still the 154: sorry for the mistakes, I'm from Barcelona, my english is not so good.
#155 - On 07/04/2009 at 8:14pm by godlyglobe
you actually fell in love with someone in 8th grade? wow
#156 - On 07/04/2009 at 8:20pm by aaaaa12345
Man, that sucks. Sounds like something right out of a movie...that's just too sad.
They say a new love is the only way to rightfully heal a wounded love...but I have no other advice than that. I sympathize.
#157 - On 07/04/2009 at 9:26pm by Crzy_EyesSunrise
Ohh that sucks. I'm gonna be in the same sitch in a week when my friend gets married.
#158 - On 07/04/2009 at 10:17pm by twilightfann23
talk about crap. i feel ur pain but what i, or my friend had once experienced was nothing compared to this. lets see...three guys once chased after one girl. one tried hard for over a year and a half. i tried but not too hard for about half a year. and the third tried for half a year just like me. guess who won? the third guy. we were all best friends too. u made the toast? ur voice must have really trembled...
uh.. so sorry? I really have no empathy for you, however. Judging from the description, it sounds like the three of you guys (you, your best friend, and the guy as well) have been friends "forever" and you NEED to move ON with your life. You should be happy for your best friend and the guy you've been in love with for SO long. I personally believe almost any two people can fall in love with one another (from my own experience and from watching it happen to friends of mine). So, you just need to do some exploring and sooner or later, you'll find a guy who's more perfect than your 8th grade crush.
does ur best friend know u love him? does he? does anyone besides random veiwers on FML website?
#164 - On 07/05/2009 at 12:29am by golfmanreddy
sorry you deserved it. you should've said something obviously if you liked him this long. it's kinda pathetic sweetie
as everyone said, you should've told him earlier, you probably had many, many chances to tell him as you watched your best friend get in a relationship with him. now, because of your inaction, you have to live with your decision.
hope you find a new man. YDI
#169 - On 07/05/2009 at 2:43am by hellFighter
and if she really had confessed her love for him, she should and would have declined to be the Maid of Honor, and perhaps her friend and the friend's husband would understand.
Unless you confess, sorry girl, but most likely your friendship is doomed.
#170 - On 07/05/2009 at 2:49am by hellFighter
Awww that sucks.
I'm sorry. But you really should have said something. Dont live your life with regrets! LIVE!!!
#171 - On 07/05/2009 at 2:58am by lonleygurl1989
I just had a similar situation. I had liked this girl a year ago and we recently told each other we like each other a lot and the problem she is engaged to her best friend who she grew up with since they were babies. Life sucks but maybe I can wait to see what happens because her wedding is in a few years. But I don't regret telling her at all because I told her and at least I know. If it is not to be, there will be more girls. But what if it is?
#172 - On 07/05/2009 at 3:22am by Universe_of_Time
You should have been happy for your best friend !!! You are a horrible person!! Get over it and be the best friend that would have happily made a toast for them and wished best of luck to them! Shut up, stop complaining and be the best friend that you should be!!
#173 - On 07/05/2009 at 3:43am by xoxkarinexox
Now that he's married, I say move on and find someone new. It obviously wasn't meant to be, and screwing over your best friend over a guy is really not worth it.
to all the people saying u had plenty of time, coulda said something, shoulda spoke earlier. shut the hell up. your all just ignorant ass holse. how do u know she dident do any thing? how do u know she dident try? how do u know she just sat there in missory? to all of you shut up
#175 - On 07/05/2009 at 10:32am by funnyruste
@ #175 - It's apparent she didn't try or at the very least, try hard enough. She only has one person to blame and that is herself.
@ OP - Honestly you had all the time in the world to get with him. You don't deserve him if you're just going to sit by idly and let your best friend take him. God have mercy on your soul should you decide to become a jealous bitch and ruin their relationship.
#176 - On 07/05/2009 at 11:06am by FabledWaltz
I didnt really read other peoples posts on this but i saw that some people were telling you you didnt try hard enough or that your disrespcting their relationship ect. well i went through close to the same thing but thank goodness they didnt get married. i did tell the guy that i liked him. actually im in love with him and its not something you can control for those of you who say get over it. But im really sorry that you had to go through that and im glad that you are still there supporting them both and being their friend. its alot harder than people think it is to stand by and watch that happen but you are glad they are both happy im sure.
Oh baww, grow up. You're not in love with him, you're obsessed. Once you're actually in love you'll realize what an idiot you're being.
#181 - On 07/05/2009 at 3:05pm by Cittenscollar
OUCH.
I'm assuming that she should know that you're in love with him, and since 8th grade, and thus she is a BITCH for even going out with him.
...Why are you guys still friends?
#182 - On 07/05/2009 at 4:01pm by shit_happens101
wow. this situation is gonna happen to me soon, except i'm sleeping with the soon-to-be-groom.
#183 - On 07/05/2009 at 6:05pm by missyedges1
You deserve it for not ridding yourself of a ridiculous grade eight crush years ago.
#188 - On 07/06/2009 at 1:46am by Tybalt1212
If she was your best friend you would have told her about this before she & your crush ever started dating. Your own damn fault.
#189 - On 07/06/2009 at 1:56am by Chocoholic17
You deserved it. If you've really loved him that long, you're a fool and a coward for never speaking out to him about your feelings.
#194 - On 07/06/2009 at 6:55pm by Sirwootalot
FAKE FAKE FAKE FAKE.. you guys do know this FML was oviously Made by some "witty" person that works for FML. WOW , thease would be sooooo much more funny if they were real.
and its even worse when they steal the idea from a movie
#195 - On 07/06/2009 at 7:05pm by CaleighChi
oh and i really hope (if this is real) that you dont try and screw up their marrige. Please move on and thats not an insult
#196 - On 07/06/2009 at 7:07pm by CaleighChi
8th grade? he obviously would have known if you were interested and so would your friend and they went on anyway to fall in love and in marriage. get over it. he will never be yours. deal with it and move on.
#197 - On 07/06/2009 at 11:49pm by thestevenrose
In love with, my ass...
Did you ever even date him? Come on, you're too old for this junior high nonsense.
Caleigh: Way to stick to your guns there.
Julia Roberts, is this you? Still can't get over what happened in "My Best Friend's Wedding" huh?
#202 - On 07/08/2009 at 1:48am by pinknoise
^^ lmao ^^
So? It's not like you guys dated and he left you. He probably never even knew how you felt.
#203 - On 07/08/2009 at 3:26am by sickinlove13
Hey everyone! This is my sisters FML, and let me clear somethings up for you.
1. The groom dated her in highschool and was just as much in love with her as she was with him.
2. He left her for her best friend cause his parents didnt want him dateing a jew.
3. My sister has moved on and has a bf, but she still has feelings for the groom.
4. Her bestfriend asked her to be the maid of honor and my sis didnt want to turn her down.
So their you all go.
#205 - On 07/08/2009 at 1:35pm by dasupajew39
Damn. I had to do something similar once, and it was my sister in the place of the OP's best friend. Although they broke off their engagement and I didn't know him as long. FYL. :[
#206 - On 07/08/2009 at 5:28pm by KarlaSphinx
have you ever told this person how you felt? when you snooze you lose!
#207 - On 07/08/2009 at 11:34pm by frankenberrie
Why the hell would you agree to something like being the Maid of Honor? Not saying that you don't have a place to feel bad, but you're kinda setting yourself up for a world of hurt.
omg that sucks : (
i really hope that you feel better
but that wasnt fair at all and i know it'll be hard to get over it
you should've told them how you felt about it cuz this is bull shit, it's as if they're treating you as a slave
even your best friend, that was bitchy of her not to notice how you felt about it and she didnt even say anything about you being the maid of honour.
some friend she is.
#212 - On 07/16/2009 at 4:38pm by xxXXxriro_kxxXXx
You Deserved It for not fighting for the one you love. Life without love is a life unlived.
#214 - On 08/03/2009 at 1:22am by BigBlueMonster
Dear god people, how do you know she didn't make a move? Wow are you guys judgemental...Of course she didn't turn down the offer, it was her BEST FRIEND. Even though she loves the guy doesn't mean that she can't be happy for her best friend. man...you guys are idiots...
#216 - On 11/29/2009 at 4:11pm by xXxHopelessxXx
