Today, it's been a few days since I decided to give this girl I like the silent treatment.I've been writing on/off with her for a few weeks, but decided to stop a bit, to seem mysterious. When I logged on Facebook today, her status was "..is so happy that annoying guy has stopped writing to me!" FML
I agree, your life sucks (11437) - you totally deserved it (37889)
On 06/27/2009 at 5:11pm - love - by jake (man) - Denmark (Frederiksborg)
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wtf how did you get first before me!!!!!!!!!! FML FML FML FML
#11 - On 06/27/2009 at 8:54pm by greenmonxster
It would only be annoying if she didn't respond back. FYL Dude she's a bitch anyway she shouldn't have been msging u back if she didn't want to talk 2 u!
#40 - On 06/27/2009 at 9:25pm by girandwogpig
Holy crap. You didn't get first on an FML post. Oh my God I'm so sorry. What will your parents think?
Awwh. D:
At least you know not to bother her anymore?
but she could've told you in a nicer way. or maybe she tried to, and you just didn't take the hint.
by the way, 'mysterious' doesnt work out to well. she'll think you're not into her.
(second!:P)
#2 - On 06/27/2009 at 8:48pm by SusanaSaysRawrxD
You were too nice earlier. You've got to go full on asshole if you expect this to work.
#4 - On 06/27/2009 at 8:48pm by Agrajagged
true dat!! You will only get chicks when you're an asshole. "Nice guys finish last" isn't a joke.
#97 - On 06/28/2009 at 12:01am by genius_man16
that's not true at all. it's annoying guys who finish last.
#100 - On 06/28/2009 at 12:10am by miss_california
Not true. My boyfriend was never an asshole and I'm sure he gets laid more than most assholes.
#139 - On 06/28/2009 at 4:39am by HumansSuck
I think you can be annoying-nice or annoying-mean, and those finish last because they lack charisma.
The unfortunate thing is that there seems to be too many annoying men in the nice category and too many suave men in the mean category.
#147 - On 06/28/2009 at 6:06am by Yulia
Of course it isn't always the case. But this was the approach he was trying to take, and he failed hard at it. He would've been better off if he'd been a douche initially. She wouldn't have seen him as annoying, rather, she'd be interested because of his apparent lack of interest in her. You always want what you can't have.
Assholes win in the short term. Unless what you really want is a string of short term relationships over the course of your youth (and increasing lonlieness as you age), it's definitely not the way to go about it. Nice guys are heartbroken as adolescents, only to find love when women get over their attention stage learn to value decency.
So keep that in mind the next time some girl runs of with a jerk - that jerk is going to die alone.
#172 - On 06/28/2009 at 2:52pm by Agrajagged
Why do girls say they want nice guys when they always ignore the nice guys because they don't look like holister models?
147 - this is unfortunately true.
174 - Because when they say they want nice guys, they mean they want attractive nice guys. Unfortunately, being attractive means you're far more likely to be an asshole in some way, male or female. Arrogant, vain, what have you, you're more likely to be it when you're attractive. It's because it makes you feel like you're better than people. Now, I'm not saying attractive people are all (or even mostly) jerks or douches or whatever, but I AM saying that they're more LIKELY to be... ESPECIALLY below age thirty, but mostly below 25 or so...
Hell, I'm pretty and I'm an arrogant bitch when I'm not being as nice as I can be. -shrugs- It just happens.
Plus, it seems to me that a lot of the self-proclaimed "nice guys" complaining about this aren't really that nice. They're just pretending to be nice to make up for the fact they've got nothing else going for them... and yes, they give ACTUAL nice guys a REALLY bad name. Even if there aren't that many selfish, worthless assholes pretending to be sweet to get in some gal's (or guy's...) pants (and failing miserably, of course), they definitely make it SEEM like they're in the 30% category, because they seem to be the ones who get around the most (and by get around, I don't mean getting laid, because that ain't gonna happen; true colors show very easily with folks like them).
Besides, 172 had it right on. Jerks usually have lots of short term relationships early on in life, and nice guys find that perfect gal (or close enough, anyway) later in life. Guess which category ends up being happy a lot more often?
This usually goes hand in hand with bitches and nice girls, too. I wonder why.
Isn't there a correlation? There's something about being nice that's annoying; something about being mean that's suave. It seems to me to be the girl equivalent of guys claiming that "Looks don't matter much..." through their teeth. (Admittedly that was a pretty darn big generalisation.)
#197 - On 06/30/2009 at 2:10pm by cheesefest
totally agree with u...
u should've just approached her...
sending messages through facebook is kinda annoying...
you pretty much deserved it.. you were annoying
LOL... the silent treatment wtf
#6 - On 06/27/2009 at 8:52pm by IstDasExtrem
haha seriously what is this the 3rd grade?"silent treatment"
#91 - On 06/27/2009 at 11:47pm by princess_girl
Haha, you idiot. You got 7th and you had to reply to the first poster and whine why you didn't get the first post. I hate stupid fucking people like you. The goal of commenting is not to be the first poster, get a fucking a life.
#159 - On 06/28/2009 at 10:15am by soccerkrzy
Why are you and this girl Facebook friends if she's referring to you as "that guy"? Also, seriously... The silent treatment? Really? How old are you?
#8 - On 06/27/2009 at 8:52pm by Insert_Wit_Here
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how is silent treatment immature or bad?
i guess it could be bad because she could see it as being mean but that is far from meaning he deserves it
and to anyone else commenting about stalking:
HOW IS TALKING TO HER ON FACEBOOK STALKING HER?
facebook is meant for friends to talk online so it cant be stalking because they were only talking and nothing like him sneaking into her house while she's sleeping which is obviously creepy
she could have obviously blocked him if she wanted to
though she could have meant someone else
45, he gave her the silent treatment in order to seem mysterious. That's about as immature as anything anyone has ever done in the history of the world.
k, well the person before me doesn't know how to condense their message into a reasonable space, so i'll say my take on things..
Giving the silent treatment can of course be seen as immature, but if you're someone who has tried it, you KNOW that it works wonders. The person starts wondering what's up, starts caring more and being more attentive, and wants to get closer to you.
HOWEVER, in my experience, this works perfectly well with guys who care about a woman in the first place. it does NOT work with guys who don't give a shit to start with, or with men using it on women.
#150 - On 06/28/2009 at 6:09am by Yulia
and by the way, when i said 'the person before me' I was talking about a comment that is now deleted but the same person as #45.
#173 - On 06/28/2009 at 3:09pm by Yulia
just because you're friends on facebook doesn't mean you're friends in real life...
remember that.
#187 - On 06/28/2009 at 9:42pm by vlgala
Since you are Facebook friends, she obviously knows you will read her status. She has no class and you are better off without her!
the second i finished reading this some girl that likes me and annoys the hell out of me started talking to me on MSN
#13 - On 06/27/2009 at 8:55pm by dowhatiwant
ahaha YDI for being stalker-ish.
And the silent treatment? My brother thinks that's immature and he's 7.
#15 - On 06/27/2009 at 8:55pm by notapplicable123
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How sending messages to someone is called being a stalker? Maturity doesn't have anything to do with the silent treatment, by the way.
I wouldn't be surprised if your brother were more mature than you.
#18 - On 06/27/2009 at 8:59pm by wingedspiritus
Actually, it does. As you mature, you become more capable of and inclined to communicate in far more effective ways.
18- Ignoring someone in order to be "mysterious" is extremely immature. And obviously if his crush was relieved he stopped messaging her he must message her a LOT, which is creeping/stalking according to many people.
And how would you consider me 'immature'? Please, enlighten me.
#67 - On 06/27/2009 at 10:20pm by notapplicable123
Aww... I think you're obsessed with her in my opinion. Kind of infatuation, I guess.
I think I know how you feel, but YDI. :/
And not because of the silent treatment.
#16 - On 06/27/2009 at 8:57pm by wingedspiritus
How is he obsessed? Because he sent her a few messages? Wowzers, I must be obsessed with a LOT of people...
I didn't mean it like that, smartface.
Considering he sent a lot of messages to her crush to the point it annoyed her, I'd conclude he was obsessed. Read better next time.
#41 - On 06/27/2009 at 9:26pm by wingedspiritus
considering it's only been 'a few days' since he stopped talkign to her, it kinda insinuates he's been msging/talking to her every single day. maybe he is a bit obsessed?
#61 - On 06/27/2009 at 10:04pm by itsnotfair
Hm...
I guess she didn't like you back lol
You can find someone way better :P
Being mysterious only works if you start from the begining. And only works on some girls. If you come off as really nice, and she seems bored or odded out by you, stop talking to her. Then, pick it up again later. Things will seem more interesting to her :P
Dude, it's a trick. She's obviously into you, and trying to get a response.
Don't let yourself get outplayed. The only logical course of action is to start tracking her movements; gotta regain that upper edge.
Uhh... most women don't go for that "mysterious because he hasn't been messaging me" thing. That is a real life thing. If she had been into you she would have sent you a message or attempted to get in touch with you. If you weren't being creepy and messaging her all the time and waiting for her in the dark corners of facebook for her to log on, then FYL.
However... if you were being a creepy stalker and pounced on her the second she showed up on the internet, YDI
No matter what though, she's wasn't too nice for putting that as her status... either you didn't get her subtle hints she didn't like you or she's a bitch and you're better off.
#27 - On 06/27/2009 at 9:05pm by desertkitt
DUDEEE ! you're lucky you even had interaction with the girl you like. At least, she knows who you are..and you know that she dislikes your childish behaviour. ........unless you have'nt already figured, im unknown to the guy i like....*hides in a corner and bawls her eyes out* ....i act like a child sometimes too ;D
#30 - On 06/27/2009 at 9:08pm by FerociousFishy
You deserve it for being a fucking creep and not getting the fucking message.
God damn I hate people like you.
#33 - On 06/27/2009 at 9:08pm by MeganH0LLYW00D
Me too! I hate when you meet someone that seems interesting and you give them your number and they text you 129378291874 times a day wanting to know what youre doing and the next time they can see you.
That clingy shit is a huge turn off! I just stop answering my phone when it starts up... and stop caring.
Fucking yeah.
Shit I hate when I have to start being a bitch just to make them fuck off.
Yeah call me immature but whatever.
#38 - On 06/27/2009 at 9:18pm by MeganH0LLYW00D
I don't think THAT is immature. You try to give them hints, and they don't get it. Even if you tell them nicely you're not into them, those guys still think you're a bitch. And that is why I just give up and stop caring.
wow at least you have people to give your number too
#108 - On 06/28/2009 at 12:26am by hugzandkisses666
i absolutely hate clingy guys/girls. =/
it's really annoying (then scary) to have someone msg you THE moment you get on AIM or FB or where ever. it's like they're waiting for you to get on. i can understand if you two are best (girl) friends but mutual friends or acquaintances..this is not a good relationship. either the girl was bothered by the guy, and she was not at all interested or the this guyis a stalker. OR she might have been talking about someone else. :)
Seriously right.
I have this boy who calls me like 5 times a day.
Messages me all the time asking if I got his other messages.
And he comes to my house like 4 times a week.
He's fucking weird.
#125 - On 06/28/2009 at 1:40am by MeganH0LLYW00D
i feel bad for you.
relationships suck.
boys suck.
girls suck.
as you may be able to tell, i'm commenting like this because of experiences i've had.
FOL..
(f*** our lives)
This is pretty weird. So you guys weren't friends; but due to messaging, a part of her profile was made available to you? (unbeknownst to her).
If you guys weren't friends though, she shouldn't feel weird to NOT reply; she could block you if she didn't want to hear from you.
I think she was just being an attention whore to post that as her status..
I think you two are meant for each other! Go for it!
#39 - On 06/27/2009 at 9:20pm by mishel
There are people who make their profile visible for everyone on FB, it is possible to do that. But true, posting such status IS being attention whore.
#154 - On 06/28/2009 at 6:43am by cocacola999
why do ppl think its strange to stop talking to someone you like for a few days.
i do that just to see if i was able to edge into their life after a few week.
#43 - On 06/27/2009 at 9:27pm by sup3rcray0n
i agree, before i was going out with my current boyfriend i wouldn't talk to him even if i knew he was available so i could let him start the conversations, which i wouldn't exactly call "the silent treatment" but it seems similar. it was hard though because turns out he was doing the same thing to me. it was just a way of judging if he really enjoyed talking to me or not, seems like in OP's case she didn't.
i would say YDI for being annoying... but she's pretty mean to make that her status.
so FYL...you wouldn't want to date someone mean like that anyway.
#47 - On 06/27/2009 at 9:38pm by lukewarmocha
Nah. I've read every FML and it doesn't ring a bell.
YDI for not restraining yourself. I can understand impulses, they're illogical and everyone has them, but you should be able to know what's too much.
I stopped and clicked YDI at "silent treatment." I'm just gonna assume I'm right on this one without reading the rest.
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i say you go and hit her. works for 5 year olds
silent treatment doesnt work i did that to a girl that i knew liked me and i liked her all she did was ignore me back... and i ended up talking to her cuz i couldnt stand not to lol
If you liked her and you new for sure that she had feelings for you... why the fuck di you not just ask her out?
#138 - On 06/28/2009 at 4:20am by plethora
The whole mysterious thing doesn't really work like that... let me tell you what happened with me. About a year ago, this really hot girl gave me her number and told me to call her. A week later, I see her again and she asks me why I haven't called her yet. I told her I'm sorry and that I'll try to call her sometime this week. She thought it was pretty cool that I was too busy to call her. I didn't call her because I was too much of a pussy at that time. I finally called her, asked her out and it went pretty well. Honestly, I didn't mean for any of that to happen.
Weird right LOL
Why don't guys seem to know how to read women? I hope you're just very young... it's always such a puzzle why some guys just can not read signs and tell they are not being considered as a potential mate...
okay, well, you're dumb for giving her "the silent treatment"
but for the record, a year ago i was all hung up on a guy, another guy kept writing to me and i was really annoyed by it/him. i gave him a chance. we've been dating 10 months. so. all hope is not lost.
#65 - On 06/27/2009 at 10:14pm by starvingxartist
wth do u think that giving her the "silent treatment" would make her like u more? oh my bad, make u seem "more mysterious"...w/e was ur reasoning, the st was a stupid move. tru girls dont like guys 2 be clingy without ANY sense of mystery but 4 the most part we dont like 2 b ignored. we ESPECIALLY dont like 2 date assholes. she prob thought u didnt like her!
That being said, IF AND ONLY IF her fb status was referring 2 u, she was rude and led u on instead of setting u straight. if thats the case yall both deserve each other.
#68 I think that he wasn't ignoring her he simply stopped msging her.
#77 - On 06/27/2009 at 10:54pm by lilcuti3pi389
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Get over it faggot. That was a stupid plan anyway. Like you would've ever ended up with her anyway.
While her status was really passive aggressive, your plan was childish and dumb. If you like her, just tell her how you feel.
You're either really annoying or she knows you read her status and was tryin to coax you back out.... I went with the first option. YDI
#74 - On 06/27/2009 at 10:44pm by poppajonzz
I don't think she was talking about you. If it annoyed her so badly, and if she knew you'd see that she called you annoying anyway, why wouldn't she just tell you to piss off?
i don't get why you would call that "silent treatment"?
isn't that for when you're mad at someone, instead of when you're trying to be "mysterious"?
#87 - On 06/27/2009 at 11:25pm by lisafannypack
guys like you disgust me ! SERIOUSLY ! teenagers like you only want sex and that's it ! they dont give a shit about love or anything ! i hope you burn in hell with the ugliest, fattest male prostitutes....and you are forced to mate !
#171 - On 06/28/2009 at 1:48pm by FerociousFishy
Silent treatment is lame, especially if you actually like the person. YDI for being a childish dick.
#99 - On 06/28/2009 at 12:08am by fakkumairaifu
wtf is your problem every1. havent you ever in your life liked some1 so much that u would make up these little strategies n shit , and u would not even realize that u were bothering the person. you're all acting like you're perfect and you've never been in his shoes. fuck you all.
#103 - On 06/28/2009 at 12:16am by wait_what1992
aha i get it. i didnt put enough capitals for you, and now it renders the rest of my post useless.
#107 - On 06/28/2009 at 12:24am by wait_what1992
Well I have never been in his shoes. It's fucking creeper status.
I've had plenty of boys do it and it's fucked up weird.
#123 - On 06/28/2009 at 1:37am by MeganH0LLYW00D
Crafting "little strategies n shit" means that you're treating your relationship (or lack thereof) like a game. It's immature and disrespectful, especially if you're also ignoring the other person's reactions to said "strategies". If you bother to pay attention, you'll know when you've made someone uncomfortable.
i think she must have taken it personal and did that..if she really thought you were annoying and she was glad, she probably would just be glad to herself, but to put it on a facebook status just sounds like her way of coping with imagined rejection..wouldn't she have deleted you? she probably wanted you to see it so she could kind of reject you before you reject her if that makes sense
unless she's just insensitive and mean then oh well..you don't really need to let your whole facebook friend list know..maybe she was trying to impress some other guy by making it seem like there's other guys after her
#110 - On 06/28/2009 at 12:32am by hugzandkisses666
alright here's some advice about getting girls:
1) any time a guy i dont know messages me on facebook, or says some crap like "baby i just wanna get to know you", or asks me for my number, that is like an immediate shutdown. there is almost always no chance with that shit. in all honesty, most of us girls just get that stuff wayyyy too often from all different types of people, and if you start that with us we'll put you in a group with those people.
to clarify, if we have met and at least had a conversation, friending/messaging us on facebook is not creepy (as long as you don't do it every day). but if it is out of nowhere, it is creepy.
seriously, the best way to get to know a girl is to just talk to her. if you have classes together, talk to her in class. if you have mutual friends, ask your friends if you can all hang out together, and then talk to her a lot (she'll know you're interested). or in all honesty, just smile at her if you see her around and maybe she'll come talk to you!
Hi baby, my name is ccyto; I just wanna get to know you. Can I have your number?
Just kidding. I know exactly what you're talking about. When there's a cute girl that I'm interested in, I just smile at her. If they don't smile back for no apparent reason I just forget about them. Not that I ever really had any of them not smile back, but that's probably because I don't smile at bitches.
:)
Yup. In general, women like it when men treat them like *people*. I don't see why this is such a shocker, but apparently it is.
Atleast she is honest ... and didn't waist a few months of your life leaving you hanging in her chatbox!
Ohhh, i'm sorry.
Never play games with girls like that.
& stop being annoying (:
#128 - On 06/28/2009 at 1:56am by lovelykendra5
That sucks but like someone above said, f**k that bitch. Lesson learned...move on.
I'm assuming she didn't give you some sign before now. If she did and you just missed then, yeah, stop being annoying but either way, forget about her.
#131 - On 06/28/2009 at 2:42am by SuperNovice
lmao lmao lmao
i think i know this girl...
i saw her status saying that EXACT thing.
;)
#132 - On 06/28/2009 at 2:50am by torrilove4
haha. shes just another hoe, yul find sumone else. but hunnnnn yu should give the bitch some space so yur not annoying. i dont blame her. i hate when guys get anoying and talk to me all the time. but yeah haha cute
#135 - On 06/28/2009 at 3:50am by porkchop69
Dude. You know danish girls can be vicious.
Stop whining and get over it. Seriøst.
#137 - On 06/28/2009 at 3:59am by blowyourspeakers
That's because ur ugly! U shud no that Michael told me ur secret!
#140 - On 06/28/2009 at 4:52am by DingusLvl5
you are all bloody immature, we're not gonna bite your head off, come talk to us straight off, you'll get the vibe straight away on what we feel for you! I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 years and I made the first move cause he was too shy and I was really into him.
one other thing, watch who they tell (his friends) cause after he said he was gonna ask me out to them, 2 of them asked me out, they got burne btw, they only looked like friends to me.
and btw, we have a beautiful baby girl now.
#145 - On 06/28/2009 at 5:58am by MorlekEngel
I agree with her. You'd have to be pretty obnoxious to a) think that the silent treatment would *impress* anyone, and b) not notice that you were annoying her before that (she's obviously not worried about being subtle about it).
Some women are hypocretical, they just can't say something in someone's face, so they pretend to be nice and they respond to your mails, but they just want you to stop... It sucks!
you're lucky. you don't want to date someone that doesn't know the difference between first and third person.
Hey Jake it is okay. This is your mother, I have set up a date with Susan Boyle. Have fun!
Love Mommy :)
#162 - On 06/28/2009 at 11:39am by quadracer111
Oh ya, girls are retarded fucking bitches. I want equal rights blah blah blah. Then don't fucking complain when I knock you the fuck out after you slap me.
Bitch
#164 - On 06/28/2009 at 11:41am by quadracer111
Oh ya, 156 wear a condom. Who the fuck has a kid with a boyfriend of a couple years?
#165 - On 06/28/2009 at 11:43am by quadracer111
Well dude, life is a learning process. People won't necessarily tell you that you're annoying them. I know I don't tell most of the people that annoy me that they annoy me. I'm just glad when they don't write to me or phone. So take it as a lesson learned. Just because you're conversing with someone doesn't make it special. And being silent just to be mysterious makes you sound more like a game player than a man. And even things that are initially fine will often get annoying if they happen too much. So maybe hearing from you less often would have set a better tone. There's no magic solution, and different strokes for different folks always applies. I just wish you luck, because learning is an ongoing thing and we always find out too late how we should have done things.
#166 - On 06/28/2009 at 12:33pm by p00p0ster0us
it is just too easy to make fun of you.
so i wont.
but next time realize little games like that will blow up in your face.
lol kind of funny because that happen to one of my friends lol i told him that girl was out of his league poor kid...
#169 - On 06/28/2009 at 1:26pm by ithedarkknight
*roars with laughter*
Dude, you are a complete idiot. YDI, seriously. Awesome FML.
#170 - On 06/28/2009 at 1:37pm by judgeymcjudge
wow, i've been doing the same thing to this guy I like and now he thinks I don't really like him. FML
Turns out people don't like being constantly pestered. I'm gonna go ahead and bet that you initiated every conversation.
rofl! Dude, she's probably some annoying popular chick. And i've tried the silent treatment. You gotta talk to her, then wait for her to talk back and then wait for her to start talking to you, then ignore her for about a week! I know that and i'm a frickin girl
#181 - On 06/28/2009 at 5:21pm by nanoflacka
are you a retard ? youre probably one of those girls who thinks everyone likes you because youre so "popular". just between you and me....no guy likes that. in my eyes, youre classified as a retarded airhead who thinks too much of herself..take this as constructive criticism, sweety.
#184 - On 06/28/2009 at 6:51pm by FerociousFishy
the thing is. she probably knew you would see that and posted it on purpose to get back at you for ignoring her
#182 - On 06/28/2009 at 6:07pm by cloudbrunnette
you must have been really annoying to her for her to post it on facebook thats pretty weird that she wrote something up
#189 - On 06/29/2009 at 9:42am by socrkeeper001
Why the Hell would you give the girl you like a silent treatment? Of course she'd be pissed.
#190 - On 06/29/2009 at 4:03pm by LittleGigiK
Uhh.. I'm sure she dropped hints that she wasn't interested. :/
Or maybe she was polite to you, and you took it as her "liking you..." Just know if they actually DO like you next time, or else you'll seem annoying, or creepy.
if he had called what he was doing "hard to get" instead of the "silent treatment"then all the comments saying he was immature wouldnt be here. theyre the same exact thing
It'd be the same thing for me.
"Hard to get" and "the silent treatment" are for children. Hard to get isn't sexy or cute, its just annoying. Similarly, silent treatment isn't mysterious, its just stupid. So is ignoring someone who seems interested in you to be cool.
As you said, they're both pretty much the same, so they get pretty much the same amount of contempt from me. :)
dude this seems almost exactly like what i'm going through. i really wish guys wouldn't do that.. ignore the girls they like, i mean.. -daydreams- ah! but yea i'm sorry. you kinda deserved that.
..haha that'd be funny to try posting that on my fb, actually.. maybe the guy that's ignoring me will think better of it, like you undoubtedly are. :P
best of luck to you though. hope you get it straightened out! :O
I see what you were trying to do cuz most chicks are attracted to jerks and "mysterious" guys but yeah I would also get annoyed if someone just on and off wrote to me cuz it's like "If you wanna talk to me, talk to me, don't just suddenly stop." Maybe you'll rub off on her if you were nice cuz you were being sweet and she'll see it and like you. Also maybe her friends don't like you and she tried to seem "cool" or idk, just my opinion :)
#195 - On 06/30/2009 at 4:19am by jennyg2010
If you're so annoying, why did she engage in constant conversations with you? Sounds like the passive-aggressive type.
