Today, I tried having intercourse with my boyfriend, and about 30 seconds in, I heard flipping. He was looking at a porn magazine. "It's to keep my erection" he answered. FML
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On 03/27/2009 at 11:16pm - intimacy - by VampiresSayRawr (woman) - Canada (British Columbia)
Okay that is just weird...whether you're just not good in bed or just don't turn him on in general...I think you should talk about it and if that does nothing then you should leave him...
I mean if he doesn't like the sex he could just say it and tell you what he likes...maybe your exboyfriends were satisfied with the way things were but he's not...and if he doesn't say anything about it then it's his own damn fault...and if he doesn't find you attractive then he shouldn't be dating you in the first place...
I don't consider myself to be exceptionally hot or pretty, I'd say I'm average...and still my husband would always rather look at me or pictures of me than looking at porn...of course he watched porn as well on occasion...but when he had the choice he always chose me over porn...
#4 - On 03/28/2009 at 5:52am by Puolukka
Pfft. 30 seconds and he's already having trouble? Dump his ass.
#8 - On 03/28/2009 at 6:53am by MyImmortal
He sounds hopeless, find someone else to have sex with :)
#9 - On 03/28/2009 at 6:59am by TheJadedDiary
#5 hahahah. he's really messed up if after 30 seconds he can't hold an erection.
#13 - On 03/28/2009 at 8:10am by legit1619
Some people have a legitimate problem like this. If you really care about him, you should be supportive.
People saying "you should dump him", there should be more to a relationship than sex. Dumping a boyfriend because he has problem keeping her thing up is like me breaking up with a girl because she doesn't want to do anal.
#16 - On 03/28/2009 at 9:00am by UrLifeDoesntSuck
hey!... at least he is trying... what's wrong about watching porn while having sex?
#17 - On 03/28/2009 at 9:28am by KenMcGormick
Maybe if you didn't call it "intercourse" he would feel more like you guys were having sex and less like he was part of a biology lecture...
#18 - On 03/28/2009 at 9:36am by Sure_Thing
@18, perhaps they are Mormon and can only have sex to reproduce.
#19 - On 03/28/2009 at 9:38am by UrLifeDoesntSuck
He could have performance anxiety (a.k.a. stage fright), where he's just so nervous about sex that he can't keep it up. And as with most young men nowadays, he's probably very comfortable jacking it to porn. So he's hoping by peeking at a little skin mag, that'll help. If this is the issue, be supportive. If it's not, then he just isn't that turned on.
-Dr. Devils69
you call it "intercourse". geez... call it that if sex is a chore only required for baby-making purposes.
you're not doing your part to keep him interested. "30 seconds in"??!! why weren't his eyes and hands on you that early on in the game? what were you looking off at that you didn't notice? you can't just lay back and make him bring it, you gotta bring it too.
also, a talk is needed... if a guy would rather look at porn than fondle his girlfriend-- that's pretty sad and he may not even be interested in you anymore. no sense in wasting your time in a boring relationship if you can't even get good sex out of it!
Uhh what the fuck.
How did you first of all not notice that he was looking at porn?
And 30 seconds?
I think you have a problem.
I would dump him because he didn't have the courtesy to tell me that he needs porn magazines to maintain an erection. Warn me beforehand so I can be prepared and say whether I'm comfortable with it or not!
Everybody who thinks the guy has erection problems is a fucking retard, obviously if he gets an erection from watching porn but not from the girl going down on him, then the problem is either the technique or the physical appearance of the girl.
@25 It's embarrassing and can be difficult to talk about. If you need to be "prepared" and think you have the right to say whether or not you are comfortable with it, you are a terrible girlfriend.
"Not telling me about his erection problem" is #2 on the worst reasons to dump a guy.
#27 - On 03/28/2009 at 11:31am by UrLifeDoesntSuck
No offense, but you may just be doing something either to turn him off or not doing the right thing to turn him on. I'm telling the truth when I say I have the same problem with my girlfriend, she was a virgin and I wasn't, and at first she just needed help because she was really bad and had no idea what to do. Just ask him the reason, maybe he just likes the porn, or maybe you're doing something he doesn't like.
#29 - On 03/28/2009 at 11:55am by strangersdk
oh heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeelllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll nooooooooooooo
#30 - On 03/28/2009 at 11:57am by areyoukiddingme
Yeah.. that sucks. I wonder if he'd be cool with you looking at or thinking about other guys and told him that it was just so that you could stay into it.... Who knows, you might have to start doing that.
#36 - On 03/28/2009 at 1:20pm by shawleigh17
agree with #5. it's not intercourse unless you are narrating a safe sex video from the 1950's, or you're the spawn of martha stewart. it's called SEX. no offense, but if you say "baby lets have intercourse" i'm surprised ya'll got that far. Better luck next time, when you attempt sex.
#37 - On 03/28/2009 at 1:20pm by saywhut05
Okay, so the only logical conclusions to said issue are that you are either 1) a fugly biatch, 2) a fat cow, 3) a loosey goosey, or 4) he is gay and you're the cover-up girl so his friends/family don't find out. However, if he is willing to try to plow you, he would certainly be going the extra mile if he was indeed gay. My recommendation would be to simply dim the lights, turn over, and try anal, because that's probably a little more his style anyway.
#38 - On 03/28/2009 at 1:22pm by Phillay632
HAHA #38
he's rude though.
but i mean you call it intercourse.
so its kinda YDI. you sound pretty ugly lmaoooo.
no offense! =]
Who cares that she called it "intercourse" on this website? That obviously is not the problem and the point of the OP.
#41 - On 03/28/2009 at 1:43pm by synchroskater
There is such a thing as porn addiction. He should probably talk to a therapist about the problem, it's a real psychological issue.
#46 - On 03/28/2009 at 2:33pm by Jungle_43
Tell him they make pills for that? Or better yet, tell him to GTFO and find a new boyfriend?
#47 - On 03/28/2009 at 2:35pm by FoundManyLemons
hah. and this is why porn IS degrading to women, contrary to whats-his-face said yesterday. guys get so used to digitally-enhanced airbrushed women that aren't even REAL that they don't get turned on by their wives and girlfriends any more. if you think i'm being stupid, take a look at the statistics - watching porn is the leading cause of divorce in the US.
dump him. and i'm not being shallow, clearly he is.
Watching porn is the leading cause of divorce in the US? I'd say that people being unintelligent and irrational would be the leading cause of plenty of problems in the US, not the least of which being the divorce rate.
I'd also blame the unrealistic expectations of love that Disney movies give children and various other things that the Moral Majority have been doing since I was born. Unintended consequences and hilarity ensue.
Love takes work, and nobody has been saying that for close to three decades now. Hence, the divorce 'problem'.
PS: If divorce is such a problem in the US, outlaw it. Then the phrase 'sanctity of marriage' will mean something.
Agree with #16. Everybody gets so angry at small things when they have sex.
#54 - On 03/28/2009 at 4:07pm by Phantom034
honestly??? OUCH!! 30 seconds?? what were u doing? sleeping??
no one gets bored THAT easily!!!
#56 - On 03/28/2009 at 4:39pm by No_Words24
maybe because you talk like "i tried to have intercourse" that he can't get hard. understandable
#59 - On 03/28/2009 at 5:43pm by roflmaonade
rofl @ 30 and agree strongly with 52. dump any loser who looks at porn. it's shit. they are shit.
#65 - On 03/28/2009 at 8:55pm by greenearth
he jerks off too much in between lays, tell him to stop lol
and "wtf" to the people who say to dump the guy for looking at porn, you're pretty uptight haha
I'm a woman. I like porn. There's nothing wrong with it. Jeez.
Although I would have a talk with him if he needs it to keep his erection. If he's dependent on it, something else is going on.
#69 - On 03/29/2009 at 12:57am by OhNoUDidnt
Either he's a pussy and can't keep it up, or you just got seriously burned.
#70 - On 03/29/2009 at 1:18am by podrummer9209
'I tried having intercourse'
thats adorable.
Can I adopt you?
#71 - On 03/29/2009 at 6:40am by KristianProof
I totally agree with #5, it sounds like you two have no passion. Maybe you should look at porn together for some inspiration or excitement. And it's true that he may just jerk off too much, but either way, it seems like you two have a lot to talk about.
#75 - On 03/29/2009 at 1:08pm by Common_Sense
What position were you in that you didn't even notice he was looking at a magazine until you heard him flipping through the pages?
Hokay. Seriously. You've got to do more than lay there and take it. Foreplay goes both ways. You must think pretty highly about yourself if you think all any guy has to do is think your name to get off. Kiss, lick, nibble, spank, talk dirty, etc. You can either feel sorry for yourself, or be an adult and ask him what turns him on.
That said, he probably had performance anxiety and did it for your sake... in order to make you happy. I hope you're happy that your insecure little self jumped to conclusions and caused your boyfriend even more embarrassment.
Get over it. He was obviously worth "trying" to have intercourse with.
fake, no guy is that big of a dick. im sure every guy on here can back me up...
#79 - On 03/29/2009 at 3:20pm by fuckmylife431413
okay if you're not turning him on, you should change a few things. for starters, STOP CALLING INTERCOURSE.
#80 - On 03/29/2009 at 4:08pm by coollifebtch
Ummm, why not just look at you? Instead he looks at a magazine? That is terrible!
#82 - On 03/29/2009 at 7:39pm by maiden_girl
This really isn't all that weird as everyone is thinking. I think a lot of the people saying wow what an asshole - they're girls and don't understand. Guys saying wow he's probably gay, you're probably ugly, they've never had sex. The way the girl phrased this saying tried to have intercourse makes me think that this was the first time, maybe for both of them. A lot of guys in their first time or if they're inexperienced have a hard time maintaining their erection especially if they're not comfortable being naked with the person. She shouldn't be that insulted, would she rather him go flacid during the sex or him keep the erection?
If they have sex more he'll be able to keep it.
Before you make a judgement, know what you're talking about. A guy can be with the hottest girl naked grinding on him and not get an erection. It's just about self control and his thoughts. I know I can keep it down even when a girl is grinding on me dancing, unlike a lot of other guys.
#84 - On 03/29/2009 at 8:42pm by ChileanPepper
I love responses like...
"Dump his ass, you can do better than him."
Because you obviously know the chick that posted this and that she deserves better than a guy who could be really great and just have performance anxiety or another psychological issue.
#84 wins.
#88 - On 03/30/2009 at 3:52pm by lions2057
I've never heard someone say "having intercourse"... not when they're being serious.
perhaps you're a little young for it?
#92 - On 04/01/2009 at 6:22pm by were_giraffe
if someone did that to me, i'd kick their ass out of my house....
#96 - On 04/08/2009 at 9:21am by Velocininja
Okay.
If a girl, ANY real, warm, breathing girl in the flesh cannot keep him occupied, he is a porn addict.
Plain and simple.
If you want to stay with him, know he has issues to deal with.
he's gay or you don't turn him on (not sure why he's with you). sucks for you
#100 - On 04/21/2009 at 3:10pm by mattypants
#27 - if its so embarrassing to talk about, maybe he shouldn't be having sex. :/
But yeah it could be errection problems...kinda weird though to resort to looking at porn, than touching your girlfriend's chest or something to turn you on. That seems pretty weird to me, it doesn't really make sense.
#101 - On 05/14/2009 at 3:21pm by shilo_wallace
what are you talking about #16?!
how can you even compare erectile disfunction to not wanting a dick up your ass?
#105 - On 07/17/2009 at 11:53am by wowwcaazoww
