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NoDaddyIssues Alphen aan den Rijn, Netherlands

Who are you? Who am I?

Today, I finally received the phone call I had been waiting on for years. The agency who is trying to approach my father in an attempt for me to get in contact with him called me with the news that they found him. Too bad he died about 25 years ago, so he can't consent with making himself known. FML

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As an adoptee that has never been able to make contact with my bio parents my heart goes out to you.

My condolences!

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My condolences!

Your "real" father and/or mother is whoever raised you. I am sorry that it turned out this way, but in a great many cases birth fathers or mothers are reluctant to meet their offspring that they did not raise. There is alway a reason that a birth parent stayed out of the life of children that they may have created. Most times it's just that they were unready, unable, or unwilling to raise a child, at least at that point in their lives... Sometimes people get fantasies that their birth parent or parents are going to make their lives somehow more complete. But it's usually just a fantasy. If they couldn't take care of you as a child, why think that they are magically now going to make your life better somehow... By the way, I am an adoptive father. The hard work of being a parent is caring for and raising that child when they needed someone to love and care for them - not in fertilizing an egg and then taking off. Not all parents either by birth or adoption are great parents, but the ones who stuck with you as you grew up are your "real" parents.

As an adoptee that has never been able to make contact with my bio parents my heart goes out to you.