Today, my mother-in-law asked for a copy of my son's death certificate so she could have her week-long island beach holiday classed as bereavement leave. FML
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drbckflps 22
I haven't read all the comments yet but thank you for your condolences. This is indeed the grandmother of my son and no, she didn't take the holiday as a way of grieving - it was purely opportunistic. She wasn't even polite to us at the funeral: her words to me were, "In six months when I get back you'll have forgotten this whole thing ever happened." Very disappointing. Thank you all again. I'll reply again when I get a chance to read some more comments.
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AU_Lovebird 17
That's horrible:( I'm sorry for your loss!
UnicornWine 22
Everyone can grieve differently, but that just seems a bit heartless and opportunistic. I'm sorry for your loss OP, I can't imagine how that feels.
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AU_Lovebird 17
That's horrible:( I'm sorry for your loss!
ona16 22
I agree #1 using death as an excuse is horrible but a mother-in-law using it for a vacation is just sickening.
adacurtis 9
I REALLY hope you didn't give her one. I'm so sorry.
meli1195 31
it's even worse if OPs son is the bitch's grandson . wtf is wrong with people
Just_A_Tree 20
OP, I'm so terribly sorry for your loss. Stay strong. You and your husband can get through this. When my brother died (before I was born) my mom and dad came closer together, and in most marriages where the first child dies, the couple usually splits. I'm the youngest and I've got another older brother. My mom, dad, brother, and I are a very normal and happy family. It's extremely tough. But you can pull through. Lean on each other, it's a really long and bumpy ride, but it gets better.
PennyLane27 32
100% with #42. I reeeeeeally hope she hasn't acquired a copy. That is the lowest of low. She's clearly not thinking of anyone but herself. Hope her boss "accidentally" finds out her scheme. *Breathes* That said, my heart aches terribly for you and your loss. And I hope you're able to focus on the things that you need to...rather than your aweful MIL!
sturschaedel 27
That monster-in-law sounds like a heartless bitch. I really hope you ended all communication with her forever when you slammed the phone down after her heinous request. I'm so sorry for your loss! Losing a child is the most horrible thing that can happen to a mum, my eyes are getting wet just thinking about it. I hope you have a net of people who can be with you, grief with you and help you through this, plus psychological help!
VeeFML 10
Not necessarily, could be op's second marriage.
xxreikoxx 31
Who cares which marriage it is, #61? Losing any loved one, especially one's own child, can still be very painful.
rocker_chick23 27
#61: Doesn't matter if it is OP's first, second, or millionth marriage, what the MIL asked was disgusting.
Matheo_fml 21
I agree! I hope you did not give it her and told her what a douche she is...
austincain117 16
Mother-in-law sounds like an ass. Sorry for your loss OP.
184886837272837 32
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Unless that's actually the reason OP's mother in law is actually going on vacation. Doesn't sound like it from the FML but when my friend died, her parents took a trip to visit Japan because she'd always wanted to go there. I'm sure a grandparent could have similar feelings. Just my two cents though
Mf2307 15
i really hope she never got the copy of it
UnicornWine 22
Everyone can grieve differently, but that just seems a bit heartless and opportunistic. I'm sorry for your loss OP, I can't imagine how that feels.
shessohighh 10
True. We really don't know the context of the situation so it's hard to say. Everyone is dogging on the mother-in-law but when my friend lost her childhood best friend she took a beach trip..not to live it up but just to get away. Everyone grieves differently. The FML definitely comes off as though she heartlessly asked for it.. but we can't know for sure. For the sake of OP and OP's spouse, I'm hoping it wasn't heartless.
VeganVampyre 27
You're right, we don't know for sure... But I imagine if the mil had actually needed time to grieve, and had asked in an appropriate way, this FML wouldn't exist. Plus, the way it's worded definitely sounds like the mil already had her beach trip planned, and now just wants to take advantage of the opportunity to have it classed as bereavement rather than having to use her vacation days... However, since we don't know 100% I will only say that IF that is the case, that's a truly horrible thing to do. And to OP, truly sorry for your loss, I can't even imagine how heartbreaking that must be.
AGB10 19
Monster in law then. Sorry for your loss OP
baxeh 29
She sounds pretty horrible! Some people i just can't understand. I sure hope you didn't give her a copy I'm so sorry for your loss, OP!
sweetbliss3 37
I don't care. I hope you punched that bitch in her face. ******* freak. I'm sorry for your loss. :-(
patrickalamo 48
Every now and then you need to go to guns... A punch is what the Dr. ordered
ChelseaSmile001 15
She shouldn't try to benefit from the situation... sorry for your loss, OP!
aimzskee 30
So sorry for your loss Op. She should be more sensitive.
maddieex 14
Sounds like a bitch. There's nothing worse than losing a child, and she should know that being a mother. I'm so sorry about your son, it must feel awful. Stay strong ?
cheeeksss 29
Damn, I actually felt pain from reading this. I'm so sorry for you loss, OP! *virtual hug*