Today, my fitness trainer husband told me that if I could not make the commitment to stay thin, he could not make the commitment to stay with me. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, during our wedding, my new husband said that he’d divorce me if I “let myself go.” Later, he couldn’t understand why I'd got upset and told me, “Why are you so worked up for? If you don’t want that to happen, just eat healthy and exercise daily, it's not that hard.” FML
Today, my new husband told me, “If you ever get comfortable during the marriage I’m leaving. So I’m getting you a gym membership to keep that body in check.” When I protested, he told me, “How would you feel if I packed pounds and look like Jabba The Hutt?” My silence was punctuated by an “Exactly.” FML
Today, my fiancé and I had a fight because he wouldn't let me get what I wanted to eat, even though it was my money. He said, "It's way too many calories. I'm supposed to help you lose weight." When I pointed out that I had given up a month ago, he looked at me and said, "Yeah, I can tell." FML
Today, I realized I agreed to go to the gym with my fiancé after being on my feet at work all day because he wants to get fit, but he will not help me remodel the house I’m working on so we can have a bigger place to live, because he doesn’t feel like it. I don’t want or need to go to the gym. FML
Today, my personal trainer fired me. Why? Because I wanted to focus on strength training, not weight loss, and refused to track my carb intake or fasting hours or "hold off on carbs til the optimal time of day." Nice to know I'm not allowed to be satisfied with my own weight. FML
Today, I was proposed to, under the condition that I "get thin" first. FML
Today, my girlfriend dumped me because I've recently become serious about getting fit, and have lost nearly 84 pounds. Apparently, when I was fat, I made her look smaller in comparison. When I got slimmer, she insisted I either gain the weight back or she'd leave. So she did. FML
Today, my boyfriend sent me a text that said, "I can't be seen with you anymore. You're too fat." FML
Today, as punishment for going through my boyfriend’s phone and finding evidence of him cheating, he dropped me off at the gym and made me stay there for an hour to workout. As soon as I get to a “desirable physique” he’ll dump the other woman. If I don’t do it, he’ll kick me out of our apartment. FML
Today, my wife tried to forbid me from going to the gym anymore because in public she looks fat stood next to me and it’s embarrassing. She picked me up from the gym yesterday and saw all the “thin gym sluts” I prefer to spend my time with instead of her. God, I’m sick of her lazy jealous BS. FML
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doggie3 0
Awwwww. I struggle with weight issues too, so I feel for you, but that is not cool of your husband. Tons of people are gonna be on here telling you to " divorce his ass" but don't.
Intoxicunt 6
Jokes aside, my advice would be this: Talk to your doctor. See if you are at an acceptable weight, or whether your health is/is going to suffer for your weight. If you are healthy, divorce. Your husband is just a shallow asshole. If you are not or are borderline, try to lose the weight. He has your health in mind when he says those things.
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Good_old_Grim 8
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**** your husband's life for having a wife that's getting fat. I bet it happened AFTER marriage, so he totally didn't sign up for that. Would you stay with him if he started smoking crack or smth? Its basically the same idea - a form of deteriorating.
owlsong 0
you're supposed to love someone in sickness and in health, etc. just because something happened that he didn't foresee doesn't mean he should run for the hills. there are a lot of ups and downs in marriages and if you can't handle it, then don't get married.
thegate 0
seriously? yeah you love them and if something outside of their control happens (they get sick, they lose their job because of downsizing) you stay with them. but if your partner, man or woman, doesn't care enough to stay in shape now that you two have tied the knot, it's dishonest and disrespectful.
canucksrule88 0
just because you get married to someone doesnt mean you should stop taking care of yourself. especially with him as a fitness trainer, he knows there are many more benefits to staying in shape rather than looking good. plus if a fitness trainer has a fat wife it looks bad on him as a trainer which means less customers
HahaYDI 0
And THAT'S why you don't eat at McDonalds everyday...
epicwinmaster 0
then go for a ******* jog rather than sit your fat ass back down at a computer...
crackz12 10
Agreed
liv1222 29
I know I'm late and all, but jackass that's not how it works. She could have problems with her weight. Instead of being an asshole you could try to understand her situation. We don't have the whole story so we don't get the right to make assumptions.
Ranoona 0
Just try to lose some weight and we'll see where that takes you
charredheart 0
op, your husband probably has your wellbeing in mind and is not just being some dick so you should take his opinion into account and decide yourself without the influence of randoms trashing you or your husband.
Intoxicunt 6
Go find a plumpa humpa. There are always guys out there who will take advantage of a woman with low self-esteem.* *And vice versa. I'm not being sexist.
sulitak 27
being heavy doesn't mean they have lower self esteem moron...
Intoxicunt 6
Jokes aside, my advice would be this: Talk to your doctor. See if you are at an acceptable weight, or whether your health is/is going to suffer for your weight. If you are healthy, divorce. Your husband is just a shallow asshole. If you are not or are borderline, try to lose the weight. He has your health in mind when he says those things.
etantao 0
Good sensible advice. But even if she is fat, that's not the way to tell her to be healthier. Seems like the dude's a prick!
Intoxicunt 6
You're probably right. Some people are severely tactless though. They could mean "I like your hair" and manage to mangle it into "I'm glad your hair looks good for a change".
Nofuckyourlife 1
His wording implies that you used to be skinny, and have put on weight since you got married, in which case he's well within his rights. He deserves a partner who he's sexually attracted to, you can't just become complacent now you're married and let the kilos pile on. Sexuality is an important part of marriage, if he's not turned on by you, then he should be with a woman who does turn him on
Intoxicunt 6
I respectfully disagree. Actually, I agree with most of what you said, but here's my issue: When someone gets to be, say, 70, their spouse is not going to be particularly attractive. They aren't either. They may wish their spouse looked like a 30 year old, but then it's probably mutual. Should they leave their spouse for someone hotter?
my_fml_account 2
I'm willing to bet the OP isnt 70 tho. Until your 40's its still doable to stay in a good shape. After that it becomes a bit harder but until your mid 50's a reasonable body should be an achievable goal.
Intoxicunt 6
Yeah, I'm just throwing it out there as a hypothetical. Not just as far as staying in shape, but wrinkles, baldness, etc. People lose their sex appeal. I totally agree they should try their best to stay in shape and look good and that relationships are pretty pointless without attraction. However, I don't think you should ditch someone you are in love with because they lost their hottness, as they inevitably will. Like I said, that's hypothetical. In this case, I don't blame the guy that much. He was exceptionally blunt, but weight is something you CAN change, unlike age.
memeweaver 0
Spot on.
kewl92 0
it shouldn't be just about the looks anymore now that they're married. if he really loved her he wouldn't dump her just cause she gained a little weight.
gigi37 0
I have to disagree with you 59. People shouldn't get married and then say, "alright, I bagged a spouse, fuckit on how I look, they should love me for who I am anyways." The spouse never signed up for that, and is most likely be unaware of this attitude, so that wouldn't be fair to the SO. I think marriage is still about looks, it's perfectly fair for both people to look and stay appealing to one another. I don't think it's shallow at all. Let's be honest, who doesn't love going out and able to show off your attractive SO? Also, it helps the relationship if you are attracted to your SO
YNasty 0
yes
Hexefrau 5
I agree with this statement, in particular. We live in a culture where we are bombarded with images of "beauty". However, reality simply does not mesh with these images. Women have children, and sometimes parts that used to be tight on a woman sag, stretch, or even "plump". Men might lose their hair and gain a paunch, and all of us age...our eyes will start getting crows feet, some of us might get "jowly" (an interesting phenomena, that one), et cetera. So the options? A. Turn your face and body into a plasticene wasteland so that you look like the bastard lovechild of Joan Rivers and The Cryptkeeper. B. Take care of yourself, but realize that shit happens and it is inevitable that youthful tone and beauty fades, leaving in its place a different kind of beauty. C. Don't take care of yourself, and let come what may. I'll personally take option B. And I'll be smart enough to partner up with someone that won't dump me if I go from a size 8 at 22 to a size 12 at 40.
Rosalind_fml 0
Yes, you're committed to loving each other, and you're also committed to staying attractive for each other. Marriage is not a license to let yourself go and become a pig. It's not a ticket to say, "AH HA! I got you now! You cannot escape! I don't even have to try anymore." That just shows you're a conceited, lazy, manipulative person who will give as much effort as you need to to trap a person, then once you got him you stop valuing his worth.
wellinever 5
OK, he's shallow and it sounded mean. At least he was upfront and honest. The point is you both value different things in life. Too much. He's not going to change; it's his chosen profession. So either you get with his program or you leave. Your choice.
the88thpianoman 3
Yeah, you know what, women want their husbands to continue wooing them and being romantic the whole time you're married. So ditch the double standard, loose some bloody weight, and be the woman that your husband wooed before you got married. You can't let yourself get fat and expect your husband to still be attracted to you or want to sleep with you. And on that note, he's being a very decent guy, albeit a little tactless, by giving you advance warning, giving you a chance to reverse your weight gain, and not just blowing it off and cheating on you with someone younger and hotter. If you love and respect him, not to mention respect your own health, get on a ******* treadmill.