Today, less than a month from our wedding, my fiancé told me that he doesn't trust me and will be cancelling our wedding and new apartment lease if I don't give him all the names, numbers and addresses of my exes. All because I received a text from a wrong number that said, "Hey baby." FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, my fiancé accused me of cheating and broke up with me. I texted his best friend, who I've never talked to before, to see if he could talk some sense into my ex. Turns out he has several fiancées and was cheating on me since day one. FML
Today, my fiance told me that he no longer loves me, that he still has feelings for an ex. The wedding is off and he needs the ring back to give to the right woman. FML
Today, I discovered that my fiancé had responded to an online missed connection posting. He has been emailing, exchanging pictures and making plans to go out with this girl. We are supposed to be married in the fall and just put down the non-refundable deposit on our reception site. FML
Today, I found my fiancé is cheating on me. Our wedding is in 26 days and everything is already paid for. FML
Today, I had to cancel my $15,000 wedding and send a mass e-mail to 90 guests that there won’t be a wedding. My now-ex fiance got fired from his job. Normally this wouldn’t be an issue, if it wasn’t for the fact he got his colleague pregnant. FML
Today, I was supposed to get married to the love of my life. My ex-wife ended up crashing my wedding and created drama. My now-ex-fiancée decided she wants nothing to do with me anymore, and that, "if she wanted baggage, she’d go to an airport.” She walked out of the wedding and blocked my number. FML
Today, my fiancé told me he wished he never met me and that he wished I didn't exist. Our wedding is next week. FML
Today, my fiancée's ex sent me screenshots of their conversation. In it, he told her how badly he’d wanted to marry her, what a great life he'd have given her, and what a huge mistake she'd made by letting him get away. My ring, our house even our pets should’ve been hers. Gee, thanks for settling. FML
Today, I called off my engagement, after finding out my fiancé is cheating on me. I recently started a new job, and in anticipation of getting married, I asked that my username include his surname. They can't be changed, so now I get to log in every day under that sorry bastard's surname. FML
Today, I found out that my fiancé has been lying about where she lives to avoid me. I think she's also sleeping with who was supposed to be the best man at our wedding. FML
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AscendV 19
That's a bit ridiculous. Does he not realize accidents happen?
sorryheadphones 26
That is unhealthy lack of trust. If he is that immature or paranoid, maybe it is better if you didn't get married
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countrygirl71 18
It's better to find out now. It's better to know before than after the wedding. He has control issues and you need to stop the wedding. He won't get better only worse. Married 22 plus years and it was horrible.
writerchic85 26
Sounds like he's always had this issue if he's checking your phone. Unless you showed him the text in which case he should have trusted you because you wouldn't have showed it to him if you were cheating
Silk_Routes 14
not a good start for u Op.. trust issues may create panic later
fleur_de_fevrier_fml 23
Might be a good thing it happened before the wedding. This sounds like some serious trust issues he's got and you might be better off without him. Anyway, it must be very difficult for you :/ Good luck.
jasonswife423 18
Wow. Those are some major red flags. I'd say you dodged a bullet there.
Frungy 9
I agree with the other posters about him having trust issues, but to my mind that's not the problem. What I see as the problem is the way he's threatening you into disclosing the numbers. If he just asked for the numbers or said he was concerned then that would be simple trust issues and there would be room for a reasonable conversation. Instead he's moved straight to threats and an exercise of power. What he's threatening is not simply cancelling the wedding, but the humiliation that would cause you in the eyes of your friends and family. If this is how he reacts BEFORE he has control over your joint accounts/children/pets/etc. then I'd humbly suggest that you are not dealing with someone who simply has trust issues, but also with someone who has an abusive personality. I know this may be hard to hear, but my sincere advice is to cancel the wedding yourself, cancel the lease and dump him. The sort of person who would publicly humiliate you over a simple text to the wrong number is not someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. A final thought. Have you contemplated the possibility (as paranoid as this may sound) that HE sent the text from a friend's phone or a pre-paid phone? Given the level of abusive behavior he's showing I would not put it past this sort of individual to engineer this sort of situation in order to simply exercise control and beat you down.
light_specks 3
Frungy, all great points. Just to add to that, honestly, this sounds like classic early signs of emotional abuse. Which a) is bad in itself and b) tends to turn into physical and sexual abuse at a later date. If he truly was just upset, there are many ways to express that without demanding control over private aspects of the OP's life. Whether it's a setup by him or not, giving in is not the way to go, getting out is. It may seem like a very difficult thing to do so close to the wedding, but it's even more difficult afterwards.
gracehi 33
Holy crap, Frungy. I thought the EXACT same thing about the possibility that the whole incident was a set up by the fiancé from the beginning. And I completely agree with you on everything else too.
EmsyyyRose13 24
Yeah I had an emotionally abusive boyfriend once, and he would pull shit like this. Not worth your time, OP. Get out while you still can.
sandman19 11
I bet everyone saying "wow don't marry him if he does not trust you" has had trust issues because lets face it some people are ******* idiots and will hurt someone else now I do think he went over board with the whole cancel the marriage but if there is a past with you getting strange texts and all that then maybe he is just looking out for himself
milmac 9
He's cheating on you.
janfleury 19
I'm glad you know this crazy now. Red flags are flying high. This person sounds like he maybe just a tad controlling. If he does not trust you over a single wrong text my guess is this is an excuse to start saying who you can and can't talk to and watching you all the time. I would really think hard about if you should be the one cancelling everything. Good luck OP you deserve better than this.
AKchic 7
Take it from someone who's been there - RUN, don't walk, RUN away from this person.