Today, I was scrolling through a bunch of old posts that my boyfriend's ex had posted about me on Facebook from a fake account she used to stalk and harass me for months. It was then that I figured out that one of my friends and my mother had been helping her the whole time. FML
koreageis tells us more.
OP here. I made an account just to give everyone more details. This girl and I were friends a loooong tine ago and stopped being friends for many reasons. Well, when she was dating my boyfriend she cheated on him and he left her. Over a year later, I started dating him after she gave me her blessing and told me about her new fiancé and kid on the way and about how happy she was. A year later I find the fake account under a different name filled with posts about me, my love life and about how awful we did her. One post blatantly said that my mother called her all the time mocking me and giving her my personal info so she can stalk me even more. I also found many comments where my mom asked her to text her or call her and many comments from my friend, who is someone I've known for four years but talk to every now and then, talking about me as well. Apparently both of them pretended to be on my side while they helped her stalk me, my boyfriend and roommate. This girl found out who I was living with, where I was living and even knew everything about my love life because of my mother. I've deleted all my social media, including my Facebook just to get this girl off my back. My mother denied everything, didn't apologize and hasn't attempted to speak to me since. I last spoke to her about a month ago, more or less.
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InfiniteSunshine 32
What kind of parent encourages and actively participates in their child being harassed and stalked? You need to confront both of them OP, if they deny it, show them evidence, and honestly, I wouldn't speak to either of them after that. They have no regard for your well-being and saw nothing wrong with making you feel humiliated, violated and unsafe. You shouldn't have people that do that to you in your life.
Tripartita 45
Mom: "Talk about her earlobes as much as possible—she's super self-conscious about them." Friend: "Oh, yeah, and make sure you use the word 'literally' all the time and incorrectly. It drives her crazy!" Stalker: "Uh, maybe we should plan this out somewhere other than public posts on Facebook." Mom: "You kidding? She's not exactly the most observant gal. I give her a few months before she notices this conversation while scrolling through your posts."
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almost_there44 26
I think you're jumping to conclusions and reaching. I don't see where OP said she didn't report the ex. Reporting doesn't always work. You keep on saying "block" like blocking the ex-girlfriend would have stopped her from posting negative things. Stop saying that OP "let" it happen like she could have controlled 3 people's actions and Facebook.
GrumpyGrinch 23
Thats disgusting! Friend - maybe not a friend after all. Betrayal or moron, but you better avoid her/him. Your mom should know that you don't discuss your family with anybody who isn't family, online being a special no-no, because even if it is a family member you talk to, info may get out of control easy. And I wish there was a way to get moms understand this, mine doesn't.
Lalala579121 28
Based on how it says "helping" would lead me to believe that her mom did it on purpose, not just by accidentally talking too much about OP.
Eivana 37
Wow. And to think, we once used to consider some of our elders 'adultier' adults....
RichardPencil 32
I think your mom doesn't approve of your boyfriend. Helping your rival drive a wedge between you two is a pretty passive-aggressive way to express that.
koreageis 0
OP here. I could understand not liking my boyfriend but my mom has only been in my life for the past four years. I personally think she has no right to butt into my life like that considering I'm an adult with my own house and I used to visit her twice, sometimes once a month. She met this girl at college a year ago. I personally think the girl turned my mom against me or my mom just liked her better than me but I don't know.
lemonlime66 21
Are you April? Weird coincidence if not, but if yes, you totally deserve it.
koreageis 0
OP here. My name isn't April but I'm sure whoever you're talking about doesn't deserve for something like this to happen to her.
lemonlime66 21
Since your name is not April, I am sorry this has happened to you. It really isn't something that people should do, especially to their child and friend. There can be lasting effects that aren't realized by the other party. On the other hand, April, the girl that this has happened to recently in Tennessee, was 'harrassed' on Facebook by her boyfriend's ex, with the help of her mother and friend for things like duct taping her 'step' son to the wall, keeping said 'step' son from his mother, blowing the smoke from her pipe in his face, going to the bar every other night while leaving a 10 year old in charge of 4 other kids, and rubbing the face of the child in his soiled underwear when accidents have happened. I personally wouldn't call what they were doing harassing, more like letting her friends know what kind of person she is behind closed doors, but April probably would see it as harrassment. Before it is suggested, the police have been called, but tight friendships in a small community tend to lean toward the wrong side. Again, I am sorry this has happened to you, you probably don't deserve it, and I hope you can move past it without it getting to you. I also hope your mom and friend realize hoe shitty they are for doing this to you.
liz090300 12
that's so wrong that your mom was in on this
jnugzzz 6
We definitely need a follow up. This is crazy! I'm assuming your mom probably hates your BF if she did this but that's not at all a good reason or excuse.
koreageis 0
OP here. She acted like she liked him and acted like she loved having us around so this whole thing was a pretty big shock to me. Definitely wasn't expecting her to choose that girl over me but what's done is done.
xercister 19
keep your friends close, but keep your enemies even closer. lol Maybe that needs to be reversed here...
CGPainting 0
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This is a good answer, so read it all the way through. Obviously, what they did harmed you. But, to be fair, you need to ask yourself something: What caused this? The only way to prevent something bad from happening again, is to figure out why it happened, and then take action to avoid that scenario or those conditions in the future. Make sense? (For example, if your transmission blows out while you are driving a stick shift, it would be good to figure out that the transmission blew because you were driving above 4000 RPM's, as an example. If you neglected to admit fault, for example, and kept driving 4000 RPM's, you will CONTINUE to lose valuable money and risk your safety, by blowing out future transmissions. Get the idea?) So anyway- To figure that out of what caused this, first, you need to figure out if the problem is you, or your family. If you are a raging b*tch, a trouble making person, or otherwise have bad character in some way, or you aren't religious, or if you have cheated on people, or if you had sex with this boyfriend of yours while he was still dating his ex at the time (in other words if you were gleefully the "other woman"), then my suggestion for you would be to dump your boyfriend (IF you banged him or talked to him while he was still taken, because in that case, you do not deserve him as you cheated with him to get him), and otherwise, in general my suggestion would be to fix yourself and your character in general. I know you won't wanna dump the boyfriend even if that is the case, but remember- the Bible does mention that no good foundation in a relationship can occur if it began from dishonorable means. However, if none of those scenarios apply at all, then your mother and that one friend, are both either very bad people, or did something very, very wrong. In which case, my suggestion would be to forgive them in your heart, but to cut them off from your life as much as possible if you are over 18. You should forgive them in your heart (God says to not have hate for people, as that weighs you down, justice is God's not yours).... But, just because you forgive someone, does not mean that you go back to the way things were. If someone betrays you, you do not have to risk betrayal again. You shouldnt talk badly about them back, or harm them, or get vengeance etc... But you dont have to allow that bad person into your life either. If it is a combo of both- if you suspect they are bad people, but also suspect you have some character flaws to work on- then my suggestion is to completely fix yourself FIRST. As the Bible says "take the speck out of your own eye, before you take the log out of someone elses". I dont mean you have to be 100% perfect, but in general, try to be as a whole an overall good person, better than about, say, 80% of people. If you can accomplish that, then you should be good! But if you accomplish that, they see a change in you, and they still are vindictive and vicious? Then cut them out of your life! Find good people. However, you should honor your mom and dad, so I feel like with your mom, you should talk to her directly and truly try to get to the root cause of why she is doing what she is doing. Is she experiencing dementia or mental issues? Has she been very angry about something you did, and not forgiven you? Is she jealous of you? Do you not treat her with love and respect, so she wants to get even? Does she have some demons of her own? Find out why she is doing what she is doing. Truly. Try to be a little more patient with your mom. However, you owe no loyalty to a backstabbing friend at all. A friend is not somebody God or nature says you should be loyal and bonding to, so you dont owe a friend the same loyalty you owe your mom. Make sense?
CGPainting 0
Lol y'all are tripping if you think this is bad advice, IJS. Or more likely, you just can't stand the fact I'm a Christian. Newsflash, tolerant college liberals: I'm allowed to be Christian. I'm not hurting anybody. And in America, we have a first amendment, constitutional right to free speech, expression (as long as its peaceful and doesnt break laws), and have the right to freedom of religion and religious expression- including on posts like these. If you don't like it, whatever, your call. But it's still sound advice, whether you like it or not
MissPanda85 5
Or maybe nobody could be bothered reading that long ass post
InfiniteSunshine 32
People aren't down voting it cause you're Christian, the majority of the world is Christian, they're criticizing it because it's bad advice. No one deserves to be harassed and stalked no matter what they did, OP doesn't need to look at herself. The ex, friend and mother are completely at fault. We don't blame the victim, we blame the perpetrators 100%. They took things too far and caused this by being assholes, not the OP. The mother should also be treated equal in this situation, not get special treatment just cause she's her mother and get a pass and understanding. Sharing microscopic genetics and DNA suddenly makes you special? NO! You also included being non-religious in amongst being a bitch, cheater and having bad character. Making it seem like it's a bad thing and makes you a bad person, which it doesn't, and it definitely isn't something someone should be harrassed for. As for the first amendment, that gives your a right to freedom of speech and religion, yes. However, it only means the government can't punish you for what you say or believe. It does not mean you can't be criticized by other people for what you believe and say.
koreageis 0
OP here. I'm not a Christian but I have tried to respect her. I've done a lot of bad things and I've tried to be a better person. There are things I still reallyyyy need to work on, I'll admit that. But my mom did this simply because she didn't love me. I don't love her either. But I was trying to. As for mental disorders, she has diagnosed bipolar disorder. As for her reasons other than not loving me ? It was mostly her desire to stay young, in the drama and to have more friends. I know this because she purposely used my last name when she started college so that people would ask her if she knew me. (My last name is uncommon and this was a local college filled with my old classmates) She made most of her friends that way. I tried to talk to her but she just kept lying to me and denying everything and then she just gave up. Also, I didn't sleep with him while they were still dating. I had zero interest in him until long after she and I stopped being friends. I even got her blessing. She said she was happy with her new fiancé. Apparently she was lying, lol
toesparkle 13
So if she doesn't share your beliefs, it's her fault?
kirasant 19
Wow... That is one high, high horse you've got there. Yeah, people aren't downvoting you cus you're Christian. It's cus you gave OP some awful advise, blamed her for the abuse someone she trusted did to her, and then equated not being religious as a perfectly fine reason to ruin someone's life. You can't call someone a terrible person for having beliefs that aren't yours and then cry that other people need to respect YOUR beliefs. That's not how life works, cupcake. If you want other people to respect your beliefs, you need to respect theirs. Someone not being religious doesn't in any way justify her being tormented. Just as someone BEING religious doesn't in any way justify THEM being tormented. Like you said, it's not hurting anyone.
RavenousRiley 2
Wow, you must really be a terrible person.if your mother and your bff both hate you.
misspandamonium 27
on what planet was this an okay comment to post