Today, I started my new job. Not even 2 hours in did some old man ask me where I live, what's my number, and if I was interested in being with him and his friends. This guy is at least over 50 and works with me. I left my old job because some old men kept asking the same things. FML
Mindersss tells us more.
Mindersss 20
Hey! wow this was actually posted. I work in an apprentice, I do business and admin. I am only 19 years old. I have taken it up with my office manager and HR. These guys are just creeps and have been told to stay away from me. For those who say "well you must be doing something" I am not. I dress in jeans and a top, nothing is on show, and even if it was, it does not give them the right to ask where I live and that. I have never given out where I live. I actually have a boyfriend, and if they ask me out, I do tell them, but even if I was single it is none of their business. Thank you to everyone who did back me up, and to those who are saying I must be doing something, please just leave, I do not have time for your comments. I am not to blame here, the guy was, he is married, (could tell from the ring on his finger) and if he has kids, he should be so ashamed! I am only 19!
Collection
Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Feel like sharing it with the other FML users?
Thanks, your FML was submitted, and will appear in the moderation queue soon!
Top comments
Rkikkas9713 25
The constant for OP was her being a female, that's usually all it takes.
Welshite 40
I worked in retail for four years. Got stalked. Got kissed. Got grabbed. And if you tried to politely decline, it simply encouraged them as you being "hard to get". All the girls had their predators at the store, and some of the men.
Add a comment · Reply to
You must be logged in to be able to post comments!
Comments (49)
tm13mg19 14
Sorry Op
gogo44444 28
In a hurry for the first comment?
MisterEx 28
It's ok, #1. Don't do it again though.
shemademedoit 20
the thirst is real
Bzu123 8
upset it wasn't you?
shablagoo22 11
Comment moderated for rule-breaking.
What kind of vibes could you possibly be putting out there? I'm not about blaming the victim, but you are the constant in this equation.. Two different places, same issues
Welshite 40
I worked in retail for four years. Got stalked. Got kissed. Got grabbed. And if you tried to politely decline, it simply encouraged them as you being "hard to get". All the girls had their predators at the store, and some of the men.
Rkikkas9713 25
The constant for OP was her being a female, that's usually all it takes.
DoomedGemini 38
Yeah, I hear about things like this happening everywhere. It's nothing new even, my mom told me how she had a job as a teen/young adult and one of the older men working there would make lewd comments about her. It's just something many people have to deal with and its typically more brushed off if the person is older.
lvg_fml 10
Should have given it to his wife next time she came in
dafluckster 6
You know all you're going to get in return for your comment are a lot of PC feminist rants from the crazies.
DoomedGemini 38
A lot of people get things like this happening, it's just a common thing. It's not 'pc feminist' to point that out.
greeneyedx 23
Because only feminists see and experience harassment in the workplace. None of these women are being rude to the commenter. They're sharing experiences. Pardon them for speaking up and disagreeing.
9a_1z 12
Why won't these rabid feminists let you harass them in peace eh? (I only said that because I know it'll get people's panties in a twist, please excuse me) I think it's reasonable to assume she has vibes, I imagine those vibes are 'sweet young girl who will probably respond to grossness with a polite smile, feel free to approach'.
deltoren 11
Hell im a guy and I've had coworkers and customers try to flirt and talk lewd with me. I just treat it as a joke, but maybe that only works cuz I'm a dude.
JapanMetalFan170 16
Yeah, actually, you are victim blaming. No one deserves to be sexually harassed. Ever.
cornyrob 33
Comment moderated for rule-breaking.
Do you perhaps work in a gentleman's club?
cheeeksss 29
I can't downvote your comment enough, 2. Just because OP is experiencing harassment issues more than once, she is automatically the problem? You ARE blaming the victim here regardless if you claim to do so. Maybe OP is just super attractive and friendly, which is usually all it takes to get guys all over her. You're part of the reason why victims have a hard time speaking up for themselves. Shame on you.
chinaski7628 32
I can't figure out why #2 is being up-voted. What vibes, other than being female, could OP possibly be giving out?
Lexipants 21
When I worked at Canadian Tire, an old Italian man LITERALLY CHASED ME AROUND THE STORE. He would NOT go away, and nobody thought it was a big deal. They acted like I was overreacting and I should've just ignored the geriatric creeper trying to grab and kiss me in the middle of the store. No thanks.
Allornone 35
I've actually been groped several times at my current retail job, and despite reporting each incident, management has never done anything about it. I've been hit on constantly, even stalked by a confirmed schizophrenic at a former store, and pretty much expected to just deal with it. And I'm no model. All it takes is just being a female.
thatonetribute 31
Maybe you should blame the perverted old men for harassing OP, instead of OP herself for trying to hold a job.
Earl_KarmasBitch 36
Comment moderated for rule-breaking.
#2 actually went out of their way to say they weren't blaming the victim. It is possible that something about OP is especially attractive to dirty old men. Now while that isn't OP's fault in any way, perhaps it would be worth knowing what it is so that she could choose if she wants to not to do it around anyone see suspects might start harassing her. Yeah it sucks that she might change things because of other people's actions, but we all have to decide if we want to do that at times.
chinaski7628 32
Actually, #2 is literally blaming the victim.
light_specks 3
Yeah, that's akin to a statement that starts with "I'm not racist, but...". That is never going to be followed by anything good. Saying "I'm not victim blaming" doesn't make it so if you victim-blame in the very next sentence.
addioty 19
2, you're a disgusting human being. God.
core01 30
Men are the ******* constant
DumbWater 17
Comment moderated for rule-breaking.
Old men need love, too!
syki 22
The also need consent.
dafluckster 6
Comment moderated for rule-breaking.
It doesn't say he ever touched her, or that there was rape or something involved. I didn't know permission was involved to talk to someone or ask questions, however unwelcome they may be.
syki 22
You don't have to physically touch someone for it to be harassment. OP is obviously uncomfortable with this kind of attention, enough that she left her last job. There's nothing wrong with flirting, but IMHO there's a huge difference between testing the waters and apparently asking your new coworker about her stance on geriatric gangbangs.
dafluckster 6
Comment moderated for rule-breaking.
Nah, women are getting to much into the role of the victim. We need to get over ourselves. It's not like men are never sexualized or harassed.
interesting33 37
No one says it isn't the case for men either.
DoomedGemini 38
Yeah, men getting harassed and sexualized needs to stop to. Op shouldn't have to leave her job to get away from creeps, EVERYONE needs to understand no means no. After that you are in the wrong. Girl, boy, whatever. Respect the person and back off if they aren't interested.
may14th 26
Comment moderated for rule-breaking.
at least it's not the same man?
RickyLiuFML 7
hahaha
betweenwinds 18
What field of work is this? Whatever it is, itseems to have an abnormally high concentration of creeps.
fakedsincerity 32
Probably retail.
mariri9206 32
#76 I think that's likely, too. I work retail and had 2 encounters with a creepy customer (the same customer both times) and now I wear a fake engagement ring at work to keep the creeps away.
DecisiveBull 9
Did he ask if you wanted to see an antique? 'Wink'.
19990231 29
Repot him to hr? Or just sternly talk to him about how it won't happen and is not appropriate.
Anti_Sora 31
Are you bad luck Brinda?
I_Like_Dogs 28
Comment moderated for rule-breaking.
You must be old-fashioned hot!
NYM88 26
Maybe it's time to become self-employed?