Today I sent a message out to a support group to get and give support following a sexual assault, the person who responded and was giving advice was the person who assaulted me. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, a guy made fun of sexual assault victims, and laughed when he heard they’re getting money and support. He also said I look like his next victim. I hit him, unapologetically. My friends told me to apologise, and that he’s really a great guy. No longer my friends. Talk shit, get hit. FML
Today, I finally shared some of my insecurities and difficulties I’m experiencing with a close friend. The response was great, they listened, and gave advice. Later I met another friend, who said that they’re here for me. Everyone was just trying to help, but now almost everyone I know knows. I feel worse than before. FML
Today, I found out the person who's been stalking and harassing me online was actually my now ex-boyfriend. He only confessed as I finally picked up the phone to report it to the police. He basically said he wanted me to turn to him for comfort and protection, so he could "feel like a man". FML
Today, I had to give a sexual harassment seminar to my department. Someone put in a complaint that my example made them feel uncomfortable. FML
Today, while I was helping customers in the self-checkout, one lady wouldn’t stop talking to me. Other customers needed help and I was trying to go help them. When I tried to walk away, she hugged me over my arms, physically restraining me. I froze. I actually have PTSD from being sexually assaulted years ago. FML
Today, my friend broke ties with me after I came out of the hospital from attempted suicide. She was the one who called the police for me to go in there in the first place. FML
Today, after I supported my friends through heartbreak, had long conversations at 4 a.m., stayed late at work to help through breakdowns, I finally broke after a series of bad experiences. I decided to reach out. All I got was, "lol that sucks", "Oh, would you believe the week I had" or simply no response. FML
Today, I was on the phone with my boyfriend and I told him that I was going to tickle him, to which he responded me how he’d “crack” me in the head so that I’d never even think about tickling him again. It threw me into a panic attack and people laughed. I’m a survivor of domestic violence. FML
Today, I was telling my best friend that I was feeling unattractive, and that I never get asked out. As she was trying to make me feel better, we were interrupted by a stranger trying to hit on her. FML
Today, my abusive ex-boyfriend contacted me for the first time in almost 14 years, to apologize for how he treated me while we were still together. It brought back all the old memories that I thought I had finally overcome, and made me have such a bad panic attack that I had to go to the hospital. FML
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BurnInDemonFire 39
Give his info to the police. Stay tough, OP. You're a fighter.
interesting33 37
I don't know what to say. that is heartbreaking. I am so sorry. It might be worth finding about other support groups, so message because I'm sure there will be one. It is amazing that you are reaching out and really really important. if you message a different group, it won't be the same person there it will hopefully be someone that you can talk to and who will help. thinking of you OP
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BurnInDemonFire 39
Give his info to the police. Stay tough, OP. You're a fighter.
interesting33 37
I don't know what to say. that is heartbreaking. I am so sorry. It might be worth finding about other support groups, so message because I'm sure there will be one. It is amazing that you are reaching out and really really important. if you message a different group, it won't be the same person there it will hopefully be someone that you can talk to and who will help. thinking of you OP
T1A2Z3 35
This person obviously didn't understand that what they did was assault...
manb91uk 22
Or maybe they did and working with victims is part of their "they can't possibly be bad, they help people" defence
T1A2Z3 35
Interesting theory. I thought they might be one of those guys who's like "she's looking at me she wants me to grope her"
Listerinekiss 8
Also you have to remember some people troll places like that in order to gain some kind of sick thrill. Ted Bundy worked at a suicide hotline and BTK worked in home security installation. Some people are sick and I hope OP reports this person and gets the help they need.
T1A2Z3 35
She did say the person was trying to give her advice etc though.
ImminentDisaster 12
He might be working there to find vulnerable people to assault. It in no way implies he didn’t understand what he was doing, and I’m sure that if anything he’d be more aware of his actions since he hears the accounts of victims. But your comment ended with an ellipsis - are you implying something?
T1A2Z3 35
It just sounded like he needed to be told what he did was inapropriate.
acmariner99 25
Well that’s messed up on a number of levels. Sorry OP
onceuponatime456 16
You call the police if you are sexually assaulted and tell them who did it!
404wan 19
hahaha you must live in a dreamworld.
DraftHail614 17
She better have evidence.
Chazzster 32
Report the SOB - to the police and to whoever organized the support group.
mwek3 11
I am so sorry. I hope they get this person and that they're brought to justice. I also pray you find healing.
DraftHail614 17
I also hope that they get this guy with evidence and not someone's word alone
doodlebug33 20
I can’t believe 12 reacted to this by laughing. Shameful
tounces7 28
I'm actually curious if they were ALSO a victim of sexual assault, and that's why they are that way. Apparently it's not unusual for those who commit assault to have been victims at one point themselves.
DraftHail614 17
Oh no. Don't say stuff like that. You'll make the feminists go "REEE" and they'll accuse you of defending a rapist.
olga_crvjl 19
Ohhh My broken heart Im soo sorry OP