Today, after struggling for over a year with it, and now having it medically confirmed, I told my step-dad about my depression. He gave me a disgusted look and scoffed, "Toughen up, cunt." FML
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Today, my dad told me that people requiring psychiatric treatment are just weak and pathetic, and what they really need is a kick up the ass and to get a fucking grip. He told me this not 30 seconds after my doctor recommended I spend some time in a facility for my severe depression. FML
Today, my dad told me that I'm a weak and negative person because I suffer from depression and anxiety, then he told me to just snap out of it. FML
Today, my dad stood by and nodded in agreement as my sister told me that my clinical depression is "getting REALLY old." FML
Today, I tried to tell my dad that I was really struggling with my mental health and didn't think I could stay alive much longer. He laughed. This comes after telling my "best friend" last week and having to wait three days for a reply. FML
Today, my dad completely disregards my mental health, insists mental disorders are just excuses for laziness in my generation, so even though I have crippling depression, at times he has no sympathy and will mercilessly bully me into “snapping out of it” and to "get a damn job already." FML
Today, my dad straight up told me I’m not allowed to be depressed because it reflects badly on him as a single parent. This was followed by a threat to confiscate my car keys if I told anyone I’m depressed, even my friends and girlfriend. FML
Today, and for the past year, I've been struggling with depression because of family life. I've been talking to my mom for the past weeks, telling her things that happen when she isn't home as a way to build trust. I finally told her I have depression and have had had it for a long time. She laughed. FML
Today, I was diagnosed with a chronic pain condition. My parents seemed very sympathetic and my mother even cried. When we got home, though, they started laughing and asked if I really believed all the shit the doctor was talking about. FML
Today, I opened up to my parents about my depression. Their response was to have a very heated discussion about whose fault it was. FML
Today, my mother told me to 'quit having a pity party'. I was just diagnosed with depression. I've lost my boyfriend, my job, my academic standing, and I just got rejected from every graduate school I applied for. And my mother thinks I'm a cry baby. Great. FML
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flashback.miss 28
What? He calls you the c word and blows off your illness? horrid. stay strong, OP.
Pancakes017 19
People can be so hateful. Surround yourself with positive people. You're strong enough to get through this :)
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flashback.miss 28
What? He calls you the c word and blows off your illness? horrid. stay strong, OP.
jdibartolo1 12
"probably gonna get a lot of down votes" depression is not a illness its a state of mind that you can work yourself out of it. I would know from experience I've been through a lot (watching my friends die in front of me)
jdibartolo1 12
its funny cause I knew people would down vote my comments. but all I know is that I have been through a lot more than possibly most people in this world and I'm just happy to be alive still God Bless America
KeannaLove 32
Depression is a mental illness. If people were able "work their self out of it", suicide would be non existent. Just because you were able to does not mean everyone can.
jdibartolo1 12
no trying hard enough I've seen worse things in one day then all these kiddies will see in there whole lives
feven 32
Stop trying to gain sympathy. Make your point but there's no need to compare your life with other people's
llamafish 25
Welp. The comments were removed. Just ignore this, then. Please tell me how I am supposed to just "work myself out of" the fact that the hormones in my brain are chronically imbalanced.
Skoff_fml 27
It's no wonder she's depressed The man is an idiot
tor415 4
My thoughts exactly. Well said.
ladyLALAA 29
Yeah OP, sorry your stepdad is a douchebagel! Stay strong!
doctorhook86 25
I'm trying to understand why OP's mom chose to marry a guy like this. I haven't found an answer yet.
paigexox0 37
Get ****** Bartolo
Pancakes017 19
People can be so hateful. Surround yourself with positive people. You're strong enough to get through this :)
AliGInTheHouse 24
Comment moderated for rule-breaking.
Call the police. No one deserves to treat you like that OP.
orangeshels 19
As much as it was a shit thing to say what on earth are the police supposed to do about it?
AliGInTheHouse 24
Comment moderated for rule-breaking.
Verbal abuse is illegal. Fine him, I guess.
Sethan01 24
Or call children's aid? or a social worker..police don't care and this is not a police case.
chewyca99 14
What the stepfather said was perfectly legal, horrible, but legal.
laden_swallow09 35
Yeeeeaaah, you need a remedial course in basic law.
PSYqualiac 17
46, depending on the state, actually he could go away for up to 5 years I believe. in many states, it's 2 years for saying that. It's considered verbal domestic abuse. It's not as serious of an offense, but still isn't nice to have on the record. It depends on the history... but him knowing OP has something that is medically wrong inclining them to negative responses towards things means he is legally more responsible for what he does and says to her.
doctorhook86 25
#84: Oh good, we've got a lawyer here now to clear things up.
heftysmash253 6
Or someone who knows how to use Google, dick.
AnnaDeWitt 27
Glad you're taking a step in the right direction and getting help, OP. Depression is a disease, and sadly some fuckheads like your step-father don't understand this.
AliGInTheHouse 24
I wouldn't say it was a disease; more a mental illness.
melody309 35
Mental illnesses count as diseases.
jdibartolo1 12
read my comments under the first post. its not a disease its a state of mind anyone can work themselves out of it just try. helping people worked for me :)
AnnaDeWitt 27
#26, just because depression doesn't always require drugs to be treated doesn't mean it's not an illness. You clearly do not understand it and hold the same misconception as OP's step-father, despite your kinder disposition. Do a little research.
Flyndaran 10
Disease: a disorder of structure or function in a human, animal, or plant, especially one that produces specific signs or symptoms or that affects a specific location and is not simply a direct result of physical injury.
michaelaranda 28
Most people dont understand depression. As hard as it is, try to ignore him and focus on getting better. Good luck op.
Brandi_Faith 34
So true. Unfortunately many people still think that depression and anxiety are things that one can just get over it they try. They still feel it's a mind over matter thing. Op: Even if your step father was uneducated about the realities and seriousness of depression and didn't realize that it's an actual illness, I don't understand why he would feel the need to call you such a horrible name! He sounds like a major douchebag and I would tell him off if I were you. Calmly explain to him that depression is a disease of which you have no control over even though you've tried, explain that doctors know that it's not a mind over matter thing, and then tell him it is not ok for him to talk to you like that and that you expect an apology. Tell him if he plans on having any type of relationship with you he will never call you names and treat you like that again, and that he will be supportive of you during this difficult time. If he refuses, then you know he's not worth having a relationship with and know to not allow yourself to care what he says or thinks because he's obviously just a jerk. Be nice but hold yourself at a distance.
randompizzaguy 17
It's how he was raised. When people had a problem, they got over it or solved it. Mental illnesses are honestly tricky. They can be caused by both chemical imbalance and just mentally draining traumatic events. Fighting depression is not just a medical thing. And that's why people are so afraid of classifying it as what it is.
Brittin8or 12
it will be okay OP, ignore the negative and "just keep swimming"
nesteremily 31
I feel you OP, my brother calls me an attention seeker and doesn't believe there's anything wrong with me. FYL, I hope you feel better
devildog562 33
Depression is serious , sorry for the struggle. Your stepdad needs a swift round house kick to the head.
birdybirdchirp 18
#8 A swift round house kick by Chuck Norris?
TDog3337 12
wow, so...encouraging
Cortezthe1st 23
Don't you just love unnecessary rudeness?