Today, I don’t know how to tell my boyfriend I’m not happy with him anymore. I need advice about how to do it. FML
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A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, after telling my boyfriend of 8 years on Monday that I'm unhappy and don’t want to be in a relationship anymore, he said to me just now, "So, I’m thinking of proposing to you in December." FML
Today, I finally worked up the courage to tell my boyfriend that I wanted to go separate ways. Before I could say anything, he proposed. FML
Today, I felt a fear that my relationship with my boyfriend isn’t going to last. There’s nothing inherently wrong, yet I find myself thinking of breaking up with him. A lot. I love him and feel like I’m already part of his family, and that's something I don’t want to let go. I don’t know what to do. FML
Today, I told my boyfriend, "We need to talk." He said, "I know". So we met after school, and he said he was OK with me breaking up with him, that he wasn't that into me either. He said all that before I could tell him that my parents wanted to meet him. FML
Today, I have to make a hard decision on whether I should move on and free my boyfriend from me and let him do his own thing while I do my own, or resolve our differences. Advice needed. FML
Today, I tried to tell my boyfriend how I have been feeling recently in our relationship. He lashed out at me, saying I was just accusing him of being the bad guy. I guess I'll never express my feelings ever again. FML
Today, I had a mental breakdown. Many things have been going completely wrong in my life, and I finally decided to let my boyfriend know about it. After about an hour of explaining and pouring my heart out, his response was, "I think we were better off as friends." FML
Today, I told my boyfriend that I love him. He replied by telling me to fuck off. FML
Today, I tried to break up with my boyfriend. He said no. FML
Today, my boyfriend doesn't know if he should break up with me because he loves me too much, or to stay with me and make me suffer. I have no clue as to what's going on in his head. FML
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lalalaila777 24
its important to look at it from the perspective, of not wasting your time or his in a relationship you aren't interested in anymore. the honesty of it upfront might be painful, but it's better than pretending for years. good luck
Tee Wallisaurusrex 13
it really depends on what your intention is. keep relationship: make a list of what you need to continue the relationship. if they're willing to work on it, keep trying. if they scoff (even once) the relationship is already over. done with relationship: prep your exit strategy and be leaving as soon as you've had the chat. the chat goes "I'm not in this relationship anymore, I wish you the best of luck with your life. goodbye".
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Tee Wallisaurusrex 13
it really depends on what your intention is. keep relationship: make a list of what you need to continue the relationship. if they're willing to work on it, keep trying. if they scoff (even once) the relationship is already over. done with relationship: prep your exit strategy and be leaving as soon as you've had the chat. the chat goes "I'm not in this relationship anymore, I wish you the best of luck with your life. goodbye".
Anderling 33
Starting like this is a good way to start. Specify immediately after whether or not it’s just dissatisfaction and can be worked on, or if you want to leave. If it’s the former, work on phrasing your grievances as neutrally as possible, without sounding like you’re blaming him (i.e. “I feel frustrated when I come home and the dishes from this morning haven’t been done” and not “You need to do the dishes when you get home”); if it’s the latter still consider doing that so that he at least knows why you decided to leave and he can’t twist it as easily. It sucks to have this kind of conversation but sometimes you need to do it before things will get better. Whether that’s with or without your boyfriend, that’s on you.
lalalaila777 24
its important to look at it from the perspective, of not wasting your time or his in a relationship you aren't interested in anymore. the honesty of it upfront might be painful, but it's better than pretending for years. good luck
RichardPencil 32
Send him a break up text and ghost him. That's the modern way to do it.
HayNow 11
Show him this post....
incognitomiso 13
just be honest. if you're not happy then it's not worth wasting either of your time in a relationship where one or both isn't happy anymore. breaking up is hard and painful but honesty is way better than leading them on.
Gubbon 17
This is a site for posting FMLs. Not one for dating advice. Furthermore, it's absolutely impossible for anyone to give helpful advice without any context at all.