Today, I realized am THAT parent: I put a lot of pressure on my 8 year-old (!) daughter, because I hope she succeeds professionally and will have the self-confidence I lack. Why do I rather stay at home and lack self-confidence? Because my own mother put me under so much pressure and drowned me in her expectations. FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, my mother looked me dead in the face and said, "I have failed as a parent." FML
Today, I was comforting my friend who has a toxic relationship with her Mom. She said, "If I'm such a failure, they always make it known that I can't live up to their expectations." It caught me a bit off guard when she said, "I wish she would just leave me alone and leave my life just like your mom did." FML
Today, I found out that my daughter has been making up horrible lies about her home life to impress some new friends. Since when is having two highly involved, loving parents with good careers and a nice home an embarrassment? FML
Today, I realised that I wasted my teenage life just to be a parent pleaser. I'm in the final months of high school and while everyone is enjoying the last days, I'm sat here being a "good" son, listening to my parents argue, maybe divorcing. I'm in tears and can't go out as I'm not invited to anything anymore. FML
Today, I overheard my mom talking to a friend on the phone. What caught my attention was when she said, "You ever look at your kid and just think... 'Fuck. Where'd I go wrong?'" FML
Today, I took a look at my 9-year-old daughter's diary, thinking it would be full of cute stuff. Instead, it was full of hateful rants against me and my husband, as well the boys at her school, who she called gay because none of them ever hit on her. It seems I've failed as a parent. FML
Today, my mother told me I should think about quitting school. She explained that the reason was because she didn't want me to be more successful than my older sisters. FML
Today, no matter how well we tried to raise out daughter, things aren't looking too bright. I was present, I listened, and she told me her problems. My husband was always there for her too, no matter what. She works and studies but her role models consist of celebrities and girls who sell themselves on OnlyFans. FML
Today, my mom tried to give me a pep talk to boost my self confidence. Somehow, it ended up turning into a conversation about how much of a loser I am and how I have no friends. FML
Today, I got a lecture from my mother about how bad my stress has been, how I have to treat myself better and do something with my life. She still doesn't realize that most of the cause of my stress has been from her berating me about how stressed out I am. FML
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Rake 18
The first step is realizing what kind of parent you are. The second step is understanding what kind of parent you want to be. The third step is to walk the path between them. The first is harder than most people think, the second requires you to know yourself well and the third is you life long mission.
Crowned Sataness 12
now that you've realized, it's not too late to fix it. she's only 8, let her be a kid
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Rake 18
The first step is realizing what kind of parent you are. The second step is understanding what kind of parent you want to be. The third step is to walk the path between them. The first is harder than most people think, the second requires you to know yourself well and the third is you life long mission.
Crowned Sataness 12
now that you've realized, it's not too late to fix it. she's only 8, let her be a kid
Hangryko 32
Get therapy so you can put an end to the cycle of generational trauma. Do it for your daughter and for yourself.
Nazmazh 18
So? Break the cycle. You're aware enough to realize what you're doing. YOU have the power to stop it.
poopface82 25
Step one is admitting you have a problem. Step two is probably sitting your kid down and having an honest conversation. Step three is cancelling one or two activities. I suggest starting with dance, assuming dance is involved.
BrizBurry 10
sounds like you know whats gotta change, just gotta not do exactly that