Today, I was called fat by my boyfriend's old-fashioned mom. I'm not close to fat but I'm not really skinny either so she calls me fat. She also complained that my feet makes noise when I walk and that girls shouldn't make noise when walking. This week has been hell. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, whilst trying on wedding dresses with my mom, she told me that I looked fat and awful in the dress I liked. When I told her how hurtful she was being, she told me that I should be grateful that she told me what she thought instead of laughing at me behind my back. FML
Today, I finally told my mom that it hurts me every time she calls me fat. She got offended that I'm offended. Now our whole entire extended family wants me to say sorry to her and them, because apparently they also call me fat behind my back. I'm a size small by the way. FML
Today, while having dinner with my boyfriend's family, his mom told me that it looks like I've gained quite some weight. When my boyfriend told her that this was a rude thing to say, she said it wasn't rude, just the truth. FML
Today, I was at my boyfriend's grandmother's house meeting her for the first time. I excused myself to the restroom and as I walked out of the room I heard her say, "You could do a lot better. She's fat." Then I heard my boyfriend reply, "I know." FML
Today, my girlfriend felt bad about a rude comment she made to me, and asked me to insult her in return. I told her she was getting fat. Wrong move; now she's not speaking to me. FML
Today, I was told how cruel and selfish I am for rubbing my weight loss in my mom’s face. I’ve literally begged my mom to walk, jog, workout with me for months. She went exactly once. She complained the whole time, then called me a bitch for finishing my run while she sat in the car. FML
Today, my boyfriend sent me a text that said, "I can't be seen with you anymore. You're too fat." FML
Today, after being bodyshamed by my mother for being too fat (I'm a size 14) and how I shouldn't be wearing shorts because it makes me look ugly and motivates people to comment on my body, I texted my boyfriend to tell him about it. His reply was, "Aww. you cutie. You know she's not wrong." FML
Today, I had to walk three miles home from work. Both my parents were at home. The reason they wouldn't collect me is apparently because I've "gotten so fat, your grandma cried after she saw you". FML
Today, I overheard my boyfriend and his friends talking in the next room. I smiled when my boyfriend called me beautiful, only to hear his friend laugh and say, "C'mon, dude. She has fat ankles and smells like deli meat." FML
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DraftHail614 17
Girls shouldn't make noise when they walk? OP, that lady is on some shit. I wouldn't let it bother you. I'm just confused as to why your SO hasn't said anything.
TxKitten79 10
And is the boyfriend standing up for you? If not, he needs to be your ex-boyfriend. This woman wont chanfe, EVER unless the boyfriend stands up to her for you. So, if he's not... this is what the rest of your life with him will look like, and it will only get worse the longer this goes on, and it will definitely be worse if you ever get married.
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DraftHail614 17
Girls shouldn't make noise when they walk? OP, that lady is on some shit. I wouldn't let it bother you. I'm just confused as to why your SO hasn't said anything.
Ksweety_fml 27
she probably just jealous of u.
MidnaLink 35
Then as long as she isn’t walking and talking, she shouldn’t give a flying whoop.
TxKitten79 10
And is the boyfriend standing up for you? If not, he needs to be your ex-boyfriend. This woman wont chanfe, EVER unless the boyfriend stands up to her for you. So, if he's not... this is what the rest of your life with him will look like, and it will only get worse the longer this goes on, and it will definitely be worse if you ever get married.
PenguinPal3017 19
At first I felt ashamed of not knowing what "chanfe" meant. It sounds fancy.
TxKitten79 10
It was supposed to be "change." I missed that one when I proof-read. oops.
tounces7 28
Always consider what someones parents are like, and what impact it may have had on them. An overbearing mother could indicate a spineless mama's boy....which means run.
TxKitten79 10
Exactly. I have no doubt that if someone in my husband's family disrespected me he would call them out, in front of everyone, and stand up for me. My ex never did, and his mother never changed.
TheTree 4
Would you mind telling me your height and weight? I'm a physician's assistant and it's super common for patients who are clinically overweight or even obese to be shocked that their weight is outside of the healthy range, just because (in the US at least) obesity has become so normalized. Also, consider getting a pair of tap dance shoes to wear around your BF's house
julfunky 29
It doesn’t matter if you’re a physicians assistant, you don’t ask random people online that kind of information in order to discern if they’re fat or not. Not your job.
PenguinPal3017 19
You're trying to help OP but people will shit on you anyway. It's a fair question.
Quasita 26
Height/weight ratio doesn't determine health or even obesity. It determines BMI, but it's long been determined that that alone doesn't determine the actual state of obesity or any medical condition. If you're not asking for stature/build, then you're not even able to determine what part of the BMI scale you should be considering to determine if their height/weight ratio falls into obese categories.
Quasita 26
It might be a "fair" question if the right parameters were being requested. In order to determine a person's health, you'd need to confirm their biological sex, height, weight, stature, age and approximate bone density, and then also have a potential caliper test to determine whether or not they were actually obese. "Clinically obese" is not determined by weight and height alone and I find it questionable that a person trying to qualify their knowledge in this way would get any support at all. OP only needs to consider the opinion of their personal PCP when it comes to concerns about their weight. Assuming that OP might be "clinically obese" and not know it is, in my opinion, part of the attitude that plagues the medical community these days.
julfunky 29
Exactly. The fact that they asked JUST height and weight automatically makes their “physical assessment” a guesstimate at best.
tounces7 28
You know, she could just freaking use that information and google it, too.
raven_of_azarath 35
While I agree that it’s unfair to assume that OP is clinically obese without realizing it, I will give you some love for the tap shoes comment. I’m an ex dancer, and this is totally something I would do. And I’d also show the mom some videos of prima ballerinas cuz they’re some of the skinniest women, yet they make noise when they walk/dance too.
Ella_fml 17
... She said she's "not close to fat" I was 5"4 and weighed 135 lbs, and my mother would told me I'm fat and gave me a weight loss book for Christmas. Some mothers are just like this.
Rabite 28
Yeah people are weird with other people's weights. People told me that I was too thin and too fat at the same time. You can never get it right.
fjvitt 14
Tell her that she’s an ugly bitch
Taurus_ChicKa 37
If your boyfriend doesn't stick up for you, you may want to use those feet to kick him to the curb, too. Seriously, it sickens me how many people do crap like that mother.
BurnInDemonFire 39
She's not old-fashioned, she's just plain rude. Speak with your boyfriend, and ask him to get her to apologize.
chosha_fml 27
That’s not old-fashioned. That’s just plain rude.
Yudith 28
Have you tried levitating?
zuckerburg 21
I know loud and obnoxious girls too. They don't know they're loud and obnoxious. Your boyfriend's mom might not be the hero we need...