Today, my husband needs the money from my job, but will in no way support me to work. He NEVER cooks, cleans, or picks up after himself. I've got no place to work, except a nook by the bathroom, and I have to manage my toddler, who always poops only when I'm in a meeting, and cries for me. Quitting my job is "out the question." FML
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A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, my husband wants me to have a career and earn well, but he also wants me to have a spotless home with two young children. So I need to drop and pick up kids, cook, clean, wash, mop, and fold, all while also doing my best demanding minimum 8-hour a day technical job. He doesn't understand why that's difficult. FML
Today, I'm so sick of being a mom. I have a screaming toddler and a squalling infant, tearing up the house and stinking up every room, and my husband still has the balls to not only be happy, but ask for ANOTHER. I'm about to walk, dump the kids with his smiley ass, and take his rich family's money. FML
Today, after presenting my husband with a more than fair request to pay me an hourly wage for being a stay-at-home mom, he laughed his ass off and told me if I want money so badly, I could get a job. He'd rather strangers in daycare raise our babies than pay me what I'm worth. FML
Today, instead of thinking he should try to get a higher-paying job (like I did) my husband decided to come up with some money saving ideas. Almost all of them include being unhygienic, such as weekly showers, wiping dishes, and only washing clothes after 5 or more wears. I want a divorce. FML
Today, the guy I live with demanded that I get a job or start paying rent. It'd be perfectly reasonable, if he wasn't my husband, and if I hadn't just given birth to our first child. FML
Today, my husband declined a $100k/year job due to him thinking that a full-time job at one work place would be too "depressing." I'm a nurse and have to wipe other people's arses for a living, then come home to this lazy dick. FML
Today, I asked my husband to be a little more responsible, pick up after himself, and spend a little less. I earn more than he does, so it's usually my money that he splurges. He has gone on a non-stop tantrum for the past 5 hours, giving me the cold shoulder, and shouting at me. What have I gotten myself into? FML
Today, I woke up to my apartment in a state of total disarray. I've been asking my boyfriend to get either get a job, or clean the house. I just had a bunch of dental work taken care of. He doesn't have a job, and doesn't want to find one. I'm tired of trying to raise an already grown man. FML
Today, my new boyfriend told me he has no interest in being a dad, never has, never will, so the first time I ask him for any sort of help with my son he’s out the door. I'd dump his ass, but my mum just died so I have nowhere to go, and literally cannot afford both rent and food without his wage. FML
Today, my wife called me at work to yell at me because the house is a mess. She hasn't helped me clean in over two years, and when I ask for help, there's always a new excuse, headache, tired from work, stress, etc. FML
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tokeup6969 4
Please consider divorce.
TomeDr 25
The old Ann Landers question was, “would my life be better with him or without him.”
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tokeup6969 4
Please consider divorce.
tiptoppc 21
As a guy, I agree. Don’t let a leach keep feeding off of you. Cut him off and kick that lazy slob out of the home.
TomeDr 25
The old Ann Landers question was, “would my life be better with him or without him.”
Iifa 7
What a weird thing to say in 2022 "my husband needs the money from my job". Consider divorce. Your work earns you money. Household has shared bills, not shared wages. If child isn't his then kick the bastard out If the child is his, then consider divorce and full custody Or maybe he is suffering from undiagnosed mental disorder then call correct authorities and get him into facility for adults incapable of handling life and basic tasks. Personally I would have already left him, people always say I can't leave , and he will change and I have nowhere to go, but all of it is being afraid to change and afraid of not being worthy enough to reserve better. Do yourself a favour and see value in yourself, you certainly aren't being respected and valued member of household. What husband does is abuse, recognise it and leave. Out of curiosity was he before working and helping around house? Or is he recently unemployed, sick, he changed one day to become useless helpless manchild? Was he like this before wedding, child? I cannot imagine sharing same living space with someone who cannot wash his own dishes and clean after themselves. Even children wouldn't get out of clearing their own stuff, why does he have such a comfortable life when you're a modern day slave. And a man needs your money??? Like does he need it for bus fare, CV printing, medication, work interview? Groceries that he doesn't buy? Like how is his money needs justified, what does he need to buy if he is doing nothing at all.
Sonotsuave 37
So I take it he’s not working then? Honestly even if he is working he should be helping around the house. There’s two people in there making it a home, using things, so TWO people should be helping out and equally sharing responsibilities. He can either work more or just as much as you, and share the responsibilities, or if he doesn’t want to work then he better be doing like 90-100% of the household chores & responsibilities. Lay out the options for him, otherwise if he won’t change it’s time to move on from this marriage
RichardPencil 32
Hey, at least you're not single. Am I right?
J_Free_Woods 29
Start with a pros and cons list the pros of if he stays the cons of if he stays, the pros of if he leaves and the cons of if he leaves. Add in how many times he has contributed to the household by himself, how much he contributes money wise by himself, and how many times you have asked him to contribute to the household and how often you have to ask him to contribute money wise. When I say contributes I mean how many times does he do chores for you without you having to ask him to do the chores for you how many times does he help pay the bills without you asking him to help pay the bills things like that. If he contributes without you asking whether it’s by chores or moneywise and chores could include cooking or doing the laundry. Then I would put that as a pro but if you have to ask him and I’m not talking about ask him once but ask him over and over and over and over and over again and you might wanna put that on the cons but it depends on how you look at things as well.
Crowned Sataness 12
he does it because you tolerate it. tell him if you're going to do it all alone then you're going to do it ALONE, and stick to it
1known 34
At least stop doing things for him, then stop giving money then divorce might be an option. But seek counseling all the way through.
rudico67 8
You don't need to quit your job; you need to quit your husband
geckohead 12
You need a spine, woman! You've even got your toddler walking all over you. Use your voice and your actions and your new attitude and start getting things done. He does not have to be there to finalize a divorce.