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By horriblejoke - / Wednesday 10 October 2012 15:05 / Australia - Perth
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116, I lost a few family members of my own to cancer. I'm sorry for your loss. I was just diagnosed with cancer, less than two weeks ago, and I can't even fathom someone using cancer as a prank/dare. The boyfriend needs to be dumped ASAP!

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183, Thank you. The worst part is, I'm pregnant so I can't be treated til after I give birth. But your kind words put a smile on my face. All the best to you.

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I don't know about ops boyfriend being respectful in his relationships especially when there's not enough info to go on. Regardless, not too many people lie about their mother having a degenerative disease in order to tell a good joke. His actions are repulsive and I would be livid if that were my boyfriend. I'm sorry that this situation happened to you op but you definitely need to have a stern conversation with your boyfriend over things that are funny and things that are cruel.

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58: Respect is about not pulling pranks like this on somebody you care about. This guy let his gf shave her head when he knew full well that her reason for doing it was a lie for his entertainment; that's not respect. Joking about cancer and his mother dying isn't very respectful, either.

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Lmao a friend in high school a few years back had this happen to him when he passed out drunk with his shoes on! So he drew them on with a sharpie and came to school a few days later!

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Yes, YDI for caring about your boyfriend and his family /sarcasm How do you know her and her boyfriend don't live in another state and the only way she can get information about his mother is through him? How is she gullible for believing something her boyfriend said, when it's something as serious as cancer? No, it's a total FHL because her boyfriend is an ass

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How do you know they aren't close? I was very close with my exboyfriends mom, but we only had time to talk once or twice a month. You have no idea the situation of their relationship. OP and her boyfriend could have lived near his parents for awhile but then moved. Or, when my aunt got cancer, we never talked with her about it because it made her upset. She may not have rushed out and done it, it could have been an ongoing prank. All of these things could have happened. You are assuming one thing out of very few details. FMLs aren't black and white. There may be details we aren't aware of.

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young_happy: Are you a fucking idiot? "Some people use other people's tragedies to show the world how caring they are." Um, what? Don't people usually show their support as a result of tragedies? If everything were okay, nobody would HAVE to show their support. And why THE FUCK would she sit through chemotherapy if she doesn't have cancer? I guess the people that donate to the 'Make A Wish' Foundation are just attention whores then, huh? NOW it all makes sense.

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52- There are assumptions based on deductive reasoning, and then there are assumptions based on nonsensical "what if..." thought processes. Torbey seems to fall under the nonsensical umbrella.

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51-you, my friend, are a complete and total ass. When my grandmother went through Chemo, she was thankful for support from anyway; family or stranger. Now, let me get this right. You suggest instead of shaving your head to support someone's fight, sit through chemo treatments to see how horrible they are? I don't need to "sit" through a treatment, I know first hand how horrible cancer treatments are. How, exactly, is taking a treatment you don't need (which is expensive and supplies can run short at times) showing your support?

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51-you, my friend, are a complete and total ass. When my grandmother went through Chemo, she was thankful for support from anyway; family or stranger. Now, let me get this right. You suggest instead of shaving your head to support someone's fight, sit through chemo treatments to see how horrible they are? I don't need to "sit" through a treatment, I know first hand how horrible cancer treatments are. How, exactly, is taking a treatment you don't need (which is expensive and supplies can run short at times) showing your support?

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Am I the only one here who read the "sit through a 4 hour chemo treatment and actually do something to support that person" as "sit with them and keep them company"? I thought the "do something to support that person" implied that.

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Either way Sinkhole, there are other ways to show support besides sitting through a chemotherapy session with somebody. And I'm not condemning anyone who has or does. If what they're saying is "Do something other than blow hot air." then I agree and take back everything I said. However, their first statement, which I quoted, seems to say otherwise.

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I do mean to sit with them and keep them company, or do other things that will actually support the person sick. Sure, shaving your head in support can be a great gesture, when done with the person who is sick and losing their hair. But doing it without even confirming that someone is sick (or that they will lose their hair...not all chemo causes hairloss) just seems more show-offy than supportive, since they seemingly weren't even close enough to this woman to know anything about her condition. I'm talking about empty gestures, like posting things on FB but never actually spending time with or taking care of someone when they are sick. Things just so people will say "What a supportive and caring person you are!" but aren't actually helping the sick person at all.

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I honestly don't care one way or another about everyone's opinions, but until #85 said something I was about to rip my hair off. Obviously she didn't mean sit through chemo treatment yourself. Glad you hammered some sense into this rage-train of opinions.

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I would say that she should have confirmed a potential tragedy with the person themselves, but the mom might not have wanted it known (if it were true). Honestly, if I had cancer, I would appreciate a gesture like that, but I would rather my family do other things to support me (as stated by those who were down voted). I don't know if it's just me, but I would rather emotional support than people shaving their heads for me.

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I dont know personally I think family or stranger and whether you know they are sick or not if you're showing your support thats a big move and its a great thing to. Showing support and someone isnt reallly sick doesnt make that person a show off. They didnt ask questions they just showed the support to the person who needed it. I wouldnt have asked if someone really was sick, i would still do what I could anyways. Its like my mothers friend does she sees people asking for money and she gives it she doesnt know if the person will spend it on money or drugs all that matters was she did something good, she gave that effort she was willing to help someone. That is what matters even if its real or not.

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While I agree sometimes people do do things to show off their compassion, I think shaving ones head is pushing it too far. I really don't think OP shaved her head to show off.

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51- being supportive of someone with cancer can range from anything from anyone. pull your head out of your ass. when my mother was dying from cancer she welcomed the support from anyone. when you know of someone with cancer whether it be family or not. there is no bragging to make yourself look better because during that time all that matters is the health and well being of that person. support helps. may not heal the cancer but it shows that you aren't allow and not every person is a selfish prick.

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Or the more logical explanation is that she was "recently diagnosed" (as claimed by boyfriend) not that she's had it forever and it's just being brought up now. Although I agree one should wait to get all the facts (and see if a person would even lose their hair) before making such a decision, it was a kind gesture. Also, I work at a cancer hospital, anyone and everyone gets cancer suddenly and some die very quickly. It could be the only chance she has to show support.

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And then be prepared with laughing gas and a mask to put on him, while creepily whispering in his ear all the sick things you're going to do to him while he's drugged so he pees himself. Then Wax his head and then his balls. Then his entire body until he feels like a baby dolphin...muhaha. Right?

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1) Boyfriend told OP mom had cancer. 2) OP shaves her head. 3) Boyfriend reveals mom doesn't have cancer. 4) OP was duped and shaved her head for nothing. You're welcome.

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53- it's exactly what the fml said and kyleekay dumbed it down for you... Is your reading comprehension really that bad? Don't answer that... that might be too hard for you as well. Smh...

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53- No, I simply restated the obvious based on what actually happened according to the FML. "Turns out she doesn't even have cancer, and my boyfriend didn't think I'd have the guts to actually do it." - This means the boyfriend lied to OP about his mom having cancer to see if she'd actually shave her head.

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96- I'm pretty sure the fml says he lied about the cancer to see if the girlfriend would shave her head. Really, it's all right there. Also (not directly related at you 96, just a general comment), why is it that if a small group of people experience tragedy, then no one on earth is allowed to make a joke about it anymore? I've never understood that.

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105: cancer does not effect a small group of people. And a deadly disease that kills hundreds each year is not funny. Take your twisted, sick sense of humor somewhere else douch-bag.

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