Today, my husband asked what I’d done all day. I took it as a criticism and was about to chew his head off about not appreciating all I do, when I took a look at myself still in pyjamas, the filthy house, dirty plates, and unwashed laundry and realised I’ve done fuck all for weeks. I’m a bad wife. FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, I got home and my wife asked me why I hadn’t taken the bin out or cleaned the living room. I asked her why she hadn’t done it since she got fired 6 months ago for laziness and since then has sat on her ass watching daytime TV instead of job searching. She threw a mug at my face. FML
Today, I made the mistake of being competent at chores, so according to my wife I’m trying to show her up, because I don’t appreciate her contribution to the household, and I secretly think she’s useless, blah blah. I had a day off so I cleaned the kitchen and bathroom. Lock me up, I’m guilty. FML
Today, I haven’t spoken to my husband in a week, and when I finally spoke to him he thanked me because he’s gotten so much work done round the house, caught up on all his paperwork for his job, and reconnected with his Xbox friends. I didn’t realise I was such a fucking distraction. FML
Today, my wife blamed me for the washing machine breaking. When I told her it wasn’t me because I haven’t used it this week, she immediately changed direction and started blaming me for not doing enough around the house, which is utter bullshit. I know I do my share, I think she just wanted to fight. FML
Today, I made breakfast for the family. Perfect. Did all the Laundry. Great. Drove the one and a half hour round trip to take my stepdaughter to work. Blah. Finished off by doing some housework and cooking dinner. The dinner wasn't perfect, and my wife told me that for all the good I do, I ruin everything. FML
Today, I asked my husband to talk and he got the most tired and “Here we go again” look and then asked what he’d done wrong this time. Apparently, I get mad at him so often that now every time we talk, he immediately assumes he did something wrong. I think I’m a horrible wife. FML
Today, I told my husband I felt unfulfilled and unhappy in my life. He suggested I do more chores. FML
Today, I cleaned our whole house. I wasn’t expecting praise, it was just the house needed cleaning so I did it. I also wasn’t expecting my girlfriend to get mad at me for “cleaning everything as a form of passive aggressively criticising her for her not having cleaned the house either.” What? FML
Today, after my husband read about mental load and about what he could do to help with mine, I came home to a clean house, the chores done, and dinner on the stove. I was more anxious and stressed than ever, thinking, "What did he fuck up that I'm gonna find and have to fix at the worst possible time?" FML
Today, my wife said I shouldn't wash or iron the clothes, or do the dusting and vacuuming, because, I "don't do it correctly." Also my wife: "You don't do anything to help around here." FML
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TeaTimeAbyss 22
Is there a chance you're not doing so great emotionally/mentally? It matters to take care of your environment, but also take care of yourself.
Anderling 33
I don’t think you’re a bad wife. I think you need help. Just the impression I get off this snapshot, but you sound like you’re exhausted and overworked and about to snap.
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TeaTimeAbyss 22
Is there a chance you're not doing so great emotionally/mentally? It matters to take care of your environment, but also take care of yourself.
Hangryko 32
You're not a bad wife. He's a bad husband. Does he do anything towards the household you *both* share? Does he expect you to do all of the housework? Has he even asked if you're okay? That entitled, judgmental ass can look after his own damn messes, dishes, and laundry.
Earl_KarmasBitch 36
He just asked her how her day went. OP admits she took it as a criticism (meaning that she realises it probably wasn't). There's absolutely nothing in the FML to suggest he's any of the things you're complaining about.
Hangryko 32
It's possible, but the way she said how he asked "What did you do all day?" is usually passive-aggressive. If all the chores are piling up, OP didn't mention that he was doing any of them or if he even checked in with her mental health status. More information from OP would be appreciated.
Anderling 33
I don’t think you’re a bad wife. I think you need help. Just the impression I get off this snapshot, but you sound like you’re exhausted and overworked and about to snap.
Bogrbon 27
This sounds like depression. Do you need some professional help? Getting help if you need it can be better for you and your family.
vchan 20
There is some information missing : do you work ? Part/full time? If yes, the housework should be split between you and your husband. And even if you are a housewife, your physical or mental health would sadly be a good reason for underperforming lately. If that is the case, please seek professionnal help.
core01 30
PJs for the win! Those are my most productive days -- with dirty dishes and piles of laundry. I have better things to neasure my worth with than whether the dishes are done.
JackWood 21
Everyone needs me time just tell him lots of self care.
Pink_Turnips 14
its great that you can look in the mirror and admit this to yourself, now work on getting out of that funk you're in... we all go thru it
lexxiasaurus 31
I've been there. you're not a shit wife. life got hard or some need isn't being met how it was before. I believe in you to get through this! trust yourself and also reach out for help. even a friend who doesn't mind to come over and clean or chat for a bit. maybe even therapy if it's deeper than just a social need
Billsonhamsen 17
The fact that you can admit that is the first step to improvement. Don't settle for being a lousy wife. First look at your life and assess your own well-being. You can't draw water from an empty well. Second find ways to improve his life and expect the same from him. If you are both worried more about the other person then you will both be taken care of. Do things like waking up at the same time and getting ready for the day early and don't be on your phone too much(phone use is linked to depression).