Today, despite the fact that I own my home, car and have a career, I was once again told that I’ve shamed my family by being a single mom. Meanwhile, my brother has four kids with three different women and constantly hits up every family member for money. He gets nothing but just support. FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I am so sick and tired of watching my brother get everything he wants in life from being a bastard. He does everything I would consider bad and it’s made him rich and successful. I try and be a good person and all it got me is fired, and in danger of losing my car and house. FML
Today, my brother who routinely marred my life by stealing from me, fighting me, and isolating me from my own family, made his hollow AA apology to me so he'll feel better. My parents employ him, bought his car and house, and pay his insurance. I've been in poverty. FML
Today, I realized how absolutely shitty my family is when my brother brought home his third girlfriend this week. They all smiled in her face, knowing full well my brother is a cheating asshole. Not to mention, she’s pregnant with his kid. I wasn’t allowed to date til I moved out. FML
Today, my family got very upset with me when I advised my brother’s girlfriend to take the kids and leave. They’re more upset with me telling her that, than the fact that my brother is an abusive serial cheater and a raging alcoholic, who hits her and the kids. FML
Today, I've been guilt tripped, ranted at, called names, ostracized and told what a horrible person I am for, "turning my back on family." My former brother is in jail for unspeakable crimes, yet somehow I’m the bad guy for not standing by and supporting him or offering to help pay for a lawyer. FML
Today, my screw-up brother turned up at my house, expecting to move in rent free. Apparently, mom kicked him out and sent him to me. He's a freeloading demon, who's almost impossible to get rid of, so I told him to get lost and locked my door. Now my mom calls every 5 minutes to call me a selfish asshole. FML
Today, my mother yet again chose to put my brother's junkie of an ex-girlfriend's needs and happiness above mine, despite the fact that she's stolen thousands of dollars and anything else of value from my mom's house. FML
Today, my parents are calling me a spoilt brat and threatening to disown me if I don't let my sister, her six kids, and freshly out of jail boyfriend move into the house I spent 10 years working my ass off to buy without having a mortgage. Sis said I can sleep on the lounge as long as I pay rent. FML
Today, my husband threw my brother out for wearing his dressing gown and eating his snacks, saying it was the final straw for his lazy, thieving, unemployed ass. I support my husband obviously, but now my parents are mad at me because my brother moved back in with them. FML
Today, my mother once again called me to remind me what a disappointment I am despite having two degrees, a house, a professional job and having never been unemployed at 25. FML
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tounces7 28
Sounds like he's simply the favorite. Clearly your family sucks ass.
timinator5000 28
Double standard for women:( Keep your head high and know that you are doing great. One day karma will get him what he deserves
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tounces7 28
Sounds like he's simply the favorite. Clearly your family sucks ass.
timinator5000 28
Double standard for women:( Keep your head high and know that you are doing great. One day karma will get him what he deserves
ThatOneLonelyAsian 31
Timinator is becoming a little overly sexist
stumpygremlin 13
no... he's not being sexist at all. He's pointing out a double standard for a woman versus a man. He's stating that she's a woman, so is expected to meet the arbitrary definition of "being married," but he is not.
ThatOneLonelyAsian 31
That's all anyone wants is their parents love but you're a grown up so that shouldn't matter, your kids should
Mathalamus 25
Then... don't talk to your family? You aren't obligated to keep them around.
mfranks19891989 10
I don’t want to sound racist but are you Asian. I know a few Asian people that are shunned but there family because of this. Anyway forget your family you just continue to be the best mom and employee you can be.
ImpKit 7
Sheila, as a straight white individual you absolutely CAN have pride... but you have to be able to explain why it is a source of pride. Gay pride, racial identity pride, gender identity pride... all of these are reactions of disenfranchised groups that clap back at a privileged majority that tries to shame & hide them, or worse tries to deny them rights, freedoms, and in some cases, life. They loudly and proudly exist as who they are, regardless of the close-minded opinions of the majority that tells them they don't belong. Perhaps focus on your pride... as a resident of your city? Pride in your place within a community or social organization? Pride in Irish, Italian, or other heritage & the culture that comes with that heritage? As for being accepted as yourself, again, outside of a pride festival, or social organization dedicated to a particular marginalized demographic, where someone is trying to deflect attention from the marginalized group that is celebrating and onto themselves, I've never seen a white straight person not be accepted for who they are as a white straight person. Other factors of who you are might have had an impact (such as facial tattoos, clothing choice, hygiene, political opinions, and so forth).
Inkoseh 33
It isn't racist, it's called a stereotype. And they exist, and they also exist for a reason. It can also happen outside Asian (Asia and East Asia) families too obviously. It's racism when you make them to be unequal to everyone else or degraded at people; and you haven't done it at all.
limeychefboy 15
**** em, it’s what you think that matters to you, not what idiots think.
LostSoul 20
Sounds like my family. I was the good student. My brother was an alcoholic. I was the one they treated like crap. Move on from them.
DogStew 20
Sounds like you are the scapegoat of the family. Set some boundaries and you will start to see the truth.
Teri Green 9
you know what I feel that. my brother has 3 kids from 2 moms, one that has a restraining order against him but she still comes over constantly with the child she lied about giving up for adoption and takes everything and more while I'm trying to give my kid everything and more and move out but nothing I do (cooking, cleaning, working full time) is enough
Inkoseh 33
Your family sucks total ass. Your rebuttal if it ever comes up infront of your brother and family all together: "What, do I have to have 4 kids with 4 different men, beg you all for money and never pay you back to get any kind of positive support from you?" Honestly, it seems they have a favorite. And it's the worst feeling. My mother and her sister were the unlucky ones, the only son (their brother) of my grandparents was the favorite and could do no wrong.