Today, one of my bosses said, "You're going to take this as an insult, but it's not. At a certain age, women are supposed to cut their hair short." I have long hair. My bosses have all of the social skills of the guys from Big Bang Theory. FML
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Irreverend 23
I talk to customers on the phone. People wear shorts and printed t-shirts to work. Several people walk around without shoes - including one of the owners. I, on the other hand, tend to dress up a bit. Image isn't the issue. This is the same place where, over 20 years ago, I decided to wear a skirt one day and one of the owners commented "she does have legs!"
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doodlecloud 27
You've put up with these people for over 20 years?! You have the patience of a saint. You must be awesome at customer service...
SerendipityRose 26
Forget them... I have hair that's thick & healthy & stops 4 inches from the back of my knee. They'd have to shave it off of my cold, dead head before I quit for some ridiculous social stereotype.
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8born8 18
At a certain age men are supposed to grow up. THAT doesn't happen all the time either....
PsychoticAsylum 26
Don't listen to them. As long as you can manage your hair and you feel awesome about it, keep it however you want. Other people shouldn't matter.
mssmell 10
Does he also ask where babies come from?
lennelleong 33
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If your hair is thick & healthy, and parting isn't too evident, why not? Having said that,... i think it's what suits your face shape and when your hair is plainly hanging down, without bounce or spring, the eye is automatically drawn to the face and teenagers best carry that off as they already have that zing.There's gotta be a happy open medium to length & style so find good hair professionals who you trust to submit your hair to. The best thing about long hair is that you can always grow it out if u don't like the change! (:
helpfulwhale 12
FYL, op. I guess some guys have the social etiquette of gerbils. On the flip side, I actually was told the opposite comment (that my hair was too short for my age) when I decided to have a pixie cut. As long as you're happy with how you look, screw what they say!
doodlecloud 27
When I picture an old lady I think of someone jolly, bit round, down to earth and with two long and healthy silvers plaits.... I like that look for an old person. I might have that when I'm a grandma or something. Not that you're that old OP, but if you can have long hair when you're elderly, you can have it when you're middle-aged or however old you are.
annie_nk 23
"Supposed" to likes it's a rule. Screw that! This is 'Merica!
lennelleong 33
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Does your boss himself look good, sharp & snappy? If you have a role where self-presentation is important, or a company where image is important, it doesn't hurt to look fresher & more current. After all, it's only hair. It's your boss that does your annual appraisal & gives you brownie points worth something,.. not us.
monnanon 14
long hair is always in style especially now when the whole hippy chic thing is going around. all tjat is required by OP is to style her hair up. that looks professional too. some people just dont suit short hair.
doodlecloud 27
'only hair' - Hair can be very important to people - a part of their identity, kept long for religious reasons, makes someone feel safe. Long hair can absolutely be fresh and current as well. It shouldn't impede on professionalism.
lennelleong 33
There was an FML about someone complaining that the waiter shouldn't have told her not to eat too much bread because it'll make her fat. Coming to this, it's her boss that was recommending. I'm saying OP can take it under advisement and try something out if she respects the boy's dress-sense and as you say, it doesn't contravene her religious guidelines. If anyone keeps the same hair-length to feel safe, then it's up to them. But sometimes people don't change unless they're prodded.
Kukua 5
45, you're kidding right? What year do you think this is, exactly?? Should her boss tell her how to dress next? Or how to do her makeup? Better yet, maybe her boss should suggest she quit and go back to the kitchen. Unless her long hair is a health violation (not tied back in a food-related job), he can suck it! He has no right to suggest she cut it, and his comment is completely inappropriate. I agree with a previous commenter that this could be taken as harassment as it can create a hostile work environment. Not only is he calling her old, but is commenting on her appearance in a negative way.
TheyCallMeDamien 18
Most women when they get older cut their hair because it's easier to manage. But if it's not bothering you, don't worry.
Wizzlbang 10
Tell him at a certain age men aren't supposed to have hair at all.