Today, my soon-to-be ex-wife decided she'll be moving into my apartment complex. She always goes out of her way to pick fights with me every chance she gets, has alienated my children from me and has made what should be a very simple divorce into a ridiculously long and contentious one. FML
stillnotdivorced tells us more.
OP here. First of all, I want to thank everyone for their support. I get a lot of face-to-face support, and I'm not sure why the support of a bunch of strangers on the Internet is so meaningful, but it is. So thanks! Second, I want to provide a bit more detail. Not much more, as I don't want to say anything that will be too identifying or potentially useful for her if we ever go to trial: Thanks to the fairness of the system here and some actions she took initially, we have had 50/50 shared parenting time with the kids since almost the beginning. So I've been able to spend a lot of time with my kids, and when they forget they are supposed to hate me, it's been great! Then they remember, and things get very, very hard. And regardless of the challenges of having her here in the complex, this move of hers *will* make things easier on the kids - they'll be able to walk from household to household on transition days instead of getting driven. Much less disruptive. So yes, there is a silver lining. I like all of the suggestions of tracking or even recording all of our interactions. I'll have to check into the legality of actually recording, but writing down what happens and is said as soon afterward as possible is a great idea, and I'm going to add it to my toolkit. I also like the idea of having witnesses around. I don't think a restraining order is a possibility without a specific action on her part. But rest assured - if she does something that warrants it (see what I did there?), I will seek one. Thanks again, everyone!
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TheHeirofTime 19
My mom is the same way, OP. Try not to let her get to you, or ask the court for joint custody of your kids. Good luck!
Tripartita 45
Ditto! I didn't think divorcing my mom would be so difficult, but there you go…
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simsgirlgem 25
Get a camera disguised as something like a pen or glasses and record her actions that way if you gotta go to court you got proof
Lizzy500 16
Time to file a restraining order? She sounds emotionally abusive.
NotmadYT 17
"Accidentally" run her over at 100mph
limeychefboy 15
Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, Nor hell a fury like a woman scorned....had something similar happen to me. Good luck.
mixedupminx 8
perks are that your kids will be living close by!
stillnotdivorced 1
OP here. First of all, I want to thank everyone for their support. I get a lot of face-to-face support, and I'm not sure why the support of a bunch of strangers on the Internet is so meaningful, but it is. So thanks! Second, I want to provide a bit more detail. Not much more, as I don't want to say anything that will be too identifying or potentially useful for her if we ever go to trial: Thanks to the fairness of the system here and some actions she took initially, we have had 50/50 shared parenting time with the kids since almost the beginning. So I've been able to spend a lot of time with my kids, and when they forget they are supposed to hate me, it's been great! Then they remember, and things get very, very hard. And regardless of the challenges of having her here in the complex, this move of hers *will* make things easier on the kids - they'll be able to walk from household to household on transition days instead of getting driven. Much less disruptive. So yes, there is a silver lining. I like all of the suggestions of tracking or even recording all of our interactions. I'll have to check into the legality of actually recording, but writing down what happens and is said as soon afterward as possible is a great idea, and I'm going to add it to my toolkit. I also like the idea of having witnesses around. I don't think a restraining order is a possibility without a specific action on her part. But rest assured - if she does something that warrants it (see what I did there?), I will seek one. Thanks again, everyone!
emanbikerz 14
Unfortunately Massachusetts makes it a crime to record another person without their consent. Good idea though, if it were legal.
NeuroJ 1
It looks like Massachusetts requires everyone to know that a recording is taking place. They do not have to consent to the recording.
AntiSocialKitten 21
He could put up some home surveillance if it gets too bad and buy a sign that states he has cameras, couldn't he?
codi_9269 4
Unfortunately it's still illegal to have cameras with sound. They could record the 'picture' of what is going on but not with sound.
Cow_Girl_Lilly 24
That's happening to my sisters boyfriend. I wish you the best of luck OP!!
minecraftdad 4
bitches be crazy. went through the same thing with my ex. Though of she suddenly changes tune it's because she's already pregnant by dome other dude.
manuwish 9
I like your humor :)
kenyrabit 25
If she's moving close, this must mean your children will too.