Today, for Mother's Day, I surprised my Mother with the news I that I'll be visiting in June. The last time we got to visit was 4 years ago, we live 4000 miles apart and it's a very expensive trip. She said, "No, come next June, I want to lose some more weight before seeing you." FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, after several months of eating right, exercising, and weight loss, my mother has yet again arrived at my house, unannounced and with a very sugary cake. She's been doing this most weeks since I lost 50 pounds. FML
Today, while visiting my parents, I observed that I've been able to visit more often because I've avoided getting sick the whole year. My mother responded by reminding me that I need to get my act together if I'm going to lose weight and get healthier. Not the reaction I hoped for, Mom. FML
Today, I heard that my mom is coming back from France, where my brother lives. I have lived in the same place, exactly 45 minutes from my mother, for 6 years. She hasn't visited me once, but has been out of state to see my sibling. FML
Today, I visited my Mum. She has invited me to visit her before, but kept cancelling whenever I tried to arrange an actual visit. I finally went over anyway, only to find her in a soiled nappy, room in ruins, with kidney failure-induced dementia. Sometimes they hide it well over the phone. FML
Today, I went to my parents' house. I recently lost about 30 lbs. My mom hugged me and said, "Aww, you're not my chubby baby girl anymore." She then said she wished I were still fat because she missed it. She's the reason I lost the weight; she used to tease and taunt me. Thanks Mom. FML
Today, I drove across two states to see my brother, who's had a history of heart problems. My mother had sent me a long e-mail saying he was on his death bed and wanted to talk to me to "get his affairs in order." When I arrived worriedly, he was fine. My mother guilt-tripped me to come visit. FML
Today, I planned a lunch out with my mom for Mother's Day. She seemed excited about it and "couldn't wait!" She never showed up. FML
Today, my wife got back from two months visiting her unwell mother in Australia. Her mother is a major feeder, so I was trying to be tactful about my wife’s weight gain. Our kids, not so much. They ran to her in the airport and asked her if she was pregnant again because she’s "soooooo big." FML
Today, I went to visit my parents after 4 years of not seeing them. They'd moved without telling me. FML
Today, I called my mom to let her know I was coming home for my upcoming birthday, as I haven’t seen my parents in months. She then stated she hated my birthday because it reminded her she was getting older, and they may have preexisting plans that evening anyways. Really feeling the family love… FML
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doemetoch 28
It sounds like she's insecure about herself, and wants you to be proud of her. Would it help if you explain to her that you love her no matter what, and that, even though you support any efforts she's making to be healthier, you really don't care how she looks? Not seeing your child for 4 years is kind of a big deal, I can understand she wants to be at her best for you.
rich443 22
Some people love their mom and wanna spend time with them, no matter the cost. Even if it appears they dont appreciate it.
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Comments (26)
cheshireau 26
Why does she need a year to lose weight?
mmoss55 2
I don't understand what the fml is
rich443 22
Some people love their mom and wanna spend time with them, no matter the cost. Even if it appears they dont appreciate it.
0262944 15
Same. It should be the mom's.
rich443 22
Wow, thats weird and rude. If your willing to pay, she should be happy to see you.
chuka81 27
Unless OP is a horrible daughter and her mom is glad to be rid if her. Or OP could be one of those people extremely critical of other people's weight. The mere fact the OP is willing to pay does not mean that her mother should be excited to see her.
taffytheterrible 5
If the definition of horrible is financially supporting her, which is why I can't afford to go very often, then yes, I am horrible.
doemetoch 28
It sounds like she's insecure about herself, and wants you to be proud of her. Would it help if you explain to her that you love her no matter what, and that, even though you support any efforts she's making to be healthier, you really don't care how she looks? Not seeing your child for 4 years is kind of a big deal, I can understand she wants to be at her best for you.
whysobeachy 37
Exactly. I thought the same thing. I don't really think it was an FML-worthy moment, because of that. It's actually just a little sad.
anlong93 9
OP, you could also suggest you guys do it together, so she knows you support her? You should also consider explaining that you want to see her because you love her, and it's not dependant on her weight. I'd laugh at my mom if she tried to say that. I just love her too much. (:
taffytheterrible 5
Thanks for the nice alternative point of view. She knows I don't care what she looks like. I am glad she is eating properly which has caused the weight loss. She said she didn't want me interrupting her new routine.
kre8iv 13
take it as a compliment. she wants to look good and healthy for you which means she cares about what you think of her
Homer1975 14
No matter the cost
BDanzeisen 20
Did you book the flight already?
taffytheterrible 5
I will be going to a nearby city for work. That is still on. The 12 hour drive and a week's vacation is off.
summer4me 25
It sounds like she just wants to look good when you see her. Just remind her that you lover her no matter what and hopefully she'll get more excited about you coming to visit.
IorvethTheXolo 8
While it is a very nice thing that you want to spend time with your mom, I kind of feel like you deserved that one. You don't make plans to come to someone's house without asking them first, even if it is family. My husband and I all live (at a minimum) of 1200 miles away from the family we're close to (mom, dad, siblings, grandparents) and I can't imagine just saying, "Surprise! I'm coming to visit!" or being okay with them doing that to us. Perhaps they're remodeling or maybe they already have company scheduled for that time or maybe they are going on a vacation themselves or any number of things. I get the long periods of time can be hard. I saw my mom and my younger brothers for the first time in 5 years last summer when they came here for a week, but it took some shuffling for us to be able to have that time off and make sure we were actually able to spend it with them. If they had surprised us with their visit, they would have been spending a lot of time at our house without us because we wouldn't have had time to make sure we would be home and would have been sleeping on the floor because we didn't have any kind of guest accommodations in our tiny little house.
chinaski7628 32
OP's not visiting her mom until June. That's still a few weeks away, and a pretty decent notice. It's not like OP just showed up on her mom's doorstep without warning.
soullyfe 33
16: Some people do happen to make plans in advanced though even if someone else does give them notice. I have plans for August, so even if someone told me they coming, I clearly would not be able to entertain them as I wouldn't be around even though it's a few months away.
chinaski7628 32
Yeah, but that's enough time to tell someone that that time is too busy for you. Sorry if I was unclear, but it sounded like the comment above assumed OP showed up at her mom's door. I was trying to point out that OP gave her mom notice (and enough notice to cancel any plans OP had made). It's rude to make plans without checking the other person's availability first, and OP did that. If her mom was unavailable or busy, she could've just said that—instead of saying she needed to lose weight.
taffytheterrible 5
I would by that, except, the occasional Dr.'s appointment or trip to the grocery store is the only time she leaves the house, she is always at home. She has been constantly reminding me I haven't been there for a long time. So, no, I don't 'deserve' this one.
DanielleinDC 34
It sucks, and it's nice you want to surprise her, given how rarely you see her, but perhaps you should have checked first.