Honestly, I disagree with mending the relationship in this situation. It's one thing if she apologized and admitted she was wrong, it's quite another that she tried to pretend it never happened. The type of people that tell others they're going to hell for their actions, don't just forget, when that insult is directed at family and people they care about. If she truly thought what she did was a mistake and regretted it, she would have admitted to it, but she didn't. Instead she just whined, tried to guilt OP for not spending time with her, and made excuses. That's not how you mend a relationship when you're the guilty party. If you're going to be judgmental and rude, don't expect people to want a relationship with you, and it is perfectly reasonable for them to cut you off if you're being this way. They are under no obligation to forgive you if you're an asshole towards them. If you don't want people to do this, think about your actions before you make them.

I believe in second chances, but screw mending a relationship with someone who refuses to see where they went wrong.

It may be that she wants to make up with you but doesn't want to swallow her pride and apologize. Maybe this "forgetting" is her way of acknowledging she messed up and telling you she wants back into your life. Its stupid...but life is to short to hold grudges over things like this. Best of luck OP.

Why did she spray you with perfume, though? Did it have holy water in it or something?

Ha

My great grandma use to tell everyone in the family that wasn't church of Christ they were going to hell. We all got to the point that we just told her we would save her a seat.

Honestly, and this is no excuse, but it sounds like she was drunk if she sprayed perfume on you too.. Other than that, using personal reference, I'm 32 years old and often forget saying certain things to certain individuals - not due to drinking, but rather degeneration in my brain from significant impacts throughout my life. I'm a benefit of the doubt kind of person, but I have an aunt I have just as much disdain for, so I also understand that side :) good luck to you!

Seems like you are just petty.

I am commenting again because this is hitting me hard. My aunt just passed, and my mom and her were in a fight. I think that people matter more then we realize, and we often don't realize until it is too late. People are both good and bad, and make good and bad choices throughout their lives. To hold something so stupid over her head for six whole years...I mean, this person is your family, and by choice. They were asked to love you and they agreed to love you. That is strong bonds right there. You can't tell me that this person hasn't done enough good for you to level out this one mistake. I feel like a relationship is made of a lifetime of moments, but can be ended by one stupid one. Like nothing else this person ever did mattered. Like they aren't allowed to be human in your eyes. Sometimes you have to look beyond people's mistakes and realize that having people who love you in your life is what will matter in the long run. Six years is a very long time to hold a grudge. I mended fences with everyone in my family, including my abusive mother, because hating her only hurt me, and creating a new relationship with her was the best decision I have ever made.