Today, after weeks of debating with myself, I finally got the courage to ask out my best friend of 9 years. She turned me down, saying that dating me would be like adopting a puppy, and she doesn't want that kind of responsibility. FML
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OP, here. Soooo.. I'm not a guy. And my friend is bisexual. But I thought it was great that you all thought I was a male, that and (most) of your comments actually made me feel better. For the other comments.. I know I deserved it, but it did suck, especially since I really didn't want to ask, but I thought "why not??".. Yeahhh.. I think I found out why not. ANYWAYS! For starters, we met when we were in middle school, I didn't have those kind of feelings for her back then. They've really just developed over the past few years. I haven't been in love with her for 9 years, that's just how long we've been friends. Okay, so this actually happened over a span of two days. The day I asked her out, she kind of freaked out, but she said it wasn't in a "bad" way. She mentioned that she had thought about a relationship with me in the past, and she was shocked that I was finally asking after so long, BUT that she needed time to think. I assumed that meant no, and I was assuming she would say no from the start. I asked her to just say no if she didn't want to, that I'm fine with it. She didn't answer when I said it, and she waited until the next day to answer.. with the puppy analogy. At first, she just drew "two girls = a girl with a dog" and gave me the drawing. I didn't know what that meant, so then she actually said what she meant it out loud. I was a bit annoyed that she didn't say no, she chose to choose an analogy. Honestly, a no would have been better (and less confusing.) I'm sure she didn't mean it in a bad way, she's not the greatest with words, but it hurt. I felt like it was a double smack in the face. We're still friends and I have no intentions of changing that. Anyhoo, thanks for the sweet comments. Hopefully some day I'll find "The One" and they won't think I'm a puppy. :*
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Moskaaa7 26
Sounds like she's just scared of it not working out and ruining your friendship. And she might view it as her 'responsibility' for it to work and not let that happen.
snarkytruth 37
Better her closest friend that lasts a lifetime than a relationship that turns sour and leaves your friendship awkward to impossible. Your lucky she's honest with you. Besides who doesn't love a puppy (so she does care), sounds like she thinks your just a little needy. Give yourself a couple more years to mature a little more and who knows...
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TheNewGuy03 29
Yo, **** that shit. Just be confident in yourself and stop thinking of yourself as unattractive, and maybe some good shit will happen. The more you beat yourself up about it, less happens.
RedWolf12 3
amazing ^_^
gunnerblaster 21
Take it in stride. If you've known this person for 9 years, your friendship isn't obviously something trivial and she possibly knows you better than you know yourself. If you aren't pleased with her summary of you, then do something to change yourself, for the better. If you don't mind her image of you, then simply seek love elsewhere. No need to end relationships just because she was a little too brutal in being honest with you.
Hildy93 21
A simple no could have done the job
nitemastr15 17
Ouch! FYL OP. I've had friends say that to me before. More than one actually.
danman89 3
heres an idea just stop talking to her completely cut her out of your life that's what i would do.the whole friendzone thing its just an excuse for chicks to be b**ches
adoptablepuppy 8
OP, here. Soooo.. I'm not a guy. And my friend is bisexual. But I thought it was great that you all thought I was a male, that and (most) of your comments actually made me feel better. For the other comments.. I know I deserved it, but it did suck, especially since I really didn't want to ask, but I thought "why not??".. Yeahhh.. I think I found out why not. ANYWAYS! For starters, we met when we were in middle school, I didn't have those kind of feelings for her back then. They've really just developed over the past few years. I haven't been in love with her for 9 years, that's just how long we've been friends. Okay, so this actually happened over a span of two days. The day I asked her out, she kind of freaked out, but she said it wasn't in a "bad" way. She mentioned that she had thought about a relationship with me in the past, and she was shocked that I was finally asking after so long, BUT that she needed time to think. I assumed that meant no, and I was assuming she would say no from the start. I asked her to just say no if she didn't want to, that I'm fine with it. She didn't answer when I said it, and she waited until the next day to answer.. with the puppy analogy. At first, she just drew "two girls = a girl with a dog" and gave me the drawing. I didn't know what that meant, so then she actually said what she meant it out loud. I was a bit annoyed that she didn't say no, she chose to choose an analogy. Honestly, a no would have been better (and less confusing.) I'm sure she didn't mean it in a bad way, she's not the greatest with words, but it hurt. I felt like it was a double smack in the face. We're still friends and I have no intentions of changing that. Anyhoo, thanks for the sweet comments. Hopefully some day I'll find "The One" and they won't think I'm a puppy. :*
teentee401 37
Not gonna lie. I don't think I could've kept that friendship going after that.
Punkgirl4554 20
I have found "the one" and he is still my puppy, but that's just how I know he's loyal and that he loves me. Sometimes it's okay to be like that. Because regardless I love him too.
paperbag77 9
@109 You're 17, you can't possibly know if he is "the one" unless I am missing some very huge detail. I don't doubt you guys love each other and stuff but at your age that can go either way in my experience
ShadowLor 19
OP, you're a better person than I am. I'm very certain I wouldn't be able to hold that friendship together after someone telling me that. I'm happy you've got such an optimistic attitude and could take everything in stride. You've got a good heart and you'll definitely find what you're looking for with it.
KamiyaHaine 18
Well, dogs are loyal, faithful, and full of love. It's too bad she didn't see it that way. My fiancé & I refer to each other that way all the time. Its ok. It just means she wasn't the right one.
rorylikesnoodles 9
Isn't this a line from parks and rec?
kemando 22
the **** does that even mean? sounds kind of rude, like you're some kind of man child who needs to be taken care of or something. I would find this rather insulting. if you're a puppy... Then she's a bitch. badum tssss. (don't shoot)
WriterB 3
What...WHAT DOES THAT EVEN MEAN?!
adoptablepuppy 8
I'm still trying to figure that out! I don't get it