Today, my daughter told me she “doesn’t ever see herself getting in a relationship” and “dating just isn’t for her.” She’s 30 and has never been with anyone. FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, my 5-year-old daughter said "Mommy, why doesn't anyone wanna marry you?" I've been asking myself the same question for all too many years. FML
Today, I realized my daughter has been in longer relationships than I have. FML
Today, the girl I’ve had a crush on for months told me she scored a Tinder date and she’s so excited to go out with him. Just last week, I worked up the courage to ask her to be my girlfriend and she told me she doesn’t want a relationship, and “doesn’t believe in love anymore.” FML
Today, my daughter has spent the last few hours moaning that the boy she’s known since they were 4 years-old got a girlfriend instead of asking her out. She’s known him for almost 20 years. If she liked him all that time, she should have asked him out herself instead of moaning at me. FML
Today, after crying after remembering how horribly wrong it went, 10 years ago, with the only person I was ever able to trust enough to let them get close to me, and how no amount of therapy seems to help me, I read an FML about how nobody wants to date a 30 year-old who has never dated. I'm 29 and might as well give up. FML
Today, I got turned down by a woman I like because she said a man in his mid 30’s who’s not already married with kids is a major red flag. I would very much like to be married with kids but it’s just never happened. FML
Today, my eldest daughter announced she was getting divorced. She never even told me she was married. FML
Today, I found out my 20 year-old daughter has a 46 year-old boyfriend. She met him at her job. When I objected, she told me that I can’t tell her “heart” what to do because she’s “grown” and “in love.” I had to teach her how to wash and she still leaves dirty pads on the floor, but sure, she’s “in love.” FML
Today, my daughter is twelve and doesn’t have a single friend, despite being kind and sweet. When I asked her why, she said, “All the other kids want me to die.” FML
Today, my daughter's 14-year-old boyfriend confessed, in front of her, that he only went out with her so he might have a chance to date me. My daughter isn't speaking to me. FML
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Jessica Carey 11
failing to see how this has any negative effect on you 🤷♀️
lilacgold 16
So? It's her life, and being asexual and/or aromantic is valid. If she's happier not dating anyone, that's her business.
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Jessica Carey 11
failing to see how this has any negative effect on you 🤷♀️
Billsonhamsen 17
Failing to see something doesn't mean it doesn't exist. Are actions have huge impacts on others. I think even you can imagine the massive impact this would have on the lives of the parents.
Billsonhamsen 17
Forgive any grammatical issues. I use voice to text and a lot of times it makes simple mistakes.
IHaveThePower 18
Please ignore the thumbs up I gave you, because as a parent, the idea that your kid being queer (aro and\or ace) is hurting you is one of the most selfish contributions to child abuse I've ever heard, and you could not be more disgusting.
Anderling 33
Ah, yes. How dare she make a decision about her own life that makes her happy and not follow the societally-mandated path of getting hitched and popping out some kids so you can be a grandparent. The horror.
Billsonhamsen 17
Being a grandparents is a really big deal. You're right, it is still hurt decision. Her actions still affect others to some degree. Depending on what she does it has a huge impact on others. It makes total sense to be disappointed by the choices that other people make. It doesn't mean we don't like those people or that we hate those people but to deny that it has any impact or to mock someone for being sad about someone else's decision is choosing to not see what's obviously there.
Bogrbon 27
Dude (or dudette) - back off. No one has the right to be a grandparent. Pressuring children into having grandchildren is just being a scum bag. Your children have a right to make life altering decisions themselves, without worrying about what their parents might think for a week or two a year they come visit rather than the other 50+ a year where they are on full-bore parenting duty the whole time.
lilacgold 16
So? It's her life, and being asexual and/or aromantic is valid. If she's happier not dating anyone, that's her business.
Billsonhamsen 17
None of us own our lives completely as our lives have huge impacts on other people. We owe tons to people around us. I think you would agree if we had a conversation about this even if we disagree on exactly what we owed to the people around us. Owing nothing to the people around us would mean that we can do anything we want anytime we want. It's too late for you to use the argument that as long as you're not hurting anyone you can do anything you want. I'm sure you probably can't see how that's the case cuz you can't see very much based on your comment. Several ways how that argument would be invalid including the fact that whether or not someone is being injured or damaged is extremely subjective and there are many ways that someone can influenced by our actions.
Hangryko 32
That's your problem. She doesn't owe you anything. She's finding her own happiness in a world she never consented to be a part of.
Billsonhamsen 17
Wow I think I might be a psychic. Hmm, Yes I can see it now. I can see in your past when you found someone guilty of something unsavory because they didn't fight hard enough to stop it and we're implicitly consenting to it.
Billsonhamsen 17
Don't worry too much though, I don't believe in psychics.
Hangryko 32
@Billsonhamsen - What are you talking about? Seriously, shut up. Nobody cares what you think, you entitled bigot.
coolrunnings1021 14
Maybe they want grandkids 🤔
Billsonhamsen 17
Yeah. It's not crazy to think that somebody wants something out of life. It's also not crazy to think that you want your kids to be happy doing something that has made you happy. Young people in every generation seem to imagine their life will be happiest if they indulge in every whim and pleasure that they desire. Not everyone grows out of that phase but almost everyone grows out of that phase. Eventually most people see that relationships bring us the happiest times of our lives. Some people say garbage like whatever makes you happy but in reality no cultures are that dramatically different from each other. It might feel that way sometimes but if you stand back just a little practically all cultures across practically all times have looked very very similar.
Jall8089 9
I’m a mom of 3 daughters in their 20’s, and I get it. I’m a widow, and I think that gives me an extra sense of wanting to see my kids “settled.” And I get wanting grandkids, which I would guess is part of this for you, too. BUT it’s her life and she has to do what’s right for her. You wouldn’t want her in a bad relationship just for the sake of being in one. Would you want her in a relationship just to make YOU feel better, even if it was making her unhappy? It’s OK if she never is. As parents, we can’t expect our kids to be us - we can’t expect them to have the same dreams and goals. Don’t damage your relationship with her by trying to push her.
Billsonhamsen 17
OP clearly stated that she wanted to cause damage to her relationship. It's right there in the first line.
Jessica Carey 11
how in the actual **** does "not seeing herself in a relationship" and "dating not being for her" translate into "I want to cause you emotional harm?" I think that just might be the dumbest statement I've ever heard in my life and I've heard some doozies 🤦♀️🤣🤣🤣
Hangryko 32
@Billsonhamsen - No, it doesn't. Work on your reading comprehension.
sirrubberduckie 37
What are you even talking about?
Crowned Sataness 12
she may be asexual and/or aromantic. and that's perfectly valid and perfectly fine. what you want for her isn't necessarily what's best for her. and if it's an issues of grandkids, she doesn't owe you any. I want grandkids too but they're not coming anytime soon for multiple and valid reasons and those are my children's choices.
QueenSaru 28
Relationships? In this economy? All jokes aside though, if she has a happy and fulfilled life then you've done your job as a parent, and her not wanting a relationship has no affect on you. You're not entitled to grandkids if this what this is about. As a parent your whole goal should be that your child is loved and happy. End of story.
idragosani 17
It's her choice, not yours
Nolongeracriminal 16
With mine and my sisters life styles, our parents have come to terms with us not having kids. They are content with having grandfurkids. Along with many health problems, it's not necessarily something I nor my sister wants to pass on. Just look at it as population control in its best form. We as a world are already over populated and the US likes to feed other countries before their own.