By ashleigh_anarchy - 21/02/2012 01:05 - Australia

Today, someone actually thought it was appropriate to compare my mother's death to the death of their cat. FML
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ashleigh_anarchy 7

Just to follow things up. It has only been a month since she passed away. She was pretty much my best friend. She had been sick for all of my life and I looked after her for as long as I remember. In the last three months she was completely bedridden. She was a very strong woman and was expected to live 20 years less than she did, but I absolutely couldn't believe it when she died because of how much she carried on and of course I cared about it more than anything. It was the hardest thing I've ever experienced, and am still experiencing. The cat in question was a stray cat, and I posted this because why the **** would I post an FML on the day she died? I can tell you now I was doing a lot more important things. This is my reaction to an idiot one month later, who said 'Sorry about your mum. I know how you feel, my cat died'. Nothing should be more important than the relationship with your mother. If you never got to have a good relationship with yours, I'm very sorry. But yeah, I have lost pets and I was distraught but NOTHING can compare. If you haven't lost a close parent, you can't imagine.

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Pentium_4 27

that's terrible. i'm sorry OP. some people don't put things into perspective

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KatieKupcake4195 9

FYL. While our pets are very dear to us and pretty much like family, nothing can compare to the death of a parent. My mommy died 1 year and 4 months ago and I'm still incredibly traumatized by it. I won't even go to my old church anymore because that's where my mom's funeral was and it's hard for me to go into her room. Hell, it's hard for me just to be at home because we lived there together (I'm only 16 so yea :P) Sorry for your loss OP. :(

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N0vemberaccou_19 4

I'm really sorry for your loss, that you had to go through that.

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KatieKupcake4195 9

Thanks. It's been rough but I know I'll see her again someday. That's what keeps me going. That, and the fact that I want to live the rest of my life making her proud. My song that I "dedicated" to her after she passed away is Second & Sebring by Of Mice & Men. That's the song I live by :)

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micahsmommy 13

For some reason people feel like they have to be able to relate to whatever situation you're going through even if they haven't experienced anything close to it. Personally if I'm going through a hard time all I want is someone to say they are there for me if I want a hug or to talk.

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superguppy19 3

I would not even question punching them in the face I would just do it

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MissHayleyJames 7

To some people the death of a pet can be a much bigger deal than the death of a family member of they're not close or if the family member treated them like shit. My dogs are worth more to me than my older brother and I'll cry more over them than him. Also like someone else said, maybe that's the biggest death a person has felt before so that's all they have to compare it to. They still shouldn't say that to someone, but it might be true for them. A pet can mean as much to them, if not more, than a parent means to you so while it's a legitimate comparison to them, they just need to keep it to themselves. If they do say something like that to you, don't get pissed and just think that to them that pet is worth as much as your parent is to you.

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kawaiisakura 12

Im not close to my dad at all. So i doubt id shed a tear at his death-i hate him. 7 months ago i watched my cat of 7 years die slowly and painfully. I hyperventilated and cried for half an hour. Shes always been there for me, something my parents havent been. They yell if i show weakness. My cats love me no matter what and always r there for me. So id probably cry much more for them than my parents. And i hate people who think cats r replacable. Not one cat ive had has ever had the same personality. Not even close. They r more family to me than my blood family r.

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cooLING 0

OP, I empathize fully with you. In my case, the person compared my Dad's slow death to that of a dying dog. This person may have meant well but if they have a history of comments like these, ditch them. Even if you feel sorry for that person, just ditch them. You don't need any more idiots in your life than there probably already is.

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HannahWho 8

My grandmother died three years ago, I cried once. I miss her, sure, and she meant a lot to me. But we were never that close. However, when I was 12 my "best friend" was hit by a car. I sat on the side of the road watching my dog die as she tried to crawl into my lap. That traumatized me. There is something about the death of a dog that, when you witness it, can seem more real than the death of a father. It has something to do with the age I was and how close I was to that dog. It might not seem real to you, but losing an emotional connection to something you cherish and watching it get destroyed and taken away can be just as big as the death of your father. Such as, watching a house you grew up in burn down, or losing the car that belonged to your mother. It is not about what died, it is about how it effected you.

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cooLING 0

I watched my dad die of Alzheimer's. I think that's traumatic enough. When you lose a human someone who was a lot closer to you than your grandmother, I think you'll feel a bit differently. I understand you were traumatized but I don't think a pet death compares to losing the person that raised you or had a large impact on your life. In other words, yes, some people consider pets as children but that can never compare to a human-to-human relationship. Have you lost a parent? I can't understand how you seem to think that that experience seems more real than losing a parent to you unless you actually have lost one. Either way, I think I loved my dad a tad more than a pet.

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MissHayleyJames 7

You may have loved your dad more than a pet but not everyone does. I'll be just as devastated when my dogs die as when my dad does. I'll be more devastated when my dogs die than when my brother dies. It's different for everyone.

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saksxalmo 20

#129, I agree with #132. You can't condemn people because they feel differently from you. I'm not very close to any of my family, so I don't think I will (and in the past, I haven't been) be very upset if any of them die. I was more upset when my bird, which I had weaned myself, died than when my uncle killed himself. And you can't say that something's impact on your life and personality determines how much you're upset when it dies-- if that were true, no one would care when they had miscarriages or lost young children...

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cooLING 0

MpNote that I said 'person who raised you or had a large impact on your life'. I didn't say 'parent' there for a reason. I know not everyone is close to their family. I don't believe you guys wouldn't be deeply impacted if someone really close, be it family or not, died. Siblings also do not count. A lot of people hate their sibling's guts out lol, including me.

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cooLING 0

*Note You guys really need to actually read comments rather than just blast off.

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saksxalmo 20

#160-- If that's true, then why don't pets count? Pets have a huge impact on your life. That also doesn't explain grief over miscarriages, which technically have relatively small impacts on your life, yet can still cause a lot of grief.

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saksxalmo 20

#160-- Also, if you're going to be picky about your comment, just because someone raises you doesn't mean you necessarily love them, that they had an impact on your life (you said "or", not "and"), or that you will be very upset when they die. Some people are raised by sh*tty people. Some people aren't close to the people who raise them.

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TTEmeraldRaven 3

Who's to say your mothers life is anymore valuable than someone or something else's life? You love and miss your mother, I understand that and am sorry for your loss. However, there are people in the world who will think differently than you, just as you do of them.

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fadingfaith 4

This fml sounds very familiar. Wasn't it an old lady last time who said that?

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kimono_fml 17

Whoever voted YDI will surely get theirs. Sincerely sorry for your loss OP

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ktchem 0

well I think it depends on what exactly was being "compared." for example, where they both unexpected deaths? was this person comparing in order to comfort you? if so, get over yourself and welcome people into your life who are trying to help you. if this person was just being a douche, then F*** them. and sorry for you loss and cat person's loss.

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