By ashleigh_anarchy - 21/02/2012 01:05 - Australia

Today, someone actually thought it was appropriate to compare my mother's death to the death of their cat. FML
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ashleigh_anarchy 7

Just to follow things up. It has only been a month since she passed away. She was pretty much my best friend. She had been sick for all of my life and I looked after her for as long as I remember. In the last three months she was completely bedridden. She was a very strong woman and was expected to live 20 years less than she did, but I absolutely couldn't believe it when she died because of how much she carried on and of course I cared about it more than anything. It was the hardest thing I've ever experienced, and am still experiencing. The cat in question was a stray cat, and I posted this because why the **** would I post an FML on the day she died? I can tell you now I was doing a lot more important things. This is my reaction to an idiot one month later, who said 'Sorry about your mum. I know how you feel, my cat died'. Nothing should be more important than the relationship with your mother. If you never got to have a good relationship with yours, I'm very sorry. But yeah, I have lost pets and I was distraught but NOTHING can compare. If you haven't lost a close parent, you can't imagine.

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Pentium_4 27

that's terrible. i'm sorry OP. some people don't put things into perspective

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kei1108 13

I'm sorry, OP! 1.) for your mother's death & 2.) because some just don't know how to comfort... *facepalm*

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Reality_bites 14

Personally I find in these situations people just dont know what to say. They mean well but they can come out with the most stupidest comments. And that comments can be hurtful even when the person making the comment has good intentions.

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AngryBeaver32 8

I agree. If you don't know what to say to someone who is grieving then do something that shows the person that you're there for them. Cooking them a meal, letting them vent or just a big hug can say without words what you know you won't be able to articulate correctly.

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ilovefall10 21

I'm sorry about your mom OP. Maybe that person never really had a good mom and the closest thing to family was their cat. I'm sure that they didn't mean any harm by it . Maybe they were trying to say something else but it came out wrong.

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marscm55 11

The person compared if to that because they were trying to tell you that they understand how it feels to have someone they love to be taken away. Just because you may not understand that love for animals can still be painful doesn't make any less of it. Everyone feels pain over death. Don't take it as a slap in the face

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Good_old_Grim 8

Its a ******* cat... if that's all they've ever lost they don't know shit and have no business talking about loss.

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alpacamybooks 11

Thank you. You're like the only voice of reason in this whole thread.

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Ray_of_midnight 22

yeah...they were trying to express sympathy and it just came out inappropriately. Open mouth, insert foot. F their L too. Hopefully OP can forgive them, they were just trying to be nice.

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avalon24 18

While fighting with my boyfriend once he compared the death of my dad to the death of his dog. People can be cruel and stupid, as in my boyfriend's case, and some don't realize what they said, thinking they are being sympathetic when they aren't.

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simplyunique907 4

how rude! people should really think about what theyre saying...

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simplyunique907 4

op should have back handed him and walked away. like a boss.

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thelightforest 4

It's a bit bad to compare, but feeling true compassion for an animal is nothing to laugh at. That cat may have been as close to that person as your mother was to you. No of fence to everyone here, bit from what I can tell, you're all close minded assholes! 8D Sorry for your loss OP. sorry for that other person too.

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simplyunique907 4

i guess people that dont have pets wouldnt be able to relate..

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CursedSilent 1

Um, cat does not equal reason for life and by calling everyone names, doesn't that make you as equally guilty?

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LostTragedy 7

I'm sure she wasn't trying to be hurtful. I live on my own, with my dogs and cats. And one of the cats and once of the dogs I've had for almost 15 years. If I lost either, I'd be devastated. My dog was there when I was growing up, as was my cat. When I'd be sobbing in my room, both of them would come to me. They were there for me, as weird as it sounds. I'm sorry about your mum OP, but I am sure that the person meant no harm, and was only trying to be empathetic.

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AllyCat23 9

You shouldn't just assume they were trying to undermine your mother's death. Chances are they were just trying to help you feel better by letting you know that you weren't alone in your grieving.

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XiaoWu 4

I'm so sorry for your loss. I've lost my mom to, and the pain is something you can't even imagine if you haven't been there. I've lost very dear pets to, mind you, but it really can't be compared. Not even close...

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