By sleepyolivia - 01/07/2016 04:10 - United States - San Antonio
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Tell her she's fat and maybe it'll stop.
People in high school or college often talk like this while there is nothing serious (yet) going on. However, no harm in giving the counseler a heads up about the girl and tell whar you have heard. Its a win win really, either you get someone who has an (developing) eating disorder or the girl realises eating disorders are a serious mental health problem and she shouldnt talk like that.
or instead of all of this you could just tell her simply I don't agree with you, you are very skinny and could probably eat more. However i really want to follow this class and want to pay attention. He is not automatically responsible for this girl just because she sits next to him.
A few things I forgot/couldn't include: - I am recovering from anorexia. - I'm assigned next to her in a class at which we can eat. - This girl is actually a friend of a very good friend, so I see her relatively often. - I've seen her eat on multiple occasions. In fact, once her friends were getting up to leave at lunch and she started eating and told them if they left she'd stop.
When I was in my worst bout of anorexia and extremely underweight I would only eat when my friends were there to make me feel like I deserved to eat. You having an eating disorder doesn't negate hers. Grow up.
What the above said- your previous eating disorder doesn't cancel hers out. If her talking about it is upsetting to you, that's another reason to bring it to a counselor's attention- so you can be moved away from her. That said, like the above said, some people with eating disorders can't eat unless people are around, just like some people can't eat if people are around. Go to your school's counselor, give her their name, and explain what you know about the situation, please. I'm not telling you to stay around someone that is causing you issues with recovery from your own disorder- I'm pleading with you to try to get her help before she makes herself ill. After that, if the counselor doesn't have you moved away from her, go to your teacher for that class, and explain it to them. They don't do anything about it? Go to the principal and explain the situation. If they don't do anything about it? Go to your parents and the girl's parents, and the school board. Schools are supposed to provide students with a safe environment- that includes psychologically. You are well within your rights to request a seat change because someone else's behavior is risking triggering a relapse for you.
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Get her name and give it to the school counselor.
Sounds like her problems are greater than yours!