By Anonymous - 03/07/2016 18:31 - United States - Ellsworth
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The road to life has many obstacles and choices, no one said the path you chose to take would be easy, I would recommend counseling...
This is why you absolutely HAVE to make sure you're ready for the emotional baggage that comes with having a child. I'm assuming you gave up the child because you are either incredibly young and can't support yourself and child, or you don't see yourself raising children. Either way, you did the right thing by giving the baby to parents that will give him or her the best possible care. Your hormones are all over the place right now, and you may feel depressed, angry, regretful, or just straight sad over the next couple of months, and that's okay. You're allowed to ride the emotional roller coaster. Just remember that what you did was what you felt was the best option for your child, and that they will grow up with a family that loves them. And who knows, maybe one day you'll be able to take responsibility for a baby, and can raise a family of your very own.
This made me cry. I never gave my kids up for adoption but I gave their father full custody due to the fact I can't support them. No matter how much I tried and work my butt off, I wasn't able to have them. The best thing I ever did is having them live with their father. I miss them very much but it's okay. I agree, it's going to be hard and the emotional rollercoaster never ends but you did the best thing you can ever do. We are proud of you OP!
Thank you, Squilliam.
I'm very sorry. I couldn't imagine having to make that choice. But it's best for you and your baby in the long run, do things you enjoy stay busy keep your mind off of things.
i understand OP. Material instincts are a bitch but remember why your doing this. You aren't doing this for your own personal gain, you aren't doing this because it was annoying. You did this to provide your baby the life/happiness you know you can't provide. Many people can't do that and the kid ends up screwed up whether it's mentally, financially, ect. I consider you a strong person because you were able to accept that and make that decision many can't. Nothing i can say will fix anything.... but just remember you did it for your baby not you.
I have no idea about your situation but the fact that you put your baby up for adoption suggests you aren't currently able to take care of one. Good on you OP for doing what you feel is the best thing possible for your baby, know that you did this out of love and definitely consider talking to someone about it, this isn't easy for anyone and you shouldn't have to do it alone. Wishing you, and the baby you just gave the best possible start you could, the best of luck OP.
You gave your baby it's best chance and huge kudos to you for doing the right thing if you knew you weren't able to take care of it. It's going to take a long time to come to terms with this and I can almost guarantee that it is something you will never get over, and really, you shouldn't. You should always remember how strong you were able to be for your baby and use it to keep yourself on track. Get yourself to a place where this wouldn't have to be an option if there ever happens to be a next time and use this as your motivator. I've never had to give up a baby out of necessity, but I was a surrogate last year, so I do have a bit of understanding when it comes to giving birth for someone else, and even though I did it willingly and purposefully I still miss the little guy and I have a new want for more children, the knowledge that I was able to give new life to a couple who never could have experienced parenthood without me helps fill the emptiness. PS. I don't actually want more children, babies just bring out that side of me, and it aches sometimes, but then I snap back to reality and remember how the two I already have are a lifetime's worth of insanity as it is.
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This is why you absolutely HAVE to make sure you're ready for the emotional baggage that comes with having a child. I'm assuming you gave up the child because you are either incredibly young and can't support yourself and child, or you don't see yourself raising children. Either way, you did the right thing by giving the baby to parents that will give him or her the best possible care. Your hormones are all over the place right now, and you may feel depressed, angry, regretful, or just straight sad over the next couple of months, and that's okay. You're allowed to ride the emotional roller coaster. Just remember that what you did was what you felt was the best option for your child, and that they will grow up with a family that loves them. And who knows, maybe one day you'll be able to take responsibility for a baby, and can raise a family of your very own.
The road to life has many obstacles and choices, no one said the path you chose to take would be easy, I would recommend counseling...