I would expect nothing less than for a guy to ask for my blessing to marry my daughter. It's a nice tradition and there's nothing wrong with having some manners and civility.

94, as a female I agree with you completely. I love having my bf do small things like that and I do love cooking for him on occassion or being at the door with a beer in hand for him because I dont mind. I love him. he does the same for me! I do believe asking permission is rude toward her. he should just ask her! Then together (if she says yes), they should go to each of their parents and say "we're getting married and we want your blessing. meaning that what ever you may have against us becoming married..now is the time to say it so we can start working on these issues as a family and the wedding can be a happy occasion".

Asking the dad's permission is generally a good gesture, but I also think it's a bit outdated and unnecessary. Adults are able to make their own decisions, and if two people want to get married, the parents don't need to get permission. I can understand how the dad might think his asking permission seems somewhat childish. ("Can I marry your daughter, pretty please?")

I agree with the dad! You should be asking your girlfriend, not her father. She is not a cow to be traded. Not all traditions are outdated and sexist, but this particular one is.

Most parents, and girls, would appreciate that. It shows respect towards them to ask for their blessing. I think you should marry her anyways!

You did not deserve that at all! It was polite of you to ask for her hand in marriage.

sounds like he gave you the go ahead, imo. His opinion seems to have rendered your question null, rrleasing you from your burden.

you should ask both of her parents for their blessing, but not for permission

Being very traditional myself, I don't think asking for permission to marry his daughter was in any way disrespectful and of course you don't see her as "property", because I think at least letting the parents know you will propose in some way is a sign of respect and that you value their opinion, because remember your not only marrying her, but you will now be connected to her family so it would be nice to be on the same page as them. That being said, I'd say it would have been better to ask for his blessing instead. Some people may see even that as a sexist or backward act, but everybody thinks differently. And lastley, congrats OP.

Does anyone else think there may be more to this story? What he did something to piss him off or what have you.