Today, my wife is furious with me because I would rather our teenage son see a counselor instead of a psychiatrist. I want our son to learn healthy coping mechanisms for life, not just take pills to make everything go away. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, my doctor lectured me for 20 minutes about 'drug seeking behaviour' when I asked for more anti-anxiety medication. I need it because my shithead 15 year-old son found my pills and took them to get wasted. I need the meds in the first place because he's constantly pulling shit like this. FML
Today, my husband is furious with me for going behind his back and getting our son a psychological evaluation. His primary care physician, a psychologist, and a pediatric psychiatrist all agree that our son is AuDHD. My husband says no because he “doesn’t believe in that crap.” FML
Today, my mother threw a fit because the psychologist she got me suggested I visit a psychiatrist. Apparently, it's my fault because I "choose" to be so "crazy". FML
Today, my wife changed her mind on us having kids, because her eight year-old son said he liked being an only child. She says that my devastated and angry reaction is incredibly unattractive and immature, and that I need to accept compromise. FML
Today, a licensed child psychologist with 20 years of experience threw my son out after his first appointment, with the immortal line, “You must be taking the piss, there’s a church in town, you’re gonna need their help more than mine.” He’s probably right. FML
Today, after constantly shaming me for my ADHD and anti-anxiety pills, my family finally convinced me to drop $250 on their trusted psychiatrist friend because they thought he’d talk me out of taking them. He recommended higher doses of everything. FML
Today, my 17-year-old, clinically depressed son was having terrible anxiety about the first day of school tomorrow. I tried to be a good parent, so I took the day off to console him. That proved to be a bad idea, because apparently, putting your son's mental health first is a valid reason for your boss to fire you. FML
Today, my coworker was going on and on about how her son was nice and got good grades but that she needed to find him a therapist because he's too shy in class, and how she didn't want her friends to think badly of her. She's a counselor. I sat in silence for almost an hour, because all I could think was, "WTF? Poor kid." FML
Today, my wife is mad at me because she claims I don’t spend any time bonding with her son. It’s as though she refuses to understand that just because we are in different rooms, on separate PlayStations, doesn’t mean we’re not playing the same game, and talking through headphones for hours at a time. FML
Today, my son confessed to me that the reason he'd rather die single is because my husband and I are so toxic to each other, as we end up arguing over even petty things, yet we still refuse to divorce after 30 years. Therefore, we're to blame for "leaving him traumatized and terrified of marrying". He is 22. FML
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idragosani 17
Are you qualified to make that kind of decision? Some things can't be counseled away.
Rake 18
Your wife is totally right. There are not the same, psychiatric treatment works together with a psychologist. You need both, one to help balance the brain and the other is to treat the root cause.
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idragosani 17
Are you qualified to make that kind of decision? Some things can't be counseled away.
tiptoppc 21
True, i’ve been through both of these scenarios (as the patient), and for many people, like me, it takes BOTH of these. Pills aren’t a fix, but neither is dealing with tough issues through just talking. Sometimes it takes one, to face the other. Like climbing a mountain. You don’t just suddenly start climbing. You plan, get the resources, and the support, and once you have all your equipment and support, then you start the difficult journey, otherwise trying to hang on with inadequate support leaves you going over the cliff, and trust me, the plummet will worry everyone else, but the rocks at the bottom will mess you up when you hit them. I hate pills, but without them, a simple hill can look like a mountain when you are so far down, all you can see is your feet. Don’t write them off. They are only tools. But combined together, they make better success and readiness to deal with difficult issues.
Rake 18
Your wife is totally right. There are not the same, psychiatric treatment works together with a psychologist. You need both, one to help balance the brain and the other is to treat the root cause.
Charlie Given 28
To put it more simply for you psychiatrists and psychologists fix the problem ,while counselors and therapists are for after maintenance of the issue. your wife knows what she's doing stop being prejudiced to the mental health field.
alexwagner21 25
People like you are the reason my mom had to sneak me to a psychiatrist when I was in high school; my dad had the same line of thinking as you. If you think all forms of mental illness can be counseled away, then it’s very clear you’ve never dealt with mental illness, and you’re extremely blessed. It’s a chemical imbalance. Your logic is equivalent to not letting your child take an antibiotic for strep throat because he should “get rid of the illness in a healthy way.” Absolutely ridiculous. Your wife will end up getting your child help without you.
Sonotsuave 37
You’re supposed to do a mix of medication and therapy. It did wonders for my anxiety and depression. You’re both technically right but your son needs to consider both.