Today, my best friend invited my ex to eat lunch with her. I wouldn't have found out had I not bumped into them while they were there. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, my date bumped into her ex-husband, who decided to join us for the rest of the dinner. FML
Today, my ex, who I still live with, invited he’s best friend (a drama starter) and his new love interest over for dinner while I was at work. Now I’m outside, waiting for them both to leave. FML
Today, I attended my college roommate's wedding. We were best friends for 4 years, but have only talked occasionally since graduation. I was looking forward to meeting her new husband, having heard so much about him during our conversations. Turns out she forgot to mention he's my ex. FML
Today, my old high school mates organised a dinner hangout so that my recent ex, who is part of our group, could introducing her new boyfriend to us. I was late and the only remaining seat available was next to the new boyfriend. FML
Today, I found out that my best friend was having a birthday party and I wasn't invited. I had just finished planning a surprise party for her. FML
Today, I accidently accepted a lunch invitation from an old friend, because I forgot what they're like. Here comes another hour and a half monologue about how great they are. FML
Today, it was my best friend's birthday party. Her boyfriend and I agreed to organize a dinner date to surprise her and celebrate. They celebrated, but forgot me until they arrived at the restaurant and saw the dinner reservation under my name. FML
Today, I went on a blind date set up by my best friend. When I got there, my "date" was my ex. My best friend knew, and she thought it would be "funny" to see how we would react. FML
Today, I told my friend that I insisted on to remaining single, but yet he still wanted to introduce me to a friend of his. Turns out it was my ex, whom I haven't talked to for 5 years. FML
Today, I went out to lunch with two old friends from high school. While at the restaurant, we saw a girl who we graduated with. The girl gave both of them hugs, then introduced herself to me. FML
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zipJohn 16
This doesn't seem like a huge issue, unless the breakup was awful and/or very recent. I don't see why your friend isn't allowed to be friends with an ex of yours... Of course if those were her intentions.
JHPugh 19
Kinda violates the bro-code, never date a bros ex. Not sure about the female version of that code though
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Comments (28)
Tripartita 45
I don't know if the metaphysics check out, OP. I mean, is knowledge predicated on observation? Now, let's say your best tree and ex tree fell in the woods together, would they make a sound without you bumping into them?
crudeandrudeguy 29
I one day hope to achieve your level of insanity
_Desiderata_ 9
OP, trust your gut. If you sense that your best friend was not there "for the right reasons" (I watch The Bachelor/ette way too much) then you should consider having a serious conversation with your friend about her intentions. Speaking from personal experience, I found out that my friend was regularly having lunch with my ex, and at first I brushed it off as nothing (in denial of the gut feeling that something was wrong). Eventually, it all blew up when this friend and I were going out one night and she decided to bring my ex *without ever asking me if I was okay with it*. I have not spoken to her since that night. I hope that you never have to experience this same kind of betrayal. Trust your gut. Talk to your friend before it's too late.
Arnvs 8
You're one hell of a drama queen aren't you? No need to completely abandon them just because they talk to your ex, if you're that uncomfortable than just explain this and leave, isn't that big a deal..
_Desiderata_ 9
I guess my wording wasn't clear -- she brought my ex as her DATE without ever telling me beforehand. Also, as another commenter said: "This is fml, which insinuates a bad case scenario." Please learn to read between the lines sometimes.
crudeandrudeguy 29
24- I had just started to come to your side of the argument until your snarky last line. The thing about reading between the lines is that there are 100 different ways to interpret it.
Arnvs 8
No, I understood perfectly. However, if they were really a friend you wanted to keep, it seems like just your friend dating them is not the real reason you left. Unless your ex is an absolute asshole, than I understand.
URBeingLied2 23
Hold up. Is your birthday coming up soon? This just happened to me from the opposite perspective
soulreaper12296 28
What's the issue? Just because you guys broke up means they can no longer be friends? You sound like one of those people where you expect all your friends to hate your ex, just because they're your ex.
memestasquaper 10
I hang out with my best friend's ex a bit. She's cool.
OtakuTaco 15
So... your friend is also friends with your ex? So what?
jcash52426 5
I think we need a few more details. If you were all friends then before the break up then it was ok for him/her to see your ex. If you all weren't friend then whomever was friends friend should have checked with the third person
imnotadinosaur 10
So for everyone attacking OPs FML. Let's go ahead and make up a scenario for everyone to see how OP should have at least got the heads up that the ex and BEST friend (which does make a difference) were seeing each other on a friend and/or non friend level (meaning a sexual level). Okay so you were dating this person for x amount of time and you were head over heels for them and something happened whether minor or not that caused you two to break up. X amount of time passed by and you come to find out that your BEST friend, keep in mind he/she knew about that relationship and knew about your feelings, was meeting with your ex in secret. I say secret because you had no clue about it and if that truly was your best friend, then you should have known about it because a best friend is someone you can share everything with. What you're telling me is, you wouldn't feel any type of distrust, hurt, betrayal, etc.? You wouldn't feel any type of way? Well it doesn't matter anyways what you feel cause clearly OP isn't you and he/she felt some type of way. So be a little bit more considerate of OPs feelings cause clearly their friend didn't.
pandaxpress 19
If people were thinking with their right heads, they would understand that meeting your best friends ex for lunch is a big deal. If I'm friends with someone and their ex, I generally speak with my friend about how they feel. I also would make it clear my intentions of just having lunch and being friends. If you can't be honest about what your doing and with whom, it's probably shady and you know that those actions would hurt someone deeply.
JustTheTruth42 13
This is completely stupid. Whatever happens between the friend and the ex is between them and them alone. It doesn't matter in the slightest what feelings the op may or may not have as the person is and ex and can see whoever whether romantically or otherwise. And no, if I found out a friend was spending time with an ex I wouldn't care because she would be an ex and I'd have no interest in her.
HylianWarrior 21
Why is this an FML, except maybe for your friend, "Today, I realized my best friend thinks she needs a say in who I go to lunch with. FML" I don't even know what to vote on this, because I don't really see why it should matter
mkcherry 14
I can't believe how many people don't see this as a big deal. No man who has ever been with my best friend could ask me out to lunch nor would I entertain the idea of asking them. My best friend is like a sister to me and I can't imagine being remotely interested in any man shed dated, just too gross / awkward.
iiSpitMarbles 16
Agree 200%
JustTheTruth42 13
It's not a big deal. It's irrational people like you who try to make it one.
sweetpotato301 7
I agree with 42. I wouldn't care if my best friend wanted to date my ex. The only scenarios I can really see it being an issue is if the ex was abusive or if I still had feelings for them.