Today, my mother-in-law got her driver's license, despite being prone to fainting, seizures, and being on so much medication that she sometimes forgets where she is. She now wants to drive us to all our family functions, and my father-in-law won't object because he doesn't want to damage her self-esteem. FML
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PhoenixChick 26
Hey, OP here! You know, this might be a comment thread that saves lives. I had already decided to put my foot down on me or my husband ever riding with MIL, but...I hadn't thought about everyone else. And now I have. I do not live with my in-laws, but we live in the same town and I cannot drive at night so it gets awkward to refuse their offers when my husband can't take me somewhere. Funny thing is, there is no legal restrictions on my driving,the DMV keeps insisting I'm fine, but I know that my contacts and retinal disease give me issues with headlights and therefore I shouldn't. I'm fine during the day, but stay off the road at night. I'm careful because my eye disease is from my father, who kept driving at night when he shouldn't. Nearly killed himself in an accident. I know who my MIL's doctor is, and I'm going to call his office. She MUST have lied to the DMV, and I think it'll be easier to talk to her doctor than to the DMV. I just have to brace myself for if she finds out. Thank you all for the help. My in-laws are rather good at manipulation. I've known them for ten years, and they use MIL's medical issues to overrule literally everything. She has serious psych issues, and FIL is very protective of her feelings. To the point of letting her lie to my husband's doctors when he was in the ER because it made MIL "feel useful" to tell the doctor's things about my husband's health. She was making up all kinds of things about my husband's condition when he went in for emergency surgery, and when I corrected her I got yelled at by my father in law for making MIL "feel bad." Nevermind that her lies to the operating surgeon could have gotten my husband seriously hurt or killed. So yeah, this ends now. I'm not going to let her hurt anybody else if I csn help it. Wish me luck, I've got a fight on my hands...
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hotheadslav 17
Just try and make an excuse to drive yourself or to be in a different car, if you can't though, just try and break it to her easy. I would rather hurt her feelings than be in a fatal crash. You're stuck between a rock and a hard place OP. FYL
little_star78 13
Buckle up and hold on tight
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Comments (115)
itwasntme14 19
You and your spouse should put your foot down about it. I know I wouldn't let my parents drive if they would a danger to themselves and other drivers. Because just not riding with them won't help anyone but you.
randomguy76 14
Don't worry the DMV is the greatest department in the government. Obviously your mother-in-law is a very capable driver because the DMV never ever fails.(sarcasm)
militarybrat 21
They (dmv) cant help it if she lied to them.
dezman2000 21
Her self-esteem? He should be worried about not damaging your family's faces.
Hunter_the_Ninja 22
And I can't get mine because I can't parallel park?
donuts678 25
My condolences for your family
donuts678 25
Because you guys are not going to live through this experience.
MandieL 27
I wonder if reporting her would do anything. As horrible as it sounds, are her pride and self esteem worth someone's life? I would refuse to get in the vehicle with her if I were you.
militarybrat 21
Yes, it would actually. They will revoke her license.
countryb_cth 38
OP should report her to her doctor. Her doctor can get her license revoked.
gracehi 33
I was going to suggest just that. It doesn't sound horrible at all. Keeping her mother and family safe isn't even remotely horrible.
MandieL 27
I know keeping people safe isn't horrible at all. Just reporting someone in your family does. The idea that you need to go to point where you need to report anyone sucks, especially if it is family. I would hate to do it, but in this situation, I would.
beeferjay 34
YOLO! unless youre a zombie... or hindu
heartofhannah 28
What the **** dude?
RedPillSucks 33
lol, profile picture perfectly matches comment
beeferjay 34
simmer down turbo, youre harshin my buzz man
mads_fml 7
I'm pretty sure she should have put that on and gotten a restricted license at least....I mean you don't say you have perfect eyesight when you're close to legally blind just because you're embarrassed.
militarybrat 21
They always tested my eye sight at the dmv.
RedPillSucks 33
exactly, but they don't test for seizure or fainting, so they have to trust self reporting. just like getting a gun, there should at least be a medical background check for driving a car.
rebeccacmlc 22
An oversized ego isn't a excuse for putting your whole family in danger, which is what she will be doing ... Hope you find a way to fix the problem OP !
analise1998 25
don't risk going in the car with her driving