Today, my best friend, who I've been in love with for nearly a decade, asked me to help him set up an online dating profile. During our 4-hour conversation, as he waded through the profiles, he complained that it was impossible for him to find a girl to have a meaningful conversation with. FML
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EosThorn 7
OP here. I don't know if I'm doing this correctly, but here goes. Thank you for the encouraging comments, even the harsh ones. I'm aware of how ridiculous this sounds... Trust me. I have two good female friends who I'm sure are tired of me harping away on this. It hasn't been years of me staring at him through foggy windows, all sad. I've dated other people and so has he. It wasn't easy because truly, I love him. Circumstances just didn't allow for us to be together... Whether he wanted to or not. So, I chose to keep his friendship and not risk it. We are adults now and things have changed. It's perfect, but I feel like so much time has passed that he no longer sees me as a girl he'd want to be with now that its possible. We have a special bond and as much as it devastates me to think he would reject me, it would kill me to see everything we have just turn into something ugly.
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anonymous_365 12
Make your own profile and get his attention, OP!
TogeBara 12
These guys are saying to make your own profile, which is cute and all, but what if he finds someone else's before yours? No, the best option is to be upfront and talk to him about your feelings.
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Comments (179)
PotatoUnicorn 8
TELL HIM!
bunny409 14
open your mouth.
mld4657 28
tell him how you feel
quickfingers100 15
Carpe diem my friend!
xLIGHTS_fml 23
I say YDI. 10 years and you never mustered the courage to ask? And in those 10 years has never showed you any signs? You need to move on, girl. No point in waiting on someone who will never come. The longer you wait on him, the longer you are missing out on other chances.
ShenaniganNinja 20
Everyone expects the guys to do all the asking. Also, a decade might be a bit long. Chances are you are in the friend zone. It exists for men and women alike. Either way good luck to you, and since I've been there and I know how much it sucks, FYL.
limabeans101029 21
Except that, in most cases, the "friend zone" is a load of crap. It's just people (both men and women) feeling entitled to a relationship because they're good to their friend. Your friend shouldn't have to like you or want a relationship with you just because you're nice to them.
erin37 27
You should probably just tell him how you feel OP.
safireonphire 2
that would have been a prime time to point out you are a girl that has meaningful conversation with him regularly
Rosebudx 32
After many, many years of liking one of my good friends, I finally told him about my feelings in February of '13. He paused, thanked me, and told me I should try online dating (again, I might add). Took his advice, talked to a bunch of dweebs and a couple of really nice fellas, stayed friends with my crush. Eventually he lost his temper at me for telling him about my online flings and asked me out himself just before Christmas. We've been together for nine months now. Keep your chin up, OP. Sometimes it just takes a while for boys to screw their heads on.
AloysiusWeasley 15
That's so sweet, thank you for sharing!
limabeans101029 21
If it's bothering you that much, just tell him! There's no point in letting it upset you for another decade. Either he'll feel the same way, which would be great, or he won't in which case you need to find a way to move on.