Today, I got back to work. Last week, my divorce was finalized and my last name is, once again, my maiden name. Since I'm a teacher, all my students will remember me by my ex-husband's last name. I get to be reminded every day that my marriage failed until everyone memorizes my maiden name. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I noticed that my mom still has me saved in her phone with my married name. I told her she could change it back to my maiden name. She said, "Not until it's legal!" My husband and I have been separated for more than 2 years and my divorce will be finalized in 2 days. She still won't change it. FML
Today, I noticed a prospective employer I had been networking with changed her last name on her e-mail signature. I wished the aquaintence congratulations on her new marriage. Her divorce was finalized this week. FML
Today, my wife changed her name back to her maiden name. Why? So people would stop asking questions about us. We have been married for 15 years. FML
Today, my boyfriend asked me to marry him, saying that the only thing he would change about me is my last name. I later told him that I wanted to keep my last name after the marriage. I'm now single again. FML
Today, I officially became a divorced marriage counselor. FML
Today, I received the newspaper from my hometown. My ex-husband's wedding announcement and picture were on the front page. His new wife has the same first name as me. All my Facebook friends from high school commented on how much weight I've lost and how good I look in my wedding photo. FML
Today, I work at the DMV. My ex-husband’s sister came in for a last name change. When I looked at the marriage license and her other documents, it was revealed that she was never his sister. My ex-husband is now her husband. Now I understand why they always spent time alone together. FML
Today, I called off my engagement, after finding out my fiancé is cheating on me. I recently started a new job, and in anticipation of getting married, I asked that my username include his surname. They can't be changed, so now I get to log in every day under that sorry bastard's surname. FML
Today, I found out my wife named our son after her ex-lover. FML
Today, my ex-husband officially became my stepdad. FML
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sandracore 15
Sucks for you, OP. but do they have to call you by name every time? Can't they just say 'miss' ?
A100893 30
Have them call you Ms. (Whatever letter your ex-husband's name started with) that way it isn't as painful.
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sandracore 15
Sucks for you, OP. but do they have to call you by name every time? Can't they just say 'miss' ?
AClassActx3 7
I say Miss all the time. Its easier than saying the teachers full name for nothing !
walmartpaysme 15
1 isn't that up to the kids...
ant1078 7
Also sucks that school just started this week >.>
SamanthaCassieL 10
There are schools that start in August, as well as some college courses run through the summer. Keep in mind, just because your school runs a certain way, doesn't mean the rest of em do too. Also she did say she was back at work, coming back to school is also coming back to work. And if she previously taught there last year (or even for years) then they will all know her married name vs. her maiden.
Bibliovore 26
It depends on where she is; some districts started two or more weeks ago. But if it just started, that's a good thing; less recent repetition for the students to unlearn. Of course, if I were a teacher undergoing a divorce, I think I'd've introduced myself in the new school year with my maiden name even if it wasn't wholly official yet. Perhaps the OP did the same.
Neorecon19 18
OP should have just started using her maiden name when the year started to prevent this from happening.
Inediblepeaches 15
33- I've been in school for a month. Not everyone started just this week.
outoftown 27
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sovetskiy 8
It might be just me but I think calling a teacher by only Miss is kind of rude. Doesn't it sound a little harsh?
HahaHokayThen 10
This happened last year, my teacher Mrs.Schmidt got a divorce but didn't fell us to call her by her maiden name or anything, everyone including staff called her Schmidt. This year everyone calls her Phillips & it's weird to hear (but we still run up to her & say "Schmidty!")
A100893 30
Have them call you Ms. (Whatever letter your ex-husband's name started with) that way it isn't as painful.
A100893 30
Like Ms. X
outoftown 27
This works if your intital is the same as your ex's. Otherwise, Ms <maiden name initial>. They'll get used to it. Some of the students likely have gone through this with their own parents. Good luck, OP.
PeeNaught 3
Try to look at it as a lesson learned vs a failed marriage; might make things a little easier to handle...that does suck though...
kishuu_fml 1
Never understood the concept of changing lastnames. I'd keep mine, married or not.
Crazberry 5
42- The concept was sort of transferred responsibility if you will. Just like the ring used to signify ownership. Well maybe not ownership, per se, but both things still signified that the bride belonged to the groom and his family. She would be their responsibility/ part of their family/ etc.
Crazberry 5
I hadn't scrolled all the way down before writing my comment. 26 explains it way better than I do :P
gc327072 31
I don't see the big deal. My mom changed hers, but let's her students still call her by my dad's last name. But she is a kindergarten teacher I guess...
kishuu_fml 1
Well visa versa if being married means being a part of the family. The groom too belong in the bride's family. Would he need to change his last name into hers? It's always the women who are stuck to the adapting process.
TrueTriage 16
That really sucks to be reminded like this... I hope you find the right match in the future OP they're out there! :)
GracesDelirium 9
This exact thing happened to my mom. Don't worry OP, it gets better.
Aug1508 9
I'm going through a divorce too but I didn't change my last name. The divorce itself is painful enough I can't being reminded about it everyday. But the kids don't know any better, and like other say it will get better.
expertsmilee 26
Just focus on being the best teacher you can to your little ones and try to put it out of mind as much as possible.
omfg_creepers 8
"Kids now if you only say my new name today I will bring you all toaster strudels!"
astralvagan 20
Bribery isn't a bad idea.... But then what happens on the day she forgets them? Or bring the wrong flavor that the fat kid in the back of the room doesn't like?
SonOfAMitch 14
Well, then she gets eaten! :D
marcranger 29
13, the fat kid in the back of the room didn't get fat by being picky!
astralvagan 20
I usually just called my teachers "miss" and left it at that.... See if that works.
walmartpaysme 15
Yeah... The kids are the one's talking to her... So... If She tells them to just call her miss, she should be able to get them to successfully call her by her new name. I still don't understand why a new group of students will be calling her by her old name. How do they know what it is? They weren't her students last year.
T1A2Z3 35
Maybe she teaches in a secondary school/ high school where she has the same students.
emag_eht 18
They probably heard her name before when the asked her last class how the homework was or it says it in the schedule they got at the beginning of the year. I don't think it's weird to know your teachers' names beforehand.
missamazinggg 12
30- she may have the same class. In my area certain teachers move up with her class. But that's just in my area, I don't think it happens much elsewhere.
Bibliovore 26
#30: Sometimes kids do have the same teacher for more than one year, especially in earlier grades, smaller schools, or specialized subjects. In my primary school system, grades were paired together -- first and second graders shared classes, third and fourth, and fifth and sixth. I had the same teacher for both fifth and sixth grade. I also had the same art, theatre, and Spanish teachers throughout high school.
CptZoe 10
I can't see where OP is from, but at High Schools in Scotland, there are loads of different teachers for one course, so you can easily get the same teacher. I had the same biology teacher for 6 years.
I_Has_A_Fishy 12
I'm sorry OP. That does sound like it would make the whole situation a bit more painful. Maybe instead of associating your old name with the end of your marriage you can try to associate it with a fresh start. I hope the year gets better for you.
mariet_fml 23
Maybe write it on the board? Wear a nametag? Spend a minute having everyone say your maiden name over and over? edit: #8's suggestion is way better.
mrsmaglietta 6
that sucks
TheMaster15 10
Wait I'm still on FML, right? Oh, I am. Of course it sucks!