Today, I deliberately didn't tell my therapist half of what I was going through because I didn't want to depress her. FML
JayCee500 tells us more.
I'm the OP. I posted this after my last session with my therapist--I'd realized that this particular person wasn't working for me because I didn't really connect with her to an extent where I'd be able to tell her all my problems. This is the first time I'm seeking therapy, and from what people have said, it sometimes takes a while to find someone you are truly comfortable with. Just to be clear--I don't think that my particular problems are at all special, and they aren't even that bad when compared with half the shit people I know go through. It was just getting to the point where I was deliberately excluding things that had happened to me/that I felt because I considered them too "pathetic" to share. You can probably guess that one of my problems is that I care way too much about how other people perceive me.
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persianninja 23
You should tell her, that's her job OP
ohcheriecherie 20
I've done that before, OP. at some point you gotta talk, or find a therapist you can open up to.
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Comments (115)
bv2332 10
She is a therapist.... No matter what you tell her she has heard worse.... You are not the saddest or most depressed person on the planet
Zebediabolical 45
... someone has to be.
Zebediabolical 45
If you're not going to be open and honest with your therapist you may as well just put your money in a pile and set fire to it. Of course, being open and honest with the therapist requires trust and forces you to put yourself in a vulnerable position. It ain't easy. But it's worth it.
codblueangel 4
You better tell them because otherwise they get paid for nothing and you are unhappy. You have to pay them and feel happy.
sandman2118 10
Tell her or tell me I think I will be fine an I love to help!
CaffieneKing 17
She can't help you that much if she doesn't know what's up. Like the others say, at some point open up. Everyone should have a shot at a long happy life and I hope you overcome whatever you're seeing her for. I wish you the best and I hope everything works out.
magziffer 5
A shot or two of bleach should help you perk up
willowfiasco 4
You stupid **** I bet they've heard 10x worse than what you have to say.
foxwasalamb 24
@86 and @87 if you dont have something nice to say, it might be best not to say anything at all. advice for next time
JayCee500 2
I'm the OP. I posted this after my last session with my therapist--I'd realized that this particular person wasn't working for me because I didn't really connect with her to an extent where I'd be able to tell her all my problems. This is the first time I'm seeking therapy, and from what people have said, it sometimes takes a while to find someone you are truly comfortable with. Just to be clear--I don't think that my particular problems are at all special, and they aren't even that bad when compared with half the shit people I know go through. It was just getting to the point where I was deliberately excluding things that had happened to me/that I felt because I considered them too "pathetic" to share. You can probably guess that one of my problems is that I care way too much about how other people perceive me.
princessofthedrk 13
That's not pathetic, hun. So many people feel that way! That's why there are eating disorders and suicides. I'm here to talk if you'd like. I'm not a therapist but I can totally relate.
Megpie1991 12
That's not pathetic at all. It took me 6 years and as many therapists before I finally found one that worked for me. Hang in there, you'll find someone you connect with and can open up to.
Dynosaur_dollie 38
I was involved in a fatal collision when I was 14 I didn't find someone I clicked with enough to really deal with my shit until I was about 19 and I went through about 9 different therapists. It takes some time, they are people too and you won't get along with every person you meet so it makes sense you won't click with every therapist either. Don't purposely withhold things like that though they can't help fix the problem if you don't even tell them the problem.
caggybandicoot 34
Don't compare your problems to other people's problems, otherwise you just end up keeping quiet. I hope you find someone you really click with. All the best :-)
frizz101 22
Your already better off than most people by going to a therapist, but it takes time. Ask your current therapist if she can help you find a new one, it takes time to find a therapist you feel comfortable with. Good luck OP.
cherrycokelove 8
I feel you hun. it takes time. don't make your pain any less by the way just cause others have it worse. it won't help the healing process. wish u all the best!
BMBBball31 15
I'm sorry, OP. I've talked to too many people with problems like that (in fact one of my closest friends used to starve and self harm and still cuts sometimes. I'm trying to get her to stop.) I hope you can find a therapist that you can connect with enough to share your problems. Don't be afraid to share. That's their job. Stay strong, Hun. You can make it through this. :)
ClumsyDude15 1
I'm so sorry you have to go to therapy in the first place, i hope it gets better for you.
communisttaco 16
Can someone tell me what OP actually means?
Kira1965 23
Original Poster. :)
christoph06 10
#93 thank you!