Today, after I felt bad for living off food stamps and government assistance so I could be home with my kids after their dad died, I decided to go to school and get a career to support them. Now that I’m working, I feel bad for not having much time to spend with them. I can’t win. FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, my kids and I starved during the holidays because of the incompetent case workers at the food stamp office. I was denied because according to them, I make $1200 a week of unemployment. They put what I make monthly as weekly on their end. Their apology? “Sorry, you have to apply again.” FML
Today, I was denied food stamp assistance. Apparently, you need to work 20 hours a week while being a full time student to qualify or have a work study. I was recently suspended from my work study for calling off because my aunt died, and if I worked 20 hours a week, why would I need food stamps? FML
Today, in order to barely survive, I have to work two jobs that kill all my time. As a kid and teenager, my parents were strict to the bone, and I was bullied by my peers. I’m 25, single all my life. I left home at 18, but I’ve had no choice but to live by other people’s rules my whole life. FML
Today, I realized that even though I was an honor student throughout school, and considered the golden child who was going to go far in life, all I've accomplished a year after graduation is becoming an unemployed single mother still living with my parents. FML
Today, I'd finally found a decent job after months of unemployment, I'd even got my kids into after-school care for my job. They'd told me they could handle my autistic son. I got them back at the end of the day today and they said not to bring them back. What the hell do I do now? FML
Today, I woke up and wished I hadn’t. I’m broke, tired, hungry and sick of my family, who is rich by the way, not even contributing a penny to help me from being evicted. Oh, and I lost my job last week. FML
Today, due to some serious health and financial issues, I literally have no choice but to have my mom watch my kids. She's turned my son into the most spoiled insufferable brat, I can’t stand it. Then I feel like I’m punishing him at home for what his grandmother enforces in hers. I don't know what to do. FML
Today, I'm in my late thirties, I quit my dream job to go back to school in hopes of providing a better future for my family. All my wife does anymore is bitch about how she has to support the family and do everything. I just found out that my grades aren't good enough to continue my college program. FML
Today, I had to spend all of my money on textbooks even though my refrigerator is empty. Starving and frustrated, I called home to ask for money for groceries. My mom told me I could afford to skip a few meals. FML
Today, my life is moving too fast. Just yesterday I was at college earning a small stipend, which felt like i could buy the world with. Suddenly, I'm married, with kids, and a house, and a negative balance the day after receiving my salary, just because my kids needed new shoes for school. How did I get here? FML
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maverick83 15
Don't feel guilty for taking government assistance. The system is rigged HARD in favor of the wealthy, and robs us all blind for their sake. If you can take back some of that to help you and your kids, by all means do it, and don't feel bad about it. That said, a good career, and the stability and security that come with it, will likely be better for all of you in the long run. If you're still in a position to, my advice would be to take the assistance for the time you need, to be there for your kids, but don't overdo it, and pursue the career once you feel you and your kids can handle the time apart it will entail. If you've already done that, that's okay too, just strive for a healthy balance between work and family. Don't beat yourself up for not being perfect, nobody is, just do your best. My condolences on losing your husband.
sirrubberduckie 37
Life is full of tradeoffs, but it sounds like you're doing the right things. They'll understand and appreciate what you've done for them someday.
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sirrubberduckie 37
Life is full of tradeoffs, but it sounds like you're doing the right things. They'll understand and appreciate what you've done for them someday.
maverick83 15
Don't feel guilty for taking government assistance. The system is rigged HARD in favor of the wealthy, and robs us all blind for their sake. If you can take back some of that to help you and your kids, by all means do it, and don't feel bad about it. That said, a good career, and the stability and security that come with it, will likely be better for all of you in the long run. If you're still in a position to, my advice would be to take the assistance for the time you need, to be there for your kids, but don't overdo it, and pursue the career once you feel you and your kids can handle the time apart it will entail. If you've already done that, that's okay too, just strive for a healthy balance between work and family. Don't beat yourself up for not being perfect, nobody is, just do your best. My condolences on losing your husband.
Brightside86 31
There are no solutions, only tradeoffs.
emmalou 19
never feel guilty for taking assistance. there's lots of people who don't need it and aren't citizens who get it. And you'll never win as a parent you'll always feel guilty for something just enjoy the moments and create those core memories your kids will appreciate how hard you worked in the future
Earl_KarmasBitch 36
Don't feel bad for using the safety net, that's what it's for. Now you're back on your own two feet you should instead feel proud that you're providing for your children and their future.