What is wrong with her?! I would have told her that this was a time to celebrate your mother's life and mourn the loss of it, not a time for her to indulge in her alcoholism. And then broken up with her. But that being said, I hope she is providing some sort of support to you if you guys are still together. I'm very sorry for your loss, OP.
knoxxx 22
I don't know what that has to do with my comment, but okay. Good for you for your family traditions.
@ZombieSnowWhite: It may have more to deal with how the person died versus the death itself. If a perfectly healthy family member was killed by a serial killer who stabbed said family member repeatedly in a gruesome murder situation, you can bet almost no one will be happy to be at that wake, mainly because of how quickly the wake was scheduled and the suddenness of it all.
ninjuh_wingman 29
Seriously? It's a wake not a party for people to get wasted.
112, tolerance is also not pushing your culture on others but to respect theirs...
Which is its not a place for bringing alcohol in the OP's and #14's culture...
#14 was just sympathizing with that, so have some tolerance eh? ;)
A wake is a gathering of friends and family that come together to support the grieving family of their loss, normally in the funeral home with the body but not always. So yeah, it's basically a viewing.
astralvagan 20
actually a good question. It is a gathering of friends and family, either before at the funeral home or afterwards at a family member's home. people sometimes bring food so the family doesn't have to worry about that for a little while...
I'm curious at to where she's from. In my part of the world (New Zealand and Australia), the actual funeral is a time for formality, sadness and mourning, and the wake is basically a massive party, alcohol included, as a celebration of the life of the deceased. I've never been to a funeral where that wasn't the case.
I live in America and a wake is the same as a viewing in which friends and family gather to support each other and mourn their loss in the presence of the deceased loved one.
astralvagan 20
it says they are from Mexico, and no Mexicans I know would be that disrespectful
It says they are in Mexico, which is not the same thing as being from Mexico. And as we've established in the comments, it's not necessarily disrespectful.
Celebration is for some other time...even though champagne is more for celebration...sorry OP...
Steve95401 49
It is common for Irish wakes to take place in a pub with the deceased propped up at the bar with a pint of beer in hand. Hoisting a cold one in memory of a loved one is a fine tribute.
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Stoodle 9
What the hell..
BillMurray_fml 12
Wow...sorry about your mom man.
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knoxxx 22
What is wrong with her?! I would have told her that this was a time to celebrate your mother's life and mourn the loss of it, not a time for her to indulge in her alcoholism. And then broken up with her. But that being said, I hope she is providing some sort of support to you if you guys are still together. I'm very sorry for your loss, OP.
knoxxx 22
I don't know what that has to do with my comment, but okay. Good for you for your family traditions.
amisenho 11
@ZombieSnowWhite: It may have more to deal with how the person died versus the death itself. If a perfectly healthy family member was killed by a serial killer who stabbed said family member repeatedly in a gruesome murder situation, you can bet almost no one will be happy to be at that wake, mainly because of how quickly the wake was scheduled and the suddenness of it all.
ninjuh_wingman 29
Seriously? It's a wake not a party for people to get wasted.
AngelSpit 18
clearly you've never been to an Irish wake. You drink and celebrate the person's life, not mourn their death. it's what I want when I die.
greeneyebeauty9 28
Either she's messed up in the head, or she has a really weird way of coping with sadness. Either way, it's still beyond ****** up.
diaspora_fml 26
Yes, your insular culture is the only one that exists in the universe. Tolerance is so very beyond "messed up."
Flowtastic 16
112, tolerance is also not pushing your culture on others but to respect theirs... Which is its not a place for bringing alcohol in the OP's and #14's culture... #14 was just sympathizing with that, so have some tolerance eh? ;)
bennyboy111 7
Wow come on alcohol is the cliche way of dealing with sadness!
gc327072 31
She should've brought pot! Everyone knows its "wake and bake", not "wake and inebriate". Tell her to get her shit together.
jburkes 12
Everyone mourns differently, dude. My girlfriend brought beer to my dad's funeral and my uncle gave her a hug for it.
cymax 6
What is a wake?
valalvax 13
I'm not 100% sure because my family doesn't do them but I'm pretty sure it is like a viewing (of a body)
jc10x 8
In my tradition, it's pretty much a celebration of life.
OptimusVader 23
A wake is a gathering of friends and family that come together to support the grieving family of their loss, normally in the funeral home with the body but not always. So yeah, it's basically a viewing.
astralvagan 20
actually a good question. It is a gathering of friends and family, either before at the funeral home or afterwards at a family member's home. people sometimes bring food so the family doesn't have to worry about that for a little while...
noobsatin 19
another reason to party it up. nothing like getting wasted at a wake.
FKJVMMP 17
I'm curious at to where she's from. In my part of the world (New Zealand and Australia), the actual funeral is a time for formality, sadness and mourning, and the wake is basically a massive party, alcohol included, as a celebration of the life of the deceased. I've never been to a funeral where that wasn't the case.
jennaraaawrxoxx 7
Agreed. I didn't see an issue with it at all. Guess it could be a cultural difference.
OptimusVader 23
I live in America and a wake is the same as a viewing in which friends and family gather to support each other and mourn their loss in the presence of the deceased loved one.
astralvagan 20
it says they are from Mexico, and no Mexicans I know would be that disrespectful
FKJVMMP 17
It says they are in Mexico, which is not the same thing as being from Mexico. And as we've established in the comments, it's not necessarily disrespectful.
worldclassrager 41
Celebration is for some other time...even though champagne is more for celebration...sorry OP...
Steve95401 49
It is common for Irish wakes to take place in a pub with the deceased propped up at the bar with a pint of beer in hand. Hoisting a cold one in memory of a loved one is a fine tribute.