Today, I briefly considered coming out to my parents when the topic of LGBTQ+ people came up in conversation, until my dad called them “socially deranged.” FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I came out to my parents as lesbian. Surprisingly, they were OK with it… just as long as I still marry a dude, give them grandbabies, and keep the whole lesbian thing a deep, dark, shameful secret that we never talk about again. FML
Today, I came out to my parents. They laughed in my face. FML
Today, I came out to my parents. They still think I'm joking. FML
Today, I came out to my parents. I don't really fit any stereotype, I'm just an average guy who happens to be into guys. Ten minutes later, I overheard my mother say to my step-dad, "Should we redecorate his room pink?" FML
Today, I came out of the closet. Now whenever I'm getting ready to go somewhere with my dad he says, "Lesgo, lesbo." FML
Today, I came out to my parents. My mom and dad think that I'm lying, just so I could "fit in" with everyone else. FML
Today, I came out to my therapist as gay. Claiming that my parents "can't be that homophobic", my therapist outed me to them. They kicked me out of the house. FML
Today, I came out to my parents and siblings as gay. They were very accepting and asked me why I waited until I was 25 to do so. I didn't have the heart to tell them it was their own homophobic remarks that kept me closeted since I realized it at 14, and that a previous coming-out to a parent was dismissed as 'a phase'. FML
Today, I finally got the courage to tell my parents that I'm gay. My mom said "Yeah, we know." When I asked how they knew, my dad, without looking up from the tv, said, "We've been monitoring your Internet history." FML
Today, I came out to my parents. Their response was basically, "Oh, you’re coming out? But we’ve known for years. It was obvious, so obvious we never knew you were in the closet in the first place." FML
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Laura-Marie Catmom 8
Only come out if your moved out or have somewhere safe to go, I came out and was raped to turn me straight, beaten and abused. Better to safely live a lie till you have alternative housing.
andrewgr 4
For what it's worth, I was brought up in a very homophobic home. I never thought about it, I just accepted it, and I know I made at least a few comments (not direct insults) in High School and when I got to college that I deeply regret. Then my best friend from high school needed to get drunk in order to have the courage to email me that he was gay, because he had heard at least one of those comments. A lifetime of being brought up in a homophobic household lasted approximately 10 seconds, at which point I was on the phone crying and apologizing and telling him it didn't matter. And that was the end of any homophobia for me. He was my best friend; I knew him. I knew that none of the things I had been taught to believe were true about him, so it was only a short, obvious step to conclude that they probably weren't true in general. I'd like to think that, at least in some cases, a parent would have the same experience: realizing that the assumptions they hold aren't true about their offspring, so the assumptions themselves are probably invalid. Of course, I know that this often isn't the case; I've read plenty of stories on reddit about people whose parents disowned them. My recollection is that in all of those cases (or maybe just almost all), it was religion that caused the extreme reaction. If your father's negative view of gay people isn't based on some deeply rooted religious belief, maybe he'll react better than you're imagining? I would be the last person on the planet to advise someone about the coming out process, but I did want to share my experience with you, since I doubt I'm the only person that's ever thought and reacted as I did.
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Laura-Marie Catmom 8
Only come out if your moved out or have somewhere safe to go, I came out and was raped to turn me straight, beaten and abused. Better to safely live a lie till you have alternative housing.
andrewgr 4
For what it's worth, I was brought up in a very homophobic home. I never thought about it, I just accepted it, and I know I made at least a few comments (not direct insults) in High School and when I got to college that I deeply regret. Then my best friend from high school needed to get drunk in order to have the courage to email me that he was gay, because he had heard at least one of those comments. A lifetime of being brought up in a homophobic household lasted approximately 10 seconds, at which point I was on the phone crying and apologizing and telling him it didn't matter. And that was the end of any homophobia for me. He was my best friend; I knew him. I knew that none of the things I had been taught to believe were true about him, so it was only a short, obvious step to conclude that they probably weren't true in general. I'd like to think that, at least in some cases, a parent would have the same experience: realizing that the assumptions they hold aren't true about their offspring, so the assumptions themselves are probably invalid. Of course, I know that this often isn't the case; I've read plenty of stories on reddit about people whose parents disowned them. My recollection is that in all of those cases (or maybe just almost all), it was religion that caused the extreme reaction. If your father's negative view of gay people isn't based on some deeply rooted religious belief, maybe he'll react better than you're imagining? I would be the last person on the planet to advise someone about the coming out process, but I did want to share my experience with you, since I doubt I'm the only person that's ever thought and reacted as I did.