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By Username - 23/03/2011 16:38 - United States

Today, my future mother-in-law informed me that since she is putting money into our wedding, that all the planning and arrangements are under her authority. FML
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biggary19 3

stand up to the bicth now unless u wanna hear her shit 4 the rest of ur life

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chosha_fml 26

Have a smaller wedding and tell her that you can't accept her help if it's conditional. This isn't the way to start a marriage, with her asserting her authority over your decisions.

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winnn_fml 0

its 2011! stop playing the ms Cinderella card, otherwise ydi

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cass85 8

Considering she's probably putting a fair amount, knowing how much even a venue is, then yeah, she deserves some input, not all the decisions but definitely input. I'd expect that if my parents of my partner's parents were contributing a sizeable amount. I highly doubt she means that she makes the all the choices, Its more along the lines that she wants to see her money spent appropriately and perhaps not on burlesque dancers as entertainment or a cake that costs three grand. You can either whinge and whine about a perfectly understandable arrangement OR you can pay for your own damn wedding and do it your way. Yeah I have sympathy with you in that we'd all want our wedding to be entirely our wedding but I don't think its unreasonable for anyone effectively paying from your "super-speshul" day to want to stay in the know and have the right to veto anything they believe is ridiculous. So yeah, you can sulk about it and whinge about it, you can accept her terms gracefully or you can plan a day that you can afford yourself.

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alexFYL 11

If she's just giving an amount of money, why can't they spend it on a super expensive cake and burlesque dancers? What if that's what they want? If she's giving money for specific things, that's a different thing and somewhat unacceptable. Another poster wrote about their MIL wanting to pay for chair covers and a gift table cloth, that's okay but if she demands to have certain centerpieces and bridesmaid dresses BECAUSE she's giving money, that's horrid.

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wytang 3

Shouldn't you pay for them? I mean she's not the one marrying, you are.

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heyred 11

Don't accept the money. Its just a wedding, which lasts a day. Your marriage will hopefully last a lifetime. Stand up to her now or YDI.

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underpaid011 0

sounds fair! her money her plans. assuming she is not just putting in a portion of the money and then making unreasonable demands that will increase the cost but not her contribution. you always have the courthouse option, or the go to Vegas and get married by an Elvis impersonator option you can hold over her head.

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fizzypop14 3

if op is a girl than fyl. If op is a guy then who cares?

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ChibiChibi_fml 27

If the OP is a guy, he would still have the right to care. It is the grooms day as much as it is the brides. Just because some brides are bossy, whiny, bitches who don't want to let their fiance have a say does not mean their fiance shouldn't have a say.

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reddwarf_fml 0

run....... that's all I can say....... run

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ohowe 1

Nip it. Nip it in the bud. Barnie knows best.

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