Erm, sorry to say, but that man has a right to have his desires fulfilled. You've been roommates for 10+ years....

First of all, no partner should ever require “permission” to watch ****. And secondly, masturbating is not a substitute for sex, or intimacy. The man needs more than you’re willing to give, let him go.

The only ungrateful asshole is you! Good for your now ex-husband for finally getting the courage to leave such an ungrateful wife! 🤣

Perhaps you have everything you want, but he clearly does not. Sometimes, two people simply aren't a good match, and that's ok. It's just time to admit it and go your separate ways.

Clearly, you don't have everything "we" can want, only everything you want. He wants an actual marriage and you've denied that to him, using the "everything we can want" as leverage to hold him hostage. Judging by the description you've provided, you haven't been listening to him for a long time, maybe ever, and this is his last resort. You "blew all this up" yourself.

You have only yourself to blame.

Permission? Wow, you are psycho and toxic. My ex-wife did the same for 20 years, but I put up with it anyway for stability and my vows. She left me anyway. YDI GFY.

No warm blooded person is happy with a cold fish 🤷

That’s aaaalll on you, sorry. I can’t believe he even lasted 10 years. First off, he doesn’t need your ******* permission to **********. Secondly, masturbation doesn’t replace an adult intimate relationship. Like, do you not understand relationships at ALL??? Sex isn’t just about “getting off”!! It’s emotional intimacy! I’d leave your ass too. He must be desperately lonely, poor guy.

I don’t think you’re going to win this one. A dry spell is a couple of months, maybe longer if there’s a medical issue or some serious life shit, but a decade? This should have been a conversation no later than six months.