By BoredandFrustrated - 10/04/2017 13:00 - United Kingdom - London
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I'd sit down with your husband and talk about it- in your shoes, I'd flat out refuse to do anything for her of that size favor, or a gift of that scale, ever again. I wouldn't want much if anything to do with her, really, because that type of attitude doesn't develop overnight. That could not be a non-option for you, OP, for whatever reason. If so, I'd still work out a way to limit contact with her to minimal because it sounds like she's not even trying.
AzrielB
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That seems like a huge overreaction. For one, if this was supposed to be a treat for her, why is it a problem that she left before the bill came? Why should be expected to put on a false face if her life is going poorly? Today, my son and daughter in law took me out to dinner as a treat. They then expected me to pay, got pissed at me for talking about my life troubles, then cut off contact with me. FML.
Because things going poorly doesn't entitle it to lose your damn manners. Someone buys you something? Especially With as a gift? You ******* say thank you. You DON'T ghost out on them, probably leaving them wondering if you are gonna come back for a few minutes. Talking about your problems is fine, but if you are being rude about it, or unpleasant, or asking for advice and then ignoring or arguing about it, THAT is not fine. Bad life or no, that doesn't mean she gets to make people around her miserable in order to feel better.
No, it isn't an overreaction. Her family took her out to treat her to a nice meal, and instead of being at least a little pleasant, she bitched the entire time, left without warning before the event was even over (that's what left before the bill means in this case, it doesn't mean they expected her to pay), and didn't express appreciation or even say goodbye, she just left without 1 word. That's downright shitty behaviour. I wouldn't tolerate that from a child, much less a full grown adult.
species4872
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Actually, that type of behavior can develop quite quickly as people approach old age. Simple, trivial things can become consuming to the exclusion of more rational thought. The uncertainty and fear of old age can become overwhelming for some to the extant where they become fixated on the simplest, inane things sometimes to the detriment of others. Given the amount of time that they have on hand as many of them have little to do and the fact that many of their friends are no longer around only compounds the situation.
Yep - species4872 makes a really good point. Personal experience with family drama has definitely proven this to be true. Sometimes it seems the claws come out for nothing at all.
TMO2142
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That is very rude. I feel bad for your husband.
At least you can enjoy some of the dinner at the end without her
Just as well, she probably would have whined about the check when it came. When you're around a kvetch, they can't leave soon enough.
species4872
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Was this unusual behavior on her part or was she just being herself?
Sounds like my mom. We confronted her about this kind of behavior (especially around my kid) and she went completely ape and blamed us for not bowing to her every whim. Being the husband for your kind of situation is embarrassing... hopefully yours has enough of a backbone to make shite like this stop.
At least now if she ever complains you never take her anywhere, you can tell her why.
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That is very rude. I feel bad for your husband.
I'd sit down with your husband and talk about it- in your shoes, I'd flat out refuse to do anything for her of that size favor, or a gift of that scale, ever again. I wouldn't want much if anything to do with her, really, because that type of attitude doesn't develop overnight. That could not be a non-option for you, OP, for whatever reason. If so, I'd still work out a way to limit contact with her to minimal because it sounds like she's not even trying.